Live transparently, see clearly, and live your life the way you want

Live transparently, see clearly, and live your life the way you want

Have you ever discovered that people who can live their lives the way they want have one characteristic, that is, they all live transparently and see clearly.

Once a person has this kind of quality, it is difficult to be miserable.

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A high school graduate sent me an email:

"Hello Lantian, I'm graduating this summer. I don't know why I want to go to high school, but I always feel that I have a future in high school. But I know I shouldn't be able to go (score problem), there is a boy in our class in the last month. I worked hard, and the mock exam gave me 40 points. I specifically asked him: "Have you been beaten? What supports you? "He just said indifferently, 'I don't want to be an ordinary person'. Sister Lantian, you are from the past. I don't know what to do now?"

Also attached below is a screenshot of their chat, where the boy who knew what he wanted and acted on in a pinch told her "You don't realize how important high school is, and you don't really want to be for one thing. Thorough and down-to-earth efforts, so everything will end in the so-called lack of concentration.”

I don't know if this passage was originally written by a boy, but when I say it under this circumstance, it's a gem of words for girls and me.

At the end of my reply to the girl's letter, I told her: You can observe the boy's development in the next 5 years, 10 years, he will definitely not be one of the bad guys in your classmates.

I assert this not because he understands what high school means to him, but because he can define his goals at a young age and break through himself in a short period of time, which many adults cannot do.

Live transparently, see clearly, and live your life the way you want

2

My friend Xiao Zuo told me about her love story with her husband, Mr. Meng, which reminded me that many people complain that they have a small circle and do not have suitable boyfriends and girlfriends. I don't know.

According to Xiao Zuo, Mr. Meng once read a sentence in an article: The probability that a person can find the other half from his own circle is 60%.

So when he wanted to find a girlfriend and start to settle down, he opened all his social software and the address book of the phone book and read it carefully. He found that among the people he knew, there was no girl suitable for him.

How to do? Expand the circle of communication.

Next, he started to participate in activities, parties, and met many single girls, but he still did not meet a suitable girlfriend until he noticed a girl on Weibo, and this girl was Xiao Zuo. Their love story will not be unfolded here, but what is certain is that these two strangers from opposite ends of the world are now a loving couple.

In terms of finding the other half, I am very similar to Mr. Meng. We both clearly know what our strengths are and what the other half we want. With the target framework, it is very easy to achieve.

Therefore, the legendary love in the eyes of outsiders is just the result of our understanding and efforts to achieve it.