After the epidemic, what kind of life do you want to live?
At the moment when the epidemic is spreading, Daisy still has to nag a few words. As ordinary people, the best thing we should do is to try not to go out and reduce contact with the outside world.
If you have to go out, you should wear a mask, wash your hands and disinfect frequently, ventilate more and exercise more every day, improve your immunity, and manage yourself well, and society will slowly improve.
The world is full of uncertainty, and this epidemic is a more vigilant warning to us who have not been involved in the whirlpool. This pause button frees us from the hurried life and impetuous society, forcing us to calm down and think: In the face of this uncertain world, what is the most important thing for you?
Or think about it from another angle: After the epidemic, what kind of life do you want to live?
As "Alive" puts it:
"There is nothing happier than living, and nothing more difficult than living."
The 40 suggestions in this article today, I hope that the sooner you see it, the better, and the sooner you implement it, the better the effect. Use a limited time to reflect on yourself, correct your actions, build a firewall for the future, and enable yourself to deal with the ten thousand things of life. Change.
After the epidemic, what kind of life do you want to live?
Phoenix has been in the chicken coop for a long time and will forget how to fly. Like things cluster together, people are divided into groups, your achievements depend on the average of the 5 friends around you, whoever you make friends with will be whoever you are.
The words have a ruler, and the joke has a degree. Friends who are familiar with each other should not make fun of their elders, and do three things: don't reveal the shortcomings of others, don't laugh at other people's preferences, and don't take their mouths as humor.
If there is no firm agreement, it is a polite refusal. When asking someone for help, you need to hear other people's unspoken meanings, "can" and "can", one more word, more reluctance and helplessness. The best way to deal with being rejected is not to be difficult, not to ask questions, not to entangle, and to thank you politely.
The masters suppress the fire, and the weak vent their anger. It is instinct to vent emotions, and it is a skill to suppress emotions. A truly powerful person never uses emotion to deal with problems, nor does he punish himself for the fault of others. Remember the first basic principle of doing things: control your emotions first, then solve the problem.
If you think too much and do too little, you will be confused. It is useless to rely on "thinking", and everyone grows in "action". There are two ways to grow the fastest: reading a lot and making friends with great people. Recognize your own limitations and use these two methods to wildly expand your knowledge boundaries and horizons.
Investing money in yourself is the fastest way to grow. If the money is directly used for consumption, it will be gone when it is used up, which is no different from using disposable chopsticks. But if the money is used for investment and reproduction, it will get a greater return, such as: buying good books to read, taking paid courses, and taking various certifications.
Always be at least 30% mysterious. Get rid of the problem of being open-mouthed when you are a little close. The more you understand the sense of proportion, the more you have a sense of boundaries, and the more people respect you. Being neither humble nor arrogant, but not overly flattering, is the basic rule of adult social interaction.
Anyone can magnify shortcomings, and it is awesome to eliminate them. People who feel inferior will eventually become timid and inferior. How you think determines how you live. What you really need to do is to find your own shining points, learn from each other's strengths and make up for your weaknesses, and then work hard to fill in the shortcomings, and keep adding points to yourself.
People who work too hard can't run far, love too heavy will hurt people, greed too indulgent will hurt the body, public opinion too mindless will take time. People who can stop losses in time can often achieve better and lasting results than others.
Replace "Thank you" with "Thank you", "Did you understand" with "Did I make it clear", and "I can't" with "I can learn", so that communication highlights your right The respect of others, others can also feel that you are informed and reasonable.
After the epidemic, what kind of life do you want to live?
Learn to be grateful. In addition to thanking others, you must also give practical actions. For example, send a small red envelope, send a small gift, invite him to a meal, etc., with a small amount of RMB, to earn a lot of good popularity.
Before entering the society, focus on exercising IQ and EQ. Reading more and socializing more is the cheapest way to grow; after entering the workplace, focus on ability growth and career development, take more difficult jobs and learn more, this is the fastest way to clear customs.
