When did you find that the gap between people is getting bigger and bigger, and finally can't be bridged?
- The gap between schools and schools is actually in people
That year, when I was in the third year of my junior year, I was unwilling to see my senior and senior sister working hard to find a job. I didn’t want to be so picky when I graduated, doing these kinds of jobs that I didn’t like; but, why should I choose me for a good job?
I couldn't figure out this question, so I chose the postgraduate entrance examination and went to 985 from the city's key book.
In the first year of school, I watched my brothers and sisters looking for jobs. Although they worked hard and worked hard, they felt very ambitious and energetic. I felt that my choice might be right.
Later, I discovered that the gap between schools and schools is actually all in people.
There used to be lectures, if there was no credit reward, many people were too lazy to move;
There are not a few people who stay in bed and skip classes in the dormitory;
The most discussed topic every day, as long as it's not studying, anything is fine.
Later, the lecture became a place to compete. No matter how well the sharer speaks, there are people below who can ask questions or discuss;
The dormitory has become a "hotel", and it is rarely full of people outside the lights.
At that time, one of my high school classmates was also admitted to Sun Yat-Sen University and was studying for a Ph.D. It's "Is the paper finished?".
So, what is the difference between people?
I think it is what the copper mining teacher mentioned in "Jingjin":
A young person who enters a not-so-excellent university will involuntarily lower his own standards to adapt to this environment and reduce the conflict between himself and the environment, and this approach may be fatal to their life.
If you can, you must work harder, so that you can go to a better university in the best possible conditions.
When did you find that the gap between people is getting bigger and bigger, and finally can't be bridged?
- Education may be the bottom line of ability
Later, when I entered the workplace, I thought that the role of education, the stepping stone, had completed its mission.
However, neither is it.
Schools give you not only academic qualifications, but the bottom line of your ability.
Some people discuss on the Internet: Which is more important, education or ability?
In fact, I don't think the two should be compared at all. Because "educational education" is one of the results of ability.
Because of the cooperative relationship between the company and the university, we receive a large number of interns every year. Hundreds of people come and go. After a long time, from the first day of contact, we can basically judge whether this person can stay or not. .
for example:
The workplace attaches great importance to "solving problems". If "problems cannot be solved", at least they must be able to "timely seek help" and "timely feedback".
A simple meeting for the intern to check out the equipment and meeting room materials.
The first class of students went directly, and according to their previous habits, turned on the computer, put on the chair, and cleaned up the desktop carefully;
There is also a class of students who will ask: Is there anything that needs special attention? Then follow the prompts to prepare, and even turn on the air conditioner in advance, put a pot of water and a set of cups, and come back to tell you when you’re done.
Ask in advance, this action seems simple, but it is very important, which means that in addition to knowing what to do, he also knows why he does it.
Such people will learn things very quickly, basically relying on "suggestions" rather than teaching them by hand.
Therefore, they will also be very likable, and after such a positive interaction, it is difficult to think of progress.
This is their performance during the internship period, but conversely, it is speculated that habits determine character, and character determines fate. Do you think that people with such habits will not be too bad at learning?
When did you find that the gap between people is getting bigger and bigger, and finally can't be bridged?
Another example: punctuality.
If something happens, it is really delayed or late, a group of people will say: No way, the road is really stuck in traffic; or "No way, what happened suddenly when I went out."
But there is another type of person who will issue a notice in time when he expects to be late, explaining the special circumstances and the time when he may be late. Even ask: I can use my phone now, is there anything I can do now?
In comparison, do you think the latter is more reliable?
Behind a detail, it actually reflects a lot. It can be seen whether this person has a global thinking, whether he has a sense of responsibility, whether he is making excuses for his behavior, and so on.
"Being late" means "there is no way", then if things go wrong in the future, is it also "there is no way"?
When did you find that the gap between people is getting bigger and bigger, and finally can't be bridged?
- The high standard you think may be just the passing line
To see the big from the small, it is not the academic qualifications nor the ability, but the way of thinking of the person facing the problem.
It is a very passive way of thinking that "no one knows, I will not be normal" or "no one told me about this, I don't know". Society is not a school, and you don't pay anyone teaching fees.
Many people say that the harder you work, the luckier you get.
It's not because only those who work hard can get the favor of the goddess of luck, but these people who work hard are never satisfied with their current level. There are still higher mountains in front of them.
I like the title of a book very much. It is called "From Good to Great" in Chinese and "From good to great" in English.
Where did the human-to-human gap begin? That's how it started.
In the beginning, most people are excellent, but you choose to keep? Or lower? In order to integrate into a group? Or choose to "become great", to compare with truly great people, and move closer to them?
There is a sentence in "New Oriental Spirit":
"You have to ask yourself to be a good person, keep walking among the good people, and narrow the distance between the good people. When you feel that you can become one of them, you can become a real good person."
Either reading a few pages of books after get off work is progressing;
It's not that the ability to learn the card will improve after a few days of playing.
There is a saying that is quite poignant: those "high standards" you think may not even reach the passing line of others.
So I advise you to try to get into big business. After entering the society, I have to follow the powerful people, and I have to give it a try.
- Write at the end
It is said that "habit determines character, character determines destiny", we can also say "attitude determines behavior, behavior determines result", and the gradual accumulation of results changes the gap between people.
Don't make excuses to give up easily, and don't give up just because of temporary comfort. Go to a better school and a better business whenever possible.