The teacher tells you, 'The child is very smart, but he doesn't study hard', what does it mean?
Some people think that this sentence is one of the biggest lies in Chinese education. The author believes that if it is a lie, it is also a white lie. So what does this sentence mean?
The child's grades are really bad. There is no child who really doesn't want to study, even if the child himself says so. All children have the desire to surpass themselves and gain a sense of achievement in learning, but due to various reasons, not every child can get their own satisfactory results. If the grades are excellent, the teacher must praise them, so the teacher just used this sentence to euphemistically convey the fact that the child's grades are not good.
This art of speaking can effectively avoid conflicts between home and school and ease the parent-child relationship. Both teachers and parents care about their children's grades and want their children to develop well. Because it is important, it cares. In the face of a child's unbearable grades, if the teacher bluntly and rashly tells the parents, such as "the child is stupid", "the child is bad" and other words, it may anger the parents and cause conflicts, so the teacher uses these words to convey the child's The fact that the grades are not good also lets parents know that if their children work hard, their grades can still improve. When some parents learn about the situation, they may also take anger on their children, give parents some hope, and can effectively ease the parent-child relationship.
- This statement can also let the child see the hope of improving his grades and stimulate his self-motivation. Children are still young, their future is full of uncertainty, and the future is boundless. It is really not only encouragement, but also extremely malleable. No one dares to jump to conclusions about what will happen in the future. In this case, be especially careful not to use conclusive language to evaluate a child, such as "you're stupid" and "no promise". Give him more encouragement (of course, unprincipled, especially rash encouragement and appreciation will not play a role in promoting development, and I will explain it another day). In this case, the child will feel that he is actually very smart, but he is not working hard enough. So in order to prove yourself, you may also start to work hard. And diligence can make up for one's weakness, and after hard work, the results will definitely improve. If teachers and parents can seize the signs, affirm and guide in time, children will easily be on the right track and start the road of self-improvement.
Therefore, if you hear the phrase "the child is very smart, but he doesn't study well", don't be too sad. First, you may meet a good teacher who is considerate of parents and students. Second, you may use this opportunity to promote your child's learning. . If you didn't hear it, your child may have been excellent.