Failure is not scary, and failure is only harmful if you do not reflect on it. Don't get caught up in the grief of career disappointment and social frustration. Reflect more on the wrong part of the incident: if you do it all over again, what can you do to reduce the probability of making mistakes and get twice the result with half the effort. Listing the reasons, summarizing experience, and proposing solutions are the confidence and basic conditions for winning the battle of turning over.
When you meet someone for the first time, write down his name and occupation. When you meet again, you will be pleasantly surprised if you can stop others cordially.
If you can write down your friend's birthday and give him a birthday wish at that time, the relationship between the two parties will skyrocket. Daisy has a habit of using name + birthday in WeChat notes, and setting reminders in the memo at the same time, double protection to remind herself, so that you will not forget it~
The correct order of lovers: love yourself > love parents > love friends > love boyfriend/girlfriend. Loving yourself is the premise of being loved. The more you take someone too seriously, the more you will be hurt. When you don't take someone seriously, others will not hurt you at all.
The most senior and best people in the circle, whether you like it or hate it, are worth learning. Being in the same environment will absorb the nutrients in the same petri dish, and being able to stand out in the circle is often not an ordinary person. Think about the difference between you, take the essence, get rid of the dross, over time, you will be stronger than him.
Say bad things to your face, and say good things behind your back.
Never speak ill of others behind their backs, never underestimate the speed at which rumors spread, and after the final version has been spiced up, you yourself have forgotten what dish it was originally with. It is better to analyze the objective facts more and less about subjective motives. When there is a conflict with others, it is good to focus on the facts, point out the defects of the matter and propose improvement methods.
In the same way, if you want others to have a good impression of you, compliment others behind your back. How you view the perspective of someone who is not present determines how others view you. When you praise others for being warm and kind, the other party will greatly increase your favorability.
After the epidemic, what kind of life do you want to live?
Do not spread negative energy and stay away from "garbage people". No one likes to be a trash can to absorb other people's garbage emotions, don't be a garbage maker, and don't be a garbage reception station, and your life will be more positive.
Learn to agree before you disagree. Communication between people is 70% emotion and 30% content. Negating others from the beginning will push them to the opposite side, and the other party will be vigilant and will not listen to opinions. Approve the other party before denying it, so that the other party feels the value of recognition, and then is willing to do better.
The essence of social interaction is value exchange. The attitude of others towards you depends on your usefulness to others. If you want others to look down on you, think more about how useful you are to others.
No one wants you to be better off than your parents, except your parents. Others don't want you to be too bad, but they also don't want you to be too good. Everyone has a mentality of comparison. Never show off your achievements. Be careful to hate your upper body.
When you are the most angry, hold back the most hurtful words. The angry words are extremely vicious and mean, which will make the other party feel knotted. When you lose your temper, calm down for 30 seconds before speaking, or you will cause irreparable damage.
When others laugh at themselves, don't step on them. Other people's self-deprecating content is not for you to laugh at. If you take it seriously, the atmosphere will be awkward at light, and the other party will hate you at worst. Instead, we should give some positive feedback and compliment each other, so that not only can chat live, but also make her become confident and happy.
When you encounter a troll, don't argue. When necessary, agree with all his views and train him to be a fool. After all, to deal with rogues, you still have to use rogue methods.
In terms of clothing, expressions, posture, etiquette, etc., keep clean and tidy, and leave a good first impression. A good first impression can facilitate 80% of things in your social life. You must know that people tend to pay attention to the needs of the people they like.
Mass blessings save time but hurt feelings. The starting point of blessings is good, and others will only feel perfunctory and neglected when they receive them. If you want a good response, either add someone else's name, or only wish your friends around you.
When giving gifts, buy gifts that others like or need recently.
When chatting normally, we often find out the hidden needs of the other party. Daisy had casually told her friend that she wanted to buy a Polaroid, and her friend gave it to her on her birthday. She was very surprised. She felt the love and surprise of the attention, and she was very happy. People with ordinary relationships can also send a small red envelope, a small gift or a text blessing.
After the epidemic, what kind of life do you want to live?
Don't speak if you can type. Voice is convenient for expressors, but troublesome for readers. For the same message, the text can be read in a few seconds, and the voice is stinky and time-consuming. Except for the people close to you, it is very rude not to make a voice.
Use favors sparingly. Things and money can be clearly priced, but not human relationships. Favors are more difficult to pay than money, and a life of indiscriminate use of human favors will be like a bottomless pit that can’t be filled no matter what. Therefore, things that can be solved with money should never be solved with human affection.
Be cautious about joining small groups. Whether students or professionals, there are small gangs with opposite positions. Try not to get involved in this muddy water. It is easy to join and difficult to quit. Once you get involved, you will be isolated and helpless.
Don't mess with other people's things without consent. When someone kindly shares your mobile phone photos with you, don’t be cheap and swipe down one. If you want to see it, you should also ask for it. You must have a sense of “sovereignty”.
Be honest. You can't even make love, let alone ordinary feelings. If you want to take the initiative to say it, the same is true if you don’t want it. Don’t pretend to be true or false. Others don’t have time to guess riddles with you.
Getting things done and getting things done are two different things. The difference in one word determines your cognitive level. The former is perfunctory towards others, while the latter is responsible for yourself, correcting the mentality of "almost got it", making more demands on yourself, and you will have more choices in life.
I often do a lot of work, but I don't help those who have to stand on tiptoe. If you can help things within your ability, you can help, and if you don't help, you must immediately show your attitude. A request that is beyond the scope of your ability, boldly refuses, and if you fail to do anything, it offends people more than a generous refusal. Don't live as a good person, work hard and suffer losses, no one will give you awards, you will only take it for granted.
Young people should plan their own "fitness" and "desire" management plans. The former allows you to have stronger perseverance and vitality to work better and enjoy life; the latter allows you to not destroy the body that you will use for a lifetime due to temporary pleasure.
After the epidemic, what kind of life do you want to live?
Don't repeat what you did wrong. Do not quibble or shirk, admit mistakes immediately, bear the consequences, and minimize the cost of making mistakes. Having the courage to admit mistakes is the best way to gain trust again.
Use "good" instead of "expensive". It's easy to go from frugality to luxury, but it's hard to go from extravagance to frugality. Don't have material comparisons, and being decent beyond your ability will make you funny like a clown. In the same way, don't use too cheap, it will make you look cheap, choose the right one, and then you can build a personal image brand.
Whether it is items or contacts, you must maintain the same level of front as yourself, and constantly improve this level, use strength with ambition, and become a genuine person.
The things that need to make a good impression are either first or last. People are most impressed by what starts first and ends last, so in interviews, presentations, talent shows and other activities, learn to be smart and either be the first or the last to make a good impression.
Facing the problems and pains you want to avoid is the fastest way to progress.
The more glassy you are, the more awkward you will be in doing things, the more awkward you will be, the more outstanding you will be. The negative impact of fear of failure is far greater than failure itself, the former hinders action, the latter gives direction to action. Believe that when you're having a hard time, you're going uphill.
- If you want to surpass 90% of your peers, you must insist on three things:
Stop ineffective social networking and turn off recreational software.
Continue to delve deeper into the field you love.
Be cautious, be cautious, be careful in words, and be careful in deeds.
After the epidemic, what kind of life do you want to live?
The above 40 growth guides are all the experiences that Daisy has summed up from the detours and losses she has taken. I hope to inspire everyone.
Some people say that the start of 2020 is doomed to be a bad year.
I don't agree with this statement.
Year is just a number that divides time. How each year goes by has nothing to do with time, which is always flowing.
People are the manipulators behind life.
In the same way, knowing a lot of truth is only a prerequisite. It is your choices and actions that determine whether you can live a good life.
To see the essence of things through things, not to give up learning for long-term growth because of temporary pleasure, to judge one's own value without external voices, and to constantly shape and cultivate inner qualities, so that one can keep iterating and upgrading while others are still standing still.
All the effortlessness comes from the hard work behind it.
mutual encouragement.