After the final exam, the child said that he did not pass the exam, and the parents with high emotional intelligence did so
The final exam is a "magic" that all students cannot escape. On the one hand, the children are looking forward to the early winter vacation; on the other hand, before the winter vacation, they need to go through the "can't escape" final exam. The results of the final exam will determine the "status" of the student at home during the winter vacation, and also determine how much money the child can get for the new year.
Not only students care about final exams, but parents also care about final exams, because final exams are a test of their children's learning in a semester. After the results come out, the first thing parents say to their children must be: "How did you do in the test?" At this time, if the child does well in the test, it is "all the best"; It's heavier. As a parent, I think everyone will encounter this kind of situation, so what should we do better when we encounter this kind of situation?
- It can be punished, but never beating or scolding
Some parents just hear "I didn't do well in the test", and before the child finishes speaking, they start to scold, "Let you know how to play if you don't work hard", "Why are you so stupid, so unsatisfactory"... all kinds of scolding, saying some depressing words, and some even hitting the children, "two-person slaps", this way of beating and scolding is absolutely not allowed. This unsatisfactory way of beating and scolding will only make the child more frustrated and undermine the child's self-confidence.
Punishment can be given if the child does not do well in the exam, but the punishment must not be punished for the sake of punishment, but to allow the child to learn from this mistake and learn better in the future. It's just that this punishment must be scientific. For example, before the exam, you can make an agreement about what will happen if you pass the test and what will happen if you fail the test. You can implement it; or you can punish the child to study for half an hour more every day during the winter vacation...
- Accompany the child to analyze the grades and self-reflection
After many students fail the exam, they are just sad, and then respond by "crying". After two days passed, this emotion was basically over, and the exam was over. If this is the case, it can be said that the next test may still be bad, because after this test, there is no serious analysis of the reasons, no reflection, but only "tears" to face failure, and many times, tears It doesn't work at all.
Therefore, as a parent, you must accompany your child to analyze the reasons. Did you fail the exam, did you fail the exam, did you really not know how to do it, or was it too sloppy and wrong? Which subject did you miss? Why did not pass the test, is it because of knowledge or because of habit? These all need to be reflected on one by one. If conditions permit, you can also find a teacher and analyze it together with the teacher. If you can find the reason, and you can "eat a cut to grow a wisdom", then mistakes are not terrible, after all, "failure is the mother of success".
- Accompany your child to develop new plans and goals
After analysis and reflection, all that needs to be done is to formulate new plans and goals. Of course, the plans here include not only the study plan for the winter vacation, but also the study plan for the next semester. Learning is like this, you must take it one step at a time. After a semester is over, no matter how good or bad you are in the test, you can sum up your experience from it, and then draw up new plans and goals, and then welcome a new semester. However, many children cannot understand this process, especially primary school students. At this time, parents need to lead their children to go through this process.