How to deal with someone you don't like in the workplace

• Workplace Emotions

We discussed the consequences of indulging oneself in the workplace, the meaning of career ideals, how workplace people vent their emotions, and how to deal with the favor of the opposite sex in the workplace. I hope everyone can face up to their own feelings and face them correctly. Today we're going to talk about how to deal with workplace malaise—feelings of dislike.

How to deal with someone you don't like in the workplace

In film and television dramas, there will be some negative characters, such as Mammy Rong in Huanzhugege. When you see this kind of character, you will feel very disgusted in your heart. It is difficult to have a role like Mama Rong in the workplace, but the disgust is A basic human emotion that often occurs in the workplace. Everyone's growth experience, research direction, and living habits are different, and their views are very different. Social professional division of labor is becoming more and more detailed. People have been engaged in a job for a long time, and the way of dealing with problems is often professional. They are used to thinking about problems from a professional perspective. The increase has made it difficult to reach an agreement on many issues, and it is easy to make people feel that they are not cooperating and interfere with it. These are channel problems in communication theory, which can easily lead to disgust. How to deal with disgust? I think it should be discussed from the following points.

How to deal with someone you don't like in the workplace

1. Grasp the essence of work

The relationship between the company and its employees is a cooperative relationship. The company achieves its business goals through the labor of its employees, and the company gives employees corresponding labor remuneration. The relationship between the company and its employees is connected through work, that is, the company asks you to pay you a corresponding salary for your labor, and you get the corresponding salary for the company's labor. In this sense, if you actively complete work tasks in the workplace and achieve the company's business goals, you will be able to get an ideal income.

Your relationship to work is that of survival, ideals, and tools. Work is a tool for survival. You obtain the material basis for survival through your own work, which was discussed in the previous paragraph and will not be repeated here. Work is an ideal tool. In addition to survival, people are more to realize their ideals. People accumulate experience, improve their abilities, and broaden their horizons in their work. Taking work as the connection point, they realize the gradual leap of people and keep getting closer to their own. Ideal, to realize the value of life.

Your relationship with your colleagues is collaborative. The tasks that cannot be completed by one person are connected together through the technology of the organizational structure, that is, through the positions. This is the collaborative relationship.

To grasp the essence of work is to let people understand: your relationship with the company, your relationship with your work, your relationship with your colleagues, and only by correctly understanding these relationships can we handle our emotions in the workplace. This is also published earlier. The basis of the four articles is also the core basis of our discussion point of view today, and it is also the basic point of view that everyone must recognize and grasp and actively practice in daily work.

How to deal with someone you don't like in the workplace

2. Optimizing the division of labor and opening up communication channels

The purpose of the division of labor is for better cooperation. Whether it is from the position setting or the subject system, it reflects the idea of ​​the division of labor. The team must divide the labor. The more prominent it is, the process interface connecting the division of labor is often set unreasonably, or it does not keep pace with the times to change, and the corresponding system has become the biggest obstacle to the flow of work tasks. This is the system issue we often discuss.

Everyone in the workplace should face work and the division of labor with a positive attitude. Everyone in the workplace should review the system and process, put forward reasonable suggestions, and do not let the outdated system become the biggest obstacle to work. When encountering problems, communicate with other positions, get through the obstacles in the process, and let the spirit of collaboration be brought into play.

In the workplace, it is difficult for employees to point out procedures and systems, and they will be deeply involved in them. In particular, leaders should take pride in solving unreasonable process problems in departments, and should not continue to hold pedantic concepts and create communication barriers and obstacles in various departments to highlight their importance. With the continuous application of Internet technology in the past few years, the management has been flattened, and the use of pedantic concepts to obtain benefits is gone forever.

How to deal with someone you don't like in the workplace

3. Facing the bad feeling and entering the predicament

To face your own emotions is to face yourself. Our Confucian culture has not yet talked about being a slave without mentality in the past, self-cultivation and balancing the family and ruling the country and the world. It is not something that a slave can face, because the Manchu Qing government killed scholars through various methods such as writing prisons and made them lose their personality. It is not our Confucian orthodoxy that makes people depersonalized. Only a sane person, a person with an independent personality, can make meritorious deeds, otherwise, no matter how capable a person is, he may endanger the society. Only with an independent personality can we face up to ourselves, face up to our love and hatred, and find the most perfect way to combine ourselves with society, with others, and with nature. This means that the secret love we are discussing is not a sin, a good feeling is not a sin, and disgust is not a sin.

Psychological transposition is a great way to deal with guilt. Earlier we discussed how bad feelings are generated, that is, poor work leads to negative emotions. Such negative emotions are not grievances. We talked about the way to vent grievances, but this is a kind of disgust. We discussed the nature of work. The bad feeling is caused by the problem of collaboration. The most fundamental problem is the division of labor, which is caused by professional barriers. Then we should go to extensive knowledge, understand the way of thinking of others, and think about these problems from the perspective of others, not only It is helpful for us to persuade others, and it can improve our knowledge level, communication ability and macro-control thinking.

Dealing with bad feelings through dislocation techniques. Two people who are in conflict can easily pre-set preconditions in communication, which requires the intervention of a third party, allowing leaders to communicate, subordinates to communicate, and colleagues of the opposite sex to communicate. This can solve the possible problems caused by face-to-face communication. Harm, you can also let yourself and the other party have calm time, better look at yourself, and slowly communicate after the conflict is eased.

magnify the evil deeds of others. As for the bad habits that many people have formed in the past for a long time at work, it is difficult to correct them, it is difficult to solve problems when they encounter them, and others do not care about the serious consequences of their own non-cooperation. We can put pressure on it by complaining, exposing, and letting everyone know, so that it can be resolved and cooperated. Although this is a negative communication method, it is not recommended. I hope everyone can have a positive attitude to communicate.

Treat ill feelings with peace of mind. We have studied professional image science. Many people smell like cigarettes and cut their nails in the office. Some people don’t pay attention to these, and some companies don’t pay attention to these, but it doesn’t mean that you don’t pay attention to these, and it is easy to feel bad. We see some people who seem to have found their first love, and of course we hate some people. The two types of people we just discussed may be your natural preferences. If you don't like it, don't express your dissatisfaction and ill feelings deliberately. After all, this is the way of life of others. It's like we, dog lovers, must not object to people eating dog meat. We can't just think that our way of life is the only correct one. When encountering this kind of work, various lifestyles coexist in a civilized society, and you can just walk away after work. Don't deliberately force yourself to oppose others, and you can't go against your heart and must accept it, just treat it normally.

How to deal with someone you don't like in the workplace

Emotion is a human attitude towards morality and value. There is no right or wrong, just like you have nothing right or wrong in this world. You have to live an active life and work hard to contribute to the society. You are a good person. , you are a bad person when you do bad things, treat your emotions sincerely, cherish your feelings towards society and human beings, cherish your feelings towards your colleagues and family members, adopt the way you think is more appropriate, treat your work and life, and actively pursue happiness , enjoy a happy life.