80% of college students will be confused, teach you five magic weapons to get out of confusion

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Now it is a common phenomenon that many college students feel lost and confused after entering the university.

Although I tried to change but felt helpless and powerless, I wanted to move forward but hesitated, and I wanted to retreat but was unwilling.

Before going to college, we had no choice. It seemed that we only had to go to college. After going to college, we had so many choices, but we were unprecedentedly confused.

But when I thought that my parents had spent a lot of money to send us to school to study, and felt that I had failed them, I began to wake up to study hard, but I didn’t know where to start.

So, it seems that confusion is flooding the university, and we are more and more confused.

80% of college students will be confused, teach you five magic weapons to get out of confusion

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So, what are the reasons for the confusion among college students? Next, I will list the reasons for you one by one, and take a seat to see what kind of reasons you belong to.

1. Missing goals.

Before entering the university, we only have the goal of taking the university entrance examination, but once we enter the university, the goal is missing and the motivation to study is lacking. At this time, we only need to ensure that we do not fail the course at the end of the semester, so we lack motivation to study, and we do not know how to use our college time, so that we are not proficient in many professional courses.

Furthermore, many students spend most of their time in college playing and gaming, and they don't set a clear goal for themselves at all. things, so we were busy, but found nothing.

2. Lack of self-control.

When I entered the university, once there was no teacher's supervision, I began to relax, and suddenly I became overwhelmed. I didn't know how to use the current free time, and I fell into confusion for a time.

Some students don't know what to do and what not to do, just feel happy. We often say, "The quilt is the grave of youth", and this sentence is absolutely true. Thinking about how simple it is to get up at three or six o'clock in high school to endorse a book, now I can't wait to enjoy life in bed all day long, and order takeout when I'm hungry. How comfortable.

Studying is also free to do what I want, obviously I should listen to the class carefully, but I couldn't help but take out my mobile phone and browse Weibo and browse Taobao, and one class was just wasted. And when I was supposed to finish a certain task, I went to watch a TV series and listen to a few songs, so I put the task aside again, and rushed in a hurry when it was handed in.

There are still many examples of insufficient self-control in our lives. How many of them do you see?

3. There is too much gap between reality and imagination.

College life is different from his ideal appearance. For example, when the campus environment and teaching equipment do not meet his ideal appearance, he will be disappointed, and thus lose the confidence to continue to struggle and go with the flow.

In addition, some students have learned a major that they do not like due to the arrangement of their parents or professional adjustment, so they have no interest in learning, and they do not have a correct learning attitude. At this time, it is easy to become confused.

4. Lack of self-confidence.

Facing a lot of students who are better than me and doing better than me, I gradually lost my self-confidence and held an attitude of fear of failure in everything.

Some people are very popular with teachers and classmates in middle school, because they are excellent, but it is strange that they will not appear particularly conspicuous when they go to college. This is actually because after going to college, seeing people who are better than themselves abound, it is inevitable that they will feel inferior. Feelings, especially those with strong self-esteem, will not accept that others are better than themselves, and are likely to lose confidence and fall into confusion.

5. The short-term efforts did not receive the desired success.

Some students are full of fighting spirit and must get scholarships and become cadres in the university, but they don’t get the results they want after a short period of effort.

In real life, many people will give up on themselves, and it is absolutely impossible to achieve success only by relying on short-term efforts. For example, the chances of success in English CET 4 and 6 relying on short-term surprises are very small, unless you have a good foundation or luck.

6. The barriers to interpersonal communication also make college students feel confused.

Different family backgrounds, different personalities, and different interests and hobbies will affect interpersonal communication. If you are lonely and not social, this will also make you confused.

As far as I know, there are many more conflicts in the dormitory relationship for girls than for boys, so I often receive complaints from some schoolmates about how my roommate treats her too much, or who she has conflicts with.

A relaxed and happy circle will make you more motivated to pursue and achieve your goals. If interpersonal relationships, of course, the university refers to the dormitory relationship is not handled very well, it is easy to make yourself confused.

I believe that most college students have had moments of confusion. Of course, like everyone else, I was deeply confused and unable to extricate myself. I was extremely dissatisfied with my university and professional expectations. At that time, I was either sleeping in the dormitory or watching dramas every day. Terrible.

But after a short period of decadence, I began to recognize the reality and recognize myself clearly, knowing that no matter how dissatisfied or complaining, it would not help.

So I started asking myself, what the hell am I here for?

I replied, "I want to have a good job in the future."

I asked myself again, "How do you have a meaningful life in those few years in college?"

I replied, "I want to get a scholarship, I want to actively participate in activities, I want to go out more, and I want to develop a hobby and specialty."

Fortunately, I have used my actual actions to get out of the confusion.

80% of college students will be confused, teach you five magic weapons to get out of confusion

It's raining and still running to the exam room

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Faced with all kinds of confusion, how should we deal with it to get out of the confusion? Next, I will give you a few specific ways to get rid of confusion.

1. Know yourself

First of all, you have to figure out why you are going to college? How should I go to university?

What do you want to achieve in college? How should I spend my years in college?

Only by understanding these problems can we adjust ourselves in time when we are confused.

For example, many of our classmates’ universities are not 985 or 211, which means that we already have a gap at the starting line. How can we use several years of college time to improve ourselves and minimize the gap? This is the situation and reality that we need to recognize.

2. Set goals.

Setting goals is a very important thing. If you want to get a scholarship, then you must be more attentive