In the Mesozoic generation in the workplace, with the company of a wife and children, is it a driving force or a burden?

01 Preface

In a few years, I will be forty. As a post-80s generation, I have taken half of my life journey and half of my career journey. Before the age of 40, I want to share with you the personal experience of myself or my relatives and friends who have worked for more than ten years, not only to leave a memory for my life, but also to let more people think about it after seeing it. If it helps your life and saves you from detours, the things I wrote will be of value.

In the Mesozoic generation in the workplace, with the company of a wife and children, is it a driving force or a burden?

02 Come on, my dearest relatives, with you, I will not be tired

After 5-10 years of surviving in the workplace, we are slowly entering our thirties, we have a family of our own, and our work ability has been gradually improved. With the continuous increase of workplace experience, work occupies more and more personal time, and family also occupies a large part of personal time, so in the Mesozoic era of the workplace, facing the dual pressure of work and family, we are often forced to 's helpless. Then, in the Mesozoic generation of the workplace, is family your driving force, or a burden and pressure...

In the Mesozoic generation in the workplace, with the company of a wife and children, is it a driving force or a burden?

The following is an inner monologue written by a man who has just entered the workplace of the Mesozoic Generation. Although he is very tired, he does not feel tired in his heart:

Working for seven years

been busy

been struggling

been crowded

want to write something

I've been through too much

happy and sad

happy, happy

trouble, trouble

anyhow

Family life is not as simple as you imagine

The time that used to belong to two people was squeezed to the ground

we have a lovely little princess

very happy very happy

We went through a lot of hardships for her

Every time I picked up the pen before, I wanted to write something for my baby

Halfway through writing, I was directed to do other things

i never understood

Why do you have less time for yourself after returning to the office?

Work is busier, life is more complicated

Maybe I can never find the purity that belongs to me

I've always been naive and hoped that the baby would grow up a bit and we could still have time for the two of us

Later, as time passed, I gradually realized

I should never go back to the simplicity it used to be

because we are parents

I have to accept my new identity

and re-plan my life

Because my little Xuanxuan has become an integral part of my life

Want to say a few words to my dear baby princess

From the day you found out your mother was pregnant

Our lives began to change little by little

The day I knew I was going to be a dad

Excited and a little nervous

Maybe a little bit overwhelmed by who I am

From now on, a family starts to revolve around you

Your little change can turn the whole family upside down

Mommy feels every little bit of your changes carefully and sensitively every day

Daddy saddles up for you and your mom's logistics

Grandma is in a hurry every day to learn cooking for you and your mother's body

Grandma is also busy preparing daily necessities for your birth

The whole family is filled with happiness and tension for your arrival

So, Xiao Xuanxuan

i want to tell you

How much we love you!

Mom once lived in a rental house near the company for your safety and health.

Grandparents study hard for your arrival like a child every day,

Grandma and grandpa are also worried about your mother and you.

And what about your dad's daily state?

It's just your mother and you in my world,

Every day I am happy or sad for your little bit,

Because you and your mom became dad's whole world.

When you were four months old when we knew you were a single navel baby,

Our first simple happiness is suddenly disturbed;

Check back two weeks later.

When you are examined and found to have a shadow of fluid in your heart,

We suddenly feel that the whole world is about to collapse;

We have traveled all over Beijing's top experts and private hospitals for you,

We worked hard to line up for seven or eight hours, but in exchange for an expert

Please be prepared for the worst!

Our world has completely collapsed,

We blame ourselves and quarrel every day for not taking good care of you,

till the end

we make up our minds

No matter whether you are sick or not, we must insist on giving birth to you!

finally

Maybe our love for you touched God,

Check your pericardial effusion at five months and suddenly disappear,

You are as safe and healthy as the other children.

Our hearts that have been hanging for a long time have finally been relieved.

Our family is filled with joy and happiness again,

We must cherish this hard-won happiness

Always love you and hold you in the palm of your hand!

Days go by,

Your mother's belly is getting bigger every day,

Mom has been supported by you to the point where your back is sore and can't walk,

But she still insists on taking you to climb the stairs to exercise every day

Because no matter how painful her body is

Her heart is always full of happiness!

February 2, 2015

After your parents tossed 3 times for you to go home after being hospitalized,

You were finally born smoothly.

Mom gave birth to you in just over 20 minutes,

We waited anxiously for two hours in front of the delivery room

I finally saw the lovely you

And your mother with a smile on her face

You are so petite and so cute

Your mother is so brave and so great

Our family is even warmer because of your arrival!

Now, my little Xuanxuan

you are more than eight months old

Your grandparents brought you from birth to four months old

You have grown from a 6-pound baby to a little girl

Grandma and grandpa saw you from five months old to now

You have slowly learned to sit and crawl

this way

I went from a sunny boy to a super dad

Mom went from happy girl to neurotic mom

All for your happiness and health

Your joys and sorrows eat and drink

It touches every nerve of your mother

And I am too busy to take care of you, this little angel, every day!

you are our little devil

Because your first cold, first diarrhea, every time you drink milk powder

Parents will be arguing upside down;

you are our little angel

As long as you smile and talk to us,

Our world is full of sunshine.

Now Xiao Xuanxuan, you are growing up

Parents have also learned a little bit to take responsibility on their shoulders

Be a competent parent

i want to tell you

healthy growth

happy life

Be filial to your parents, grandparents, grandparents

We all love you very much!