'When you are young, go to big cities more often': to be motivated is not to work hard, but to truly love life

My cousin is a senior this year. In May of this year, the company she had been working with told her that she did not need to come back.

Years ago, the supervisor still told her to "bring the tripartite agreement when the construction starts in February". As a result, her team barely worked online for 3 months, and then she received the news that the team was disbanded due to the internal adjustment of the company.

However, I have always felt that my cousin should not worry about finding a job, because after getting along for a long time, I think she is a very reliable person. Although she doesn't talk much, every time she promises something to others, no matter the result, she has a "failure". This may have something to do with her parents being teachers.

However, yesterday she complained to me and asked: If it wasn't for this, she would never have thought about staying in her hometown, but had always listened to her parents:

Go to the first-tier cities, because "young people have to fight".

But now, she began to think:

Could it be that it must be bad to take a civil service exam or find a stable job in your hometown?

Thinking about it carefully, I think it's time to think about this issue.

"When you are young, go to big cities more often": to be motivated is not to work hard, but to truly love life

1. Behind the progress, what is "fighting"?

I heard a joke before:

When you were in elementary school, your parents told you: you want to be motivated, you can’t be fun, and you can just wait for a key junior high school;

When you were in junior high school, your parents told you: If you want to be motivated, you can't be greedy, just wait until you go to a key high school;

When you were in high school, your parents told you: If you want to be motivated, you can't be fun, just wait until you go to a key university;

When you go to college, everyone around you tells you: you want to be motivated, you can’t be fun, and you’ll be fine when you find a good job;

After working, more people will tell you: You have to be motivated, you can't be fun, and you can just wait until you become famous...

There are many more in the back, "It's good to get married", "It's good to have children", "It's good to have children when they go to school", "It's good to have children when they are adults"...

Finally one day, you are sick, the doctor asks you: Do you have any wishes?

You say: can I play?

The doctor said: Eat whatever you want, eat whatever you want, play whatever you want, watch whatever you want...

To be honest, do you want such "motivation"?

"When you are young, go to big cities more often": to be motivated is not to work hard, but to truly love life

There is an inescapable course in the workplace, called time management. A friend told me that trainers usually introduce:

If the other party is the boss, the trainer will say: improving the time management ability of employees is the key to improving efficiency;

If the other party is an employee, the trainer will say: improving your time management ability is the key to leaving get off work on time.

See, the former is "improving efficiency" and the latter is "getting off work on time"; the former boss likes it because efficiency = work, the latter employees like it because getting off work on time = enjoying life.

So, before we talk about struggle, should we ask ourselves:

What do you mean by "spell"?

What is the so-called "fighting" in the end?

"When you are young, go to big cities more often": to be motivated is not to work hard, but to truly love life

2. Choose comfort ≠ despicableness

There is a classmate from junior high school who achieved very good grades in reading, and has always been in the top ten in the school.

Later, due to the arrangement of his parents, he returned to his hometown to become a civil servant. It is said that even the first-line offers were rejected at that time, which disappointed his teacher Haosheng.

Later, at the class reunion, compared to those of us who worked hard in big cities, he was obviously much younger. When he mentioned that everyone was still working overtime at 10:00, he said with a smile: Hahaha, I never look at my phone when I go home.

However, this is usual. This is during the epidemic, local volunteers, investigation, registration and other work are also doing their due diligence. When we "don't go out is to contribute", he has been working for several weeks.

Sometimes comfort is not meanness.

"When you are young, go to big cities more often": to be motivated is not to work hard, but to truly love life

I learned computer science when I was in college. My java teacher just returned to school from a company to teach. He rarely misses class when listening to him. It's not how good his professional knowledge is, but how many stories he tells.

What "When I was working on a project before, I encountered something", "This tool, his developer is very interesting...", rambling and making everyone think it's very interesting.

So after I actually started working, the content he mentioned helped me a lot, because work is not dealing with textbooks, but dealing with people, because after listening to him talk about real work scenarios, I can flexibly deal with those unpleasant situations at work. Professional skills section.

If it weren't for such a teacher who returned from the enterprise to the university, we might really have to take a lot of detours.

"When you are young, go to big cities more often": to be motivated is not to work hard, but to truly love life

Just like introversion and extroversion, I feel that struggle and ease are sometimes also related to human character. ,

If you are someone who can draw happiness and energy from constant struggle, struggle is your choice;

But if instead, struggle is just a means of what you want or some kind of comfort.

But no matter what kind, they have their own value, don't they?

3. There is no set standard for real struggle

In 2014, everyone said: You are poor because you do not work hard.

Now, the sentence has become: I lost my reason.

It's not that hard work or struggle is discouraged, but that everyone is encouraged to strive according to the standard of "you should be successful".

Today's society is very diverse, and many young people do not starve to death if they do not work. Maybe it is really like the joke that "work is to experience life".

I have a former colleague, she herself is a graduate student studying abroad, not for academics, but for traveling and experiencing local customs; her first job after returning to China was CCTV, as a TV program director; a year later, she went to the university to become a teacher ; Later, I started a youth hostel with a friend, saying that I wanted to meet different people; and later I opened a bookstore and became a national community...

Ask her why she is so tossed and always finds some "trouble" for herself?

She said: I don't want to be idle.

In fact, her life is the envy of many of us. Not necessarily rich, but at least they can support themselves without worrying about food and clothing. "Find something to do" and "or be idle" is what work can give you. As for what to do, where to do it, and whether it is "high" or not, it is not so important.