4 truths that can only be understood if you have experienced it
Some truths, when parents tell us, we think they are "clichés", but time will slowly tell us their value.
- Health is the biggest cost
As the saying goes, "Leave the green hills without worrying about no firewood".
When I was young, I always talked about "desperately", thinking that I could escape the disease.
It wasn't until I saw someone from the news and the surrounding area that I actually saw someone overdrawn and entered the hospital, and I started to get a little scared.
Life has a period, and health is priceless. At any time, don't make big bets on your health. Taking care of your body is the best explanation for life.
- There are only those who can't get through, there are no obstacles that can't be overcome
Who hasn't had a low period yet? We will always encounter some unsatisfactory things and suffer some unknown injuries.
As Yang Mi said in the show:
Why do you want others to understand your hard work?
4 truths that can only be understood if you have experienced it
However, as time moves forward, people also move forward.
Once we were a water cup, a little stone could stir;
Slowly, we became a lake, and a small stone stirred up only ripples.
Those hurdles that they thought they would not be able to overcome, only after they came to their senses did they realize that they were so strong.
So, don't be afraid when you are in a downturn, adjust your mentality, and move forward safely.
There is a clip in "Under One Person", the old man's words are very comforting:
When you are the most unlucky, you must bear it, don't be discouraged, because ah, that's when your luck should rise.
4 truths that can only be understood if you have experienced it
- Don’t waste too much time in order to save a little money
Many people who come to Wuhan from other places have the first reaction: Wuhan is really big.
Where is the most direct manifestation?
It is said that now, after the housing price rises, more and more people work in Optics Valley (because various industrial bases such as Software Park are relatively concentrated) and live in Hanyang (the houses are relatively concentrated and the environment is quiet), so they often commute to get off work. , 50 kilometers round trip in a day.
Xiaowen used to be like this.
At that time, in order to rent a cost-effective house, he chose a Vanke community outside the Third Ring Road and rented a single apartment; he originally thought that the distance of 25 kilometers would be a half-hour drive, but he did not expect that sooner or later There is a traffic jam during peak hours, and sometimes it takes half an hour to get out of the community.
4 truths that can only be understood if you have experienced it
We asked him at the time, why not move near the company?
He said: Because the house prices outside the Third Ring Road are cheap, and the company is in the city center, the price of an independent small apartment is twice as high.
"Although the rent is not high, it can be almost the same with the daily commute to get off work and car damage, isn't it? What's more, it can save a lot of time."
"That's not the same. If you change the house, you have to find it again. If you move, you have to pay one for three. It's a lot of trouble..."
After the persuasion was ineffective, Xiaowen really lived there for a year.
This year, unless he leaves before 6:30, it takes an hour and a half to commute to work. Even when he came back at night, in order to avoid the rush hour, he could only go home after 7:30 pm. Of course, it would not be too late, and there would be no parking spaces.
Later, Xiaowen's girlfriend played a role, half persuasion and half "threat" to let Xiaowen move.
In fact, the principle of persuasion is the same as before.
4 truths that can only be understood if you have experienced it
Two months later, we ate together and asked Xiaowen, how do you feel after moving?
He said that when the car was parked and the 5-minute walk to and from get off work, he had more rest time and was much more relaxed.
"Why didn't you move when we persuaded you?"
"Hey, isn't this the weakness of human nature. I know there are many benefits, but I still feel distressed when there is a large amount of expenses at the moment."
This is true, as if we all know that learning is useful, but for the moment, the temptation of mobile phones is irresistible.
Xiaowen also realized that just because he "wanted to save money" at the beginning, it was really worth the loss.
Not only did I not save money in the end, but I was also overwhelmed by commuting time every day, exhausting my energy and delaying many useful things.
2 hours a day is not much.
For learning, you can improve your skills; for exercising, you can strengthen your body; for socializing, you can expand your network; for entertainment, you can have fun.
It's always better than spending time on the road.
So, don't waste too much time trying to save a little money, in the end, it's not worth it.
4 truths that can only be understood if you have experienced it
- Don't let others disturb your happiness
I have read a short story called "Don't disturb other people's happiness", about a couple who set up a stall under an overpass.
One summer noon, the sun was shining brightly, and there was only a little shade under the bridge, so the wife huddled herself there, and the water glass beside her was empty.
After a while, my husband came over on a bicycle with a lunch box and half a chilled watermelon in the basket.
He parked the car, took out the lunch box, opened the lid, and handed it to his wife.
The wife smiled, reached out to take it, and the two sat down in front of the stall.
But when the wife was eating and the husband was watching the stall, a passerby passed by and said something inadvertently:
In such a hot day, how can you just eat such a little pickled vegetables, I can't take care of people...
The wife's hand holding the chopsticks paused for a while, and the husband was a little embarrassed. Originally, a very warm scene was shattered like this.
In fact, everyone has their own life, like a fish drinking water and knowing it. Don't impose your concept of happiness on others, and don't disturb the happiness of others. This is the most important way to get along between people.
It is polite and respectful not to disturb the happiness of others;
If we care too much about the opinions and evaluations of others, our lives will be kidnapped.