I suddenly found out that my boss is not as optimistic about me as it seems, is my efforts actually a joke?

01 Preface

In a few years, I will be forty. As a post-80s generation, I have taken half of my life journey and half of my career journey. Before the age of 40, I want to share with you the personal experience of myself or my relatives and friends who have worked for more than ten years, not only to leave a memory for my life, but also to let more people think about it after seeing it. If it helps your life and saves you from detours, the things I wrote will be of value.

I suddenly found out that my boss is not as optimistic about me as it seems, is my efforts actually a joke?

02I have been working hard all the time, but I found that the leader I trusted for a long time is not as optimistic about me as it seems, what should I do? ‍

What I want to tell you today is the scenario that many people encounter in the workplace: Many people have been actively working hard in the workplace, but they find that the leaders I have trusted for a long time are not as optimistic about themselves as they appear. What should I do? If I failed the leader I trust, is it worth my continued hard work? The following is the mental journey of a classmate who has been working silently in the workplace for many years after discovering that he was deceived by the leader, and was temporarily frustrated, uncomfortable, grieved, depressed, and painful until he collapsed:

A very strange thing happened today that I will never forget: my leader has promoted everyone in our department (except me), but not me? And before the transfer, he swore to fool me that he wanted to transfer me, but the senior management was not satisfied. However, behind the scenes, everyone else was quietly promoted. It made me very embarrassed for a while, and suddenly I remembered the past. My leaders have never trained me or even criticized me. Instead, they usually treat me with a pleasant attitude and often praise me for my hard work and diligence. As a result, I once thought that the leaders were very optimistic about me, but I didn't expect that when I really promoted people, the leaders just let me down......

It's really hard to understand if I don't understand. Why does my understanding always deviate from reality after work?

I think that the leader is satisfied with my approval every day, but in fact the leader's admiration for me is only superficial. Why did the leaders bury so much dissatisfaction with me in their hearts.

He believes that he has performed particularly well in the entire department of the company, and is deeply liked by the leaders. In fact, all I see is just a little bit.

What are the leaders dissatisfied with me? I still can't figure it out. Why has everyone around me been promoted, but it is embarrassing to keep me now.

Really depressed, very painful, very helpless. I'm even berating myself for self-reflection. I am deeply doubting what I have done that does not satisfy the leaders?

I am doubting myself for so many years of hard work and conscientious attitude?

I even suspect that what I see and see is an illusion. It turns out that the leaders I see every day are all giggling and giving me officialdom.

It turned out that I was so unbearable in his heart. Even people who are usually obscure are not comparable.

Oops, I really see life through. Every day effort is not rewarded, and every day struggle is not recognized. Those who think they look down on them instead rise all the way, and those who think they work silently are helpless.

This is the helplessness of the officialdom of the central enterprise organs. This is a dignified state-owned enterprise, which I really disdain.

Really paid so much for you why? I'm really emptying myself out.

I was dizzy all day today. My brain is in a mess, and I am really asking the heavens. Why is my professional life so bumpy?

What about the strengths and brilliance I had when I was studying before I entered the society? Where have they all gone?

Is it that I shouldn't be struggling in this world at all?

Should I really let go of myself, indulge myself, give up on myself completely?

Really tired of the dark corners of the officialdom, tired of the ordinary intrigue, tired of this hateful and complicated society, tired of this central enterprise, the enterprise I have worked for for 12 years, is so cruel to me.

I'm tired, I'm really tired, I'm tired...  

I suddenly found out that my boss is not as optimistic about me as it seems, is my efforts actually a joke?

03

The frustration and pain of the above workplace people are often encountered by us adults. But as you get older, after working for more than ten years, you will still be toyed with applause by the so-called leaders at the top of the central enterprises, who are amiable and amiable to you on the surface, but cruel and bloody behind your back.

But how, this is the workplace, this is society, this is life, as long as we survive in the social workplace, we will encounter this kind of "unfair" treatment! Some people may encounter few setbacks and walk relatively smoothly; some people have a bumpy career path and go all the way with twists and turns. But as long as we survive in human society, we will face some difficulties of this kind.

Many people say that when encountering various problems, first think about yourself, what is wrong with your work or not satisfied with your boss.

But I want to add that not all problems are our own faults. We don't need to blame and reflect on ourselves blindly. We must recognize the facts and analyze the phenomenon. Some things are clearly the problem of the boss, unfair treatment, and obstacles to our growth due to various reasons such as affection, why should we embarrass ourselves, who are already very wronged?

I suddenly found out that my boss is not as optimistic about me as it seems, is my efforts actually a joke?

Here I would like to say a word of encouragement to myself who is not very smooth in the workplace: Brother, you have worked hard, don’t worry, life is still ordinary day by day, life is as sunny and bright as always, no matter whether the leader is worthy of our trust, but whether the boss is not. It is worthy of our entrustment, and we cannot give up on ourselves in a fit of anger. We must firmly believe that your efforts are not just for promotion and salary increase, but for the responsibility on our own shoulders, as well as a bright future!