Three principles that make you lovable in the workplace, see how many you have

In fact, the reason for being liked by others is often the same as why we like someone, so just ask yourself, you can know some answers.

In the workplace, we like someone for three reasons:

First, the other person makes me feel good about myself;

Second, the other party and I can resonate emotionally, that is, they can understand me;

Third, the other party itself makes me admire and respect.

From this perspective, if you want to make yourself more popular, you can also start from these three points. I've compiled some useful tips that will make it easier for you to understand these principles, so you don't get stuck.

1. Provide emotional value

You may have met some people, and every time you just talk to them, your mood will not consciously brighten up. Even if you were a little lost because of something going wrong an hour ago, after the chat, you don’t feel like it’s a big deal. , you can do it again.

Who doesn't like this kind of person who transmits positive energy at any time?

The most effective way to do this is to provide "emotional value."

To give a few examples:

(1) Remember each other's name and nickname

Especially for those who have just entered the workplace, remember the other party's name, position, and nicknames and nicknames commonly used in the unit.

In fact, we have more than one name in the workplace. Even if our company uses fancy names, like me, it is called "Miller", and bosses, leaders, and colleagues at the same level are generally called "Miller" directly. In relatively formal occasions , everyone adds "teacher" to each other, but for many new graduates, interns or younger colleagues, they may add the word "sister". ——Some people like this, and some people don't like it, but it's not really a big impact.

There are also some titles derived from their real names, such as Luo Zhenyu, who is nicknamed "Luo Fat"; the HR of the company next door, whose real name is less, is generally called "Hua Jie" and so on.

There's nothing to be ashamed of. If everyone calls it that, it's perfectly fine for you to follow it. Don't think it's impolite to call yourself a newcomer if you're not familiar with it. There's nothing wrong with it. On the contrary, if everyone uses another name, only you will use your first name. , that's called seeing the outside world.

(2) Do not be stingy with your own praise

Complimenting others is the most convenient way to provide emotional value.

Not to say flattery, but "praising others is actually a virtue." There are basically two reasons why many people can't open their mouths and say compliments:

The first is the influence of traditional education.

I won't go into details here. After all, in the traditional virtues, we are a little too "humble" to praise or accept praise from others.

The second one may be due to inferiority complex.

I met a friend on the Internet before, she said: If I praise others, it seems to be denying myself.

In fact, this attitude is problematic. As long as you have a strong heart and can accept others' excellent people, you can praise others without reservation.

Jack Ma once said:

I'm neither managerial nor technical, but I do two things well.

First, find people smarter than me; second, get smart people to work with.

How to find someone smarter than you? First of all, you have to admit the other party and see the advantages of the other party.

When we praise others, the feedback is often kindness, and you will feel happy because of it. This is actually a virtuous circle.

However, this is not flattering. For the specific method, if you are interested, you can read the specific method of praise I mentioned earlier.

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2. Improve emotional resonance

In addition to having common hobbies, the fastest thing that can resonate is a common topic that can be talked about.

Some teams get together just because of the cooperation of a project, and they are very efficient when working, but when they disband, they also disband, and it is only rare to have contact again.

This is the "topic" relationship. Therefore, we found that classmates and peers always maintain longer-lasting relationships.

Of course, we can't have the same preferences as everyone, so a practical approach is:

Get to know each other's hobbies first, and then discuss his hobbies with the other person.

When I went to dinner with me last Friday, I met such a person. He was very active at the dinner party, but as long as you listen to it for a while, you will know: he knows a little about everything and can talk about everything, but he is not special.

It's not a negative comment, but on the contrary, such a feature is very welcome when it comes to small talk, he can "raise the bar" and not only open up the chatterbox of "people who really know what to do", but also provide some valuable information .

At this time, it is appropriate to cooperate with some questions and guidance skills in the chat.

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3. Appropriately repeat the details mentioned by the other party

This is a small trick, but it works great.

You know, if you remember the details very clearly, it shows that this event, or this person, or this emotion is important to him.

This can be used not only to observe people, but also to find chat topics and attract the attention of the other party.

I met such a girl at an event before. No matter what our topic is, she always mentions something like "I don't want to get married" and "I think I live well by myself."

Afterwards, when a few acquaintances ate together, everyone mentioned it and agreed: It seems that this girl is very concerned about marriage.

No matter if she said "I don't want to get married" or "I want to get married", as long as she said "marriage" repeatedly, it showed that she really cared, maybe she didn't even realize it.

So, if you come across a colleague who frequently mentions certain things, intentionally or not, just be a little careful and know that those things are important to him.

In this way, at other appropriate times, as long as you mention it a little, it will immediately attract the attention of the other party and make him feel that you care about him.

This "feeling of being valued" is very infectious.

4. Write at the end

As for the last one, respect and worship, it is relatively difficult, after all, it has to be backed up by facts.

However, in the current situation where anxiety is common, not all powerful people will be liked, and vice versa. To be liked, respected or even looked up to, "power" is not a necessary condition.

Therefore, the correct way, you can refer to two points:

First, there is strength, but one must keep a low profile. Otherwise, it will easily lead to jealousy and exclusion.

Second, keep a certain distance from others.

The so-called distance produces beauty, and some people who seem to be very powerful, if you are too close to him and see the "ordinary" side of the other person, the image of "tall" in your heart may become "kind", but also Less worship.

Hegel said: There are no great men in the eyes of servants.

That's it.

Therefore, in turn, it is necessary to maintain some distance appropriately.

After all, people who are liked in the workplace do not all have to become "family". Here, let's not go to extremes. It is "appropriate distance" rather than "creating a high-cold aura". There are still obvious differences between the two.

You see, these methods are not difficult to operate, the key is to take action.

One bird in the hand is better than two in the forest. You don't have to use all of them. Pick what you think can be implemented at the moment, move it first, and then adjust it slowly according to the actual situation. I wish you a smoother and smoother career path!