The neighbor's garbage is always put at the door, I feel very uncomfortable, and there are no stickers to remind me, what should I do?

I went to a friend's house for dinner in the evening. As soon as I arrived at the door of the house, my happy face turned dark. I heard him complain in a low voice. I did notice one detail, though: He kicked the trash at the door behind the fire exit door.

After that, I asked him casually while eating, and he explained the reason.

It turned out that his and the neighbor's house were facing at a 90° angle. His house was facing the door of the fire escape, while the neighbor's house was facing the entrance from the elevator. Because the windows on the elevator side are generally closed for cleaning, the ventilation is not good, so in normal times, as long as it is not very cold, they usually open the doors of the fire escape, and both of them are ventilated.

This is not a problem, the problem is, the neighbors have a "special" habit: like to leave shoes and garbage at the door.

Because of the direction of the door, it is said that the door of the two families is actually very close, just like the two sides of a square.

In addition, the wind is facing my friend's house, so there is garbage at the door, and there are shoes that have been changed, which always makes him feel that they are placed at his door, and the wind is facing his door, so he feels very uncomfortable.

I changed my position and thought about it. Indeed, if it were me, whether I was going out or going home, seeing these things would really affect my mood.

I asked him, did you tell the neighbors?

He says:

At the beginning of the year, I said it a few times, and it took 2 days to say it once, and then I continued.

After all, it is a neighbor, and this place is indeed "the door of his house". Later, my friend said, let the neighbor put it next to the side door of the fire escape.

Later, when I went out, I took a closer look. There was actually a note on the wall at the door, which said: Don't put garbage at the door, look to the left. Then the side door of the fire escape on the left is indeed open, the front door reads "Watch the door", and the back reads "Please put garbage here".

Then, there was a small bicycle and two skateboards in the fire escape. I glanced at my friend, he smiled helplessly, and pointed to the next door: No, they belong to their home.

I kept thinking about it on the way back.

It is said that the relationship between people's neighbors is not as harmonious as it used to be. Don't say hello to each other, and it is common for people to not know each other. The other residents on my own floor, except for a note in the owner group, have not dealt with much.

However, after going out of the house, other places are always "public areas". I have already reminded kindly that mutual respect is still basic. Thinking of a friend's neighbor, occupying the fire exit itself is very dangerous, and throwing garbage at the door , it's bad to meet anyone.

Before, I also saw a sentence on the Internet:

The truth of life is this: I dare to scold the heavens and the earth, but I dare not scold the neighbors upstairs who are renovating every weekend.

Originally, this sentence was to criticize some "keyboard warriors", but in my friend's case, it seems to have some shadows.

I remember at work, this friend was a very picky guy. If the subordinates handed him something, if it does not meet the requirements, he must go back and change it; if he fails to deliver it by the deadline, he will keep on pressing, and rarely put himself in a completely passive position.

But for these people, there is still more or less the coat of a "job", which is convenient and no burden to do.

But instead of his own neighbor, he only "reminds him twice".

——Of course, this is much better than the "don't dare" said on the Internet.

I reminded him twice, but the other party didn't change it. When he saw it when he got home, he felt uncomfortable, and he just "kicked it to the side".

This approach is completely different from his performance at work.

Needless to say, I am very angry, but I am somewhat reasonable, so why should I be so wronged?

I guess there is only one such mentality: there is no relationship between superiors and subordinates, and there is no interest relationship between neighbors.

Therefore, even if you open your mouth, you can only rely on the other party's self-consciousness. They are all owners, and no one can ask anyone.

I still remember that when I just graduated, I rented an apartment. For a period of time, I shared with my girlfriends. I chose an apartment in Vanke, which has more than 20 households on the first floor. But I also encountered conflicts between neighbors. I told my best friend, why don't we knock on the door and talk to the person upstairs? Later, she was stopped by her best friend. She said: call the property directly.

Her reasons are:

Our two girls are out and we don't know the details of the upstairs, so it's not safe to show our faces.

I thought it was right, but I didn't insist.

Facts have proved that the property of Vanke—at least the place where we lived at the time—was really good. It didn’t take long for the situation to reflect, and it was found that the upstairs was quiet. After that, the property called back to ask if the situation was better.

Of course, we didn't know who was upstairs until we finally moved out.

There used to be an old saying that "a distant relative is not as good as a near neighbor", but the truth is:

The furthest distance in the world is that you live next door to me, but you still need a property to contact you.

I wonder if anything bad happened between you and your neighbors? Any good suggestions? Maybe pass it on to my friend, it can be helpful to him.