Busy and tired at work, you have to swallow your breath. When you come home physically and mentally exhausted, you can only use your husband to vent your anger?

foreword

In a few years, I will be forty. As a post-80s generation, I have taken half of my life journey and half of my career journey. Before the age of 40, I want to share with you the personal experience of myself or my relatives and friends who have worked for more than ten years, not only to leave a memory for my life, but also to let more people think about it after seeing it. If it helps your life and saves you from detours, the things I wrote will be of value.

Busy and tired at work, you have to swallow your breath. When you come home physically and mentally exhausted, you can only use your husband to vent your anger?

——My work life (4) #gender##workplace#

This is the normal state of our work life in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou. After working in 996 for a whole day, I had to watch the words and swallow my words. I finally got home after taking the subway for two hours. Husband, I don't get angry. I accidentally vented to him the emotions that I had accumulated at work for a long time, but what I didn't expect was that my husband is not a soft persimmon. , so a "war of the century" broke out easily, and both sides lost...

Busy and tired at work, you have to swallow your breath. When you come home physically and mentally exhausted, you can only use your husband to vent your anger?

The following is the weekend diary of one of our little S classmates, let's take a look first:

Today is Sunday

I worked an extra day yesterday Saturday

I am very tired from work during the day, many department contacts are looking for me

I feel too busy to breathe

I can only swallow my voice and communicate with everyone with a smile on my face.

I was dragged to a dinner party at night

Don't drive home until 11:00

Working too hard day by day

Emotions have already collapsed, but there is nowhere to complain

Looking forward to going home early and having a good sleep

But when I get home at night

Seeing that my husband is still laughing and enjoying the entertainment program

When I came back, I just glanced at me and didn't care

Rage increased to 20%

Just take a shower and go to bed

But the nasty alarm clock woke me up at six o'clock the next morning

That unfortunate husband doesn't press too hard.

Rage increased to 40%

get dressed in the morning

Found my husband's clothes littering the closet door

Rage increased to 60%

Finally, my husband got acquainted and made the porridge and dry food.

But I still have to cook vegetables (anger value increased to 80%)

Watching him wash the dishes early in the morning didn't make a mistake

At noon, I will show off my skills and cook a dish that I like.

But during the cooking process, my husband always asks him to come over to help

Finally finished cooking, he also actively came to serve the meal

But my sense of accomplishment in cooking is not praised

Rage is barely 100%

Hey, there just happened to be a trash can on the ground. My husband just threw an unsorted garbage into it.

I can just vent to him.

Speak softly to him

"Why don't you listen to what you say every day? Who told you to put the garbage here, I just cleaned it up in the morning"

Unexpectedly, my husband is not an amateur and immediately fights back

Say I'm fine and piss him off

He is cautious every day, afraid that I will get angry

But I'm still finding fault

And so the battle of the century began

We haven't eaten the meal we just made...

But I found out that this is not the first time,

Because every time I finish my meal, I ask my husband to say a few words to him.

I think I'm quite mild-mannered

But he always thinks I have a bad attitude

Immediately, I set it on fire

What exactly should I do?

Busy and tired at work, you have to swallow your breath. When you come home physically and mentally exhausted, you can only use your husband to vent your anger?

Working in a big city can be stressful for everyone. Emotions at work are really depressing, so if both husband and wife have bad personalities, it must be easy for both parties to find something from each other to talk about. However, everyone has been working in the workplace for a day or a week, and their emotions have already accumulated to the point of explosion, and it is easy for anyone to ignite. We often hear this saying: We always leave our best emotions to others, and vent our worst temper to our closest ones. In fact, there is something to add. We always pay too much attention to our own mood, and often ignore the feelings of our partners. When we are in a bad mood, how is the other party’s mood? I am tired and tired of my own work. Is the work of the other party easy and simple? Even if my partner has a relaxed job and is in a good mood, should we pass on our emotions to him and let him share weal and woe with me, so that I can be psychologically balanced...  

Life is not easy, we will definitely encounter all kinds of troubles and setbacks outside, but what we need to do is not to let our relatives be a punching bag. Instead, we should regard our relatives as our warmest harbor, and turn our negative energy into positive energy through love and affection, so that we can live happily!