3 common ways to ask people to do things, don't wait until you suffer
In today's society, people have long since moved away from fighting alone. If we want to do something or do our job well, we need to constantly use the strength of others to help us. Therefore, in recent years, we can also find that more and more people have begun to pay attention to the maintenance of network resources, as the so-called multiple friends and multiple paths. How can we use the power of those around us to help us, both in life and at work? In fact, there are also routines for asking people to do things. If you use the routines well, you can get twice the result with half the effort. The three commonly used routines for asking people to do things don’t wait until you suffer a loss to wake up!
- Find the right person
When asking people to do things, we have to clarify 3 principles. Is this thing really managed by him? Who can help if he doesn't do things for you? Who are his superiors and inferiors? If you figure out these three things in advance, it will be much easier to ask people to do things. First of all, if you want to ask people to do things, the information must be accurate, that is to say, the problem you want to solve is really within the ability of others, or really under their control. Secondly, the person you are looking for may not know you well, or he has something to hide recently, and it is difficult to help you. At this time, you should find out who else can do this except him. We might as well find his leader or subordinate, maybe his leader can say a word and this thing can be done. You can ask his subordinates to turn things around.
- Give enough benefits
Getting along between people is based on interests, and asking others to do things cannot escape this law. This requires us to put the benefits first before asking others to do things, or give them some benefits in advance when asking them to do things. In this way, even if the other party wants to refuse, it is difficult for ordinary people to be indifferent to the interests before them. And we must not take responsibility for it. If this matter is his responsibility, he will pick out a lot of faults and not do things for you, so you will encounter more troubles. Only through the exchange of interests, so that others can benefit, can the problem of asking for help be fundamentally solved. . If you give the other party enough benefits, the two parties may also cooperate for a long time in the future. Because the premise of cooperation is that both parties are profitable. If you only pay and don’t return, who will do things for you? This time you ask him to do things, and he may ask you to do things in the future. Only this two-way relationship of mutual help is a virtuous circle of connections.
- Soft grinding and hard foam
There is also a routine for asking people to do things. Generally speaking, using interests as the basis, soft and hard foam will get twice the result with half the effort. As the so-called human relationship is, you do all kinds of foreshadowing to maintain the relationship with the other party, which is also a very important principle in asking for help. Everyone must remember that if the friendship between you is not enough, will they accept the benefits you give to others at this time? It all depends on their mood. Because most of the time, only giving benefits will not convince the other party, and it is not effective in all places. When you give someone a favor, it's not that they don't want it, it's that they can't. Because of taking risks. Most of the time, if you don’t know someone well and you give someone a favor directly, the other person will doubt you, and no matter how you help them, they don’t know what to do. If you want to let the other party's hanging heart fall, you must let the other party trust you. At this time, human feelings will be reflected. How do we cultivate human relationships? In fact, it is difficult to say that it is difficult, and it is not difficult to say that it is not difficult. Above all we need to be thick-skinned and overcome fear and nervousness. Persistence in soft grinding and hard foaming will always succeed, and you must show the spirit of never giving up until you reach your goal!