A father's reflection: reading with children, I will never step on these pits again

An education expert once pointed out:

There are obvious differences between students with less than 20 books and more than 100 books in their families. The importance of reading ability is self-evident.

So in order to create a good reading environment for my children, I bought a bookshelf.

Imagine a picture like this:

There are neat rows of books on the bookshelf. My children and I sit by the bookshelf after dinner, reading, discussing, thinking, and sharing the good time of parent-child.

And the real picture is this:

Half of the bookshelf is not filled with books, but filled with my son's toys. Books are not all on the bookshelves, they are everywhere on the bedside table, TV cabinet, dresser, and some books even take days to find.

The most troublesome thing is that many books are bought without accompanying the children to read them. Every time I read a book with my child, it ends in a hurry.

So much so that I often hear a word from my wife: "How many times have you bought so many books for your children? Not to mention wasting money and making the house so messy."

I didn't take it seriously at first, but seeing that my son's reading ability has not improved much, his interest in reading has gradually diminished.

I see it in my eyes and worry in my heart. Quickly search the Internet for information, and ask your parents and friends around you.

After reflection, I realized that just buying books blindly is not the same as creating a high-quality reading environment for children.

There are many things you need to do as a parent to develop your child's reading skills:

Be sure to choose the right book, choose the right book

Reflecting on the fact that I bought books in the past, it was more to satisfy my vanity, eager to be praised by others for reading a lot and willing to accompany my children to read, so I bought a lot of books blindly.

When buying books, I just blindly read other people's recommendations, and when everyone says yes, I buy them back, without seriously thinking about whether they are suitable for children and whether they are suitable for reading needs at this stage. Due to the lack of careful identification, the quality of many purchased books is uneven.

There are not many books in the essence.

Reading a book has to have the effect of a book. When buying books in the future, I must carefully screen and grasp two principles:

The first is the classic.

Whether it is parenting books, teaching aids, or extracurricular reading for children.

You must buy those timeless classic books. These books have been precipitated by time and can still be well received by everyone. They must have their own merits. When buying books for children, you should buy these books.

You can search the Internet for information, read the comments and recommendations of readers on the forum, remove the false and save the truth, repeatedly measure, and select the real classic books.

The second is to use the book list of the education department as a reference.

Especially when buying extracurricular reading materials, don't focus on your own preferences, but on the book list published by the education department. These book lists have been reviewed by experts and are more scientific. In addition to buying the books on the list, you can also buy books that are similar to the list.

Only by choosing the right books and books can we ensure that children absorb scientific nutrition, harvest healthy spiritual food, and lay a solid knowledge foundation.

Accompany your child and lead by example

While reflecting, I found myself having an illusion:

Just buy and read. It's easy to create a false sense of satisfaction.

As I buy more and more books, I mistakenly think that I will read more and more with my children, and I always feel that there is still a lot of time to read later.

The child sometimes wants me to read with me, and I also shirk because of various things. When the work is over, the child has no interest in reading, and is about to go to bed. I can only read a few pages with the child in a hurry, resulting in the child reading time every day. Not much.

As a parent, I don't set a good example.

Although I bought a lot of books for myself, I didn't get down to read the books.

If you can't do it yourself, how can you ask your child?

Only when you love reading can you attract children to come to understand books, gradually discover the value of books in the process of reading, appreciate the beauty of books, and fall in love with reading.

Another point is that I sometimes use my mobile phone to read, because there are abundant resources on the Internet, it is convenient to carry, and can read anytime, anywhere, but this also causes a certain misleading to the children, thinking that I am playing with my mobile phone, not reading.

Children sometimes say: Dad is playing with his mobile phone again, not reading.

Children have just been exposed to paper books and cannot understand electronic reading, so it is easy for children to have misunderstandings. Not only can they not set a good reading example for children, but they may also cause children to have too much interest in mobile phones, which violates the cultivation of children. The original intention of reading.

To make children fall in love with reading, first of all, you must read by yourself, set an example for your children, and inspire your children with your own actions, not by commands.

Second, help children form a good reading habit. You can set a reading time after meals, preferably every day.

During this time, let go of other things, accompany your child to concentrate on reading, let your child form a fixed reading habit, and make reading an indispensable part of your child's life.

In addition, it is best to read on paper, and try not to let children read with electronic products, which can not only prevent children from being disturbed by online information when reading, but also protect children's eyesight.

Reading must pay attention to the method to get twice the result with half the effort

People often complain on the Internet that they have finished reading, but they can't remember it, and it doesn't help them.

In fact, opening the book must be beneficial, but the harvest is large and small. If you want to get more results after reading the book, you must use the scientific method.

I just don't use the method properly, so that the effect of children's reading is not obvious.

In the past, we only paid attention to quantity but not quality, and blindly pursued "more" instead of using "fine".

Many books are only read once with the child, and then put aside, so that the child has only a general impression in his mind, and he does not read it, and lacks in-depth reading.

In the future, when reading with your children, you should work hard to read more, think more, and output more.

To read more is to expand the scope of reading and dabble widely.

To cultivate children's broad interest in reading, as long as the content is positive and healthy, children can be allowed to read, and children's interest points can be tapped, which can better promote children's demand for reading.

Distinguish between intensive reading and extensive reading. Books that need intensive reading are generally classic books, which need to be read repeatedly to lay a solid foundation for children.

More thinking is that when reading with children, let them think while reading.

As they read, children are encouraged to analyze the content and connect with their own experiences. Guide children to ask questions, let them learn to ask more why, dare to take the initiative to question, and exercise their thinking ability in questioning.

Also cultivate children's imagination. For example, when reading a story to a child, you can stop in the middle of the story and let the child continue to make up the story by himself. In this way, children's imagination is trained.

Multi-output is to train children to express the content of the book after reading the book: what is said, what is the most impressive, and what kind of questions are left. This way you deepen your understanding of the content.

Encourage your child to keep a journal. If the child does not know how to write for a while, parents can write it out and then read it to the child, and let the child revise it by himself, so as to exercise the child's expression ability.

Encourage children to use knowledge in real life, such as learning idioms, you can find opportunities to guide children to express them, so that children can have a deeper impression of knowledge and a better understanding. Encourage children to think more about the problems they encounter in life, and try to analyze and answer them with the knowledge they have learned.