My cousin just started working for the first year, and suddenly asked me on WeChat today, "I am introverted, can't speak, and what should I do if I can't fit in with my colleagues?"

Actually I want to say:

Introversion is just a personality tendency, extroversion is good for extroversion, and introversion also has the advantage of introversion.

The difference between introverts and extroverts is that their sources of energy are different: introverts are better at digging out energy from themselves. For example, they prefer to stay at home and read quietly after get off work rather than parties. Extroverts, on the other hand, are better at extracting energy from others, are social, and enjoy connecting with people.

And being an introvert doesn’t necessarily mean being bad at communicating with people. You know, many people who make a living by eloquence, most of them are introverts. For them, speaking in front of a crowd or performing on stage is better than chatting in a large crowd afterward.

In fact, before I started working, I was an introvert and didn’t know how to communicate, but after working, I gradually got in touch with people and gradually learned how to deal with people. .

1. The secret to dealing with people - I want to like you

People are often very enthusiastic about what they like.

We can often see a bridge in the movie: a person who is not good at expressing his heart often talks to a puppy or a puppet. Why? Because they like this puppy or puppet very much. When a person encounters something he likes, it will naturally be easy to talk.

Look at many simple friends around them. Every time they meet a stranger, they can quickly chat like old friends-the content is not about their own things, but about what the other party is interested in as much as possible.

So to get along with people, you have to start by liking others first, and then start chatting about things that others like.

Start talking about things that the other person likes, and then express to the other person what you have in common with the other person. Naturally, people will have a good time chatting with you.

When you meet someone for the first time, you must start from the common ground, discover the other party's concerns, and then have an effective connection with the other party and chat naturally.

But the first point is that first you have to like people from the heart, so that you can start chatting.

I am an introvert and can't communicate with my colleagues. What should I do if others hate me?

2. How to be a good friend of others.

If you want to gain friendship, you must know that "giving is happier than taking", and then express this knowledge in actual behavior.

The way to get friendship is to give, not take. Because winning friendship is a state of mind, an attitude, or a desire to dedicate one's love, interest, attention, and spirit of service to others.

There are two salesmen in the company. The way of one salesman is to introduce his products and how to be excellent as soon as he goes in and face customers. When a salesman sells to people, he tries his best to help people solve problems. What do you think as a customer?

Quite simply, no one will turn down someone who can help them solve their problems.

The chairman of General Electric said, "A salesman thinks all day long that I will try my best to help some people today, not if I try my best to sell more products today, then I will find that it is not so difficult to approach buyers. Then the sales will be surprisingly good. People who can help others have a happy, easy life are the top salesmen.”

So being friends with others is actually the same as selling yourself.

If you want to sell yourself and become a good friend of others, you must start by helping others, and gradually, you will naturally gain friendship.

I am an introvert and can't communicate with my colleagues. What should I do if others hate me?

3. The unchangeable law of getting along with people - empathy

Empathy is the most basic ability in emotional intelligence. When we look at problems, we must know that we should start from other people's feelings and look at problems from the perspective of others - "empathy and listening".

This is empathy. In fact, when dealing with many personnel relationships, as long as you master this principle, you can evolve a lot of processing capabilities.

For example, when you look at problems from the perspective of others, you can naturally know how to manage others. For example, when you speak from the perspective of others, you have the ability to speak. For example, when you help others solve problems, then you have the ability to sell.

I am an introvert and can't communicate with my colleagues. What should I do if others hate me?

4. Try these three ways to improve the effect of communicating with others

(1) Communicate more with people with common interests and accumulate exchange experience

Communication experience and speaking skills are accumulated, and practice brings true knowledge. Therefore, communicating effectively with others, accumulating experience immediately, earnestly learning and summarizing is a good way to overcome communication barriers and exercise courage.

For introverted people, it is better to chat with people who have the same interests and hobbies instead of finding topics with unfamiliar people. Topic, you don’t have to be embarrassed and troubled to find a topic, and you don’t have to worry about being hated for saying the wrong thing, so you can communicate well with people.

(2) Give full play to your character advantages and treat people sincerely

Sincere and down-to-earth people tend to create a sense of trust. Generally speaking, introverts are more likely to bring a sense of security to those around them. They may be taciturn, but they are good listeners. They are also sensitive in their hearts, good at detecting changes in the surrounding environment, and easily perceiving the emotions of others.

Therefore, you might as well use and expand your own advantages, treat others sincerely, perceive changes in others, and prescribe the right medicine. After a long time, you will see people's hearts. Anyone who has a good character and is down-to-earth and sincere will not be rejected by others.

(3) Don't be afraid of making mistakes, don't deliberately pursue the perfection of communication

In fact, many people are not reluctant to communicate with others, but they do not speak out easily before they think about what to say, for fear of making mistakes, being laughed at, and causing embarrassing situations. has passed. That's it, I always feel that I can't keep up with the rhythm of others, and I'm afraid of making mistakes, so I just keep my mouth shut.

I am an introvert and can't communicate with my colleagues. What should I do if others hate me?

In fact, no one is perfect, and everyone makes mistakes. Experience is accumulated. Not communicating with people is the biggest problem.