In the workplace, have you been kidnapped by 'good student thinking'?

In the workplace, we often meet a person who is very capable, good at in-depth thinking, generally has high self-demand, and basically completes the things given to him to perfection. Because of deep thinking, when encountering problems that are difficult to solve, he will give up other possibilities and lead his thinking to a dead end. Because of the requirement for perfection, he will put the realization of self-worth at work at the top of the life sequence, and give up life and peace. Other interests and time outside of work, when the only spiritual support comes from work, their stress resistance is often poor, and the setbacks from work will double the blow to them. In this way, they will fall into the opposite direction. A vicious circle of self-demanding, sacrificing other time, and focusing on work. After staying in the workplace for a long time, you will find that this is not just a type of person, but a state that people in the workplace often encounter.

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Just like a good student who has fought hard from the exam-oriented education, he is devoted to study and exams. After taking the exam, his confidence is multiplied, and he feels that his life value has been realized. I have given up other joys in life, and the only thing I am pursuing seems to be betraying myself. Once I fall into such depression, it will be an abyss to move forward. Let’s call this state “good student thinking”. Investing 100% of your energy and time in the only thing, demanding perfection, may lead to great careers for a small number of people, while for For ordinary working people, the singleness of the spiritual pillar is full of crisis, because it is very likely that it will bring you into depression and you will not be able to extricate yourself. To tell you the truth, Xiaobian and I have been in such a state at present. It took a lot of effort, and I also asked many friends for help, and then I came out slowly. Of course, grievances should not be taken in vain. I have briefly summarized some methodologies, hoping to help you who are also deeply immersed in the thinking of good students.

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The first step is to face up to your discomfort in the workplace. I usually have a lot of nerves, and I don't care about the occasional discomfort at work, and I don't think about its causes and solutions. I always think that over time, these problems will no longer exist. However, the facts tell me that it does not disappear, but accumulates little by little, until you are overwhelmed and want to escape, you suddenly find that you have fallen into a quagmire with nowhere to go. Might as well try self-review, 5 minutes before going to bed every day, quickly go through the whole day's work in your mind, grab those points that make you uncomfortable, write it down with a pen or write it down on your phone, and ask a few more times Why, after finding the reason, think about what to do. I used to be very dissatisfied with the inefficiency caused by the company's system, but I just complained to my colleagues occasionally and it was over. In the end, I found that the inefficiency caused the work progress to be delayed again and again, and I always spent a lot of effort in useless work. Because I didn’t re-examine in time, I realized after trial and error that we needed to change the system from the source, so I communicated with my superiors about some methods, and finally solved some of the problems caused by inefficiency. Therefore, if you face up to your discomfort and review it in time, you can find a solution faster, thereby reducing negative emotions from work.

The second step, when you realize that your time is filled with work, consider diverting some of your energy to other things. I once had a colleague who went to the gym near the company at noon every day, rain or shine. I asked him how he persevered. He said that because there are too many overtime at work, he has almost no time for himself. If you exercise at noon, you will jump out of the office environment anyway, even if you don’t do anything in the gym, this paragraph Time can also be completely controlled by yourself, so that you will be very energetic throughout the day. At that time, I was thinking, I am so tired from work, why should I make my body tired too? But looking at his appearance, even if we have the same work intensity, his state is very stable and enviable. Therefore, proper dispersal of energy can really help us escape the control of our emotions by work. You must know that emotional stability is very beneficial to the development of people in the workplace.

In the third step, work continues as usual, but be prepared to leave at any time. Once people in the workplace become dependent and lazy in their existing jobs and give up the opportunity to advance by changing jobs, not only will they not get a considerable increase in salary, but they will also put themselves in a difficult situation with no choice. I used to be like this, I became very dependent on my current job, gave up learning and self-improvement, and every time I saw my colleagues around me encounter better opportunities and changed jobs for promotion, I could only stay where I was without any choice. At that time, a huge sense of anxiety began to trouble me, insomnia, panic, and depression for a time. Any negative energy can trigger an emotional collapse. And now, I cherish the state of coming out very much, prepare carefully, and wait for the opportunity to come.

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Everyone wants to be in control of their own life, and people in the workplace may be the least qualified to imagine controlling their work. But when we work so hard, don’t we just want to have more control over our lives? So let's start by getting rid of the student's mind and taking control of your emotions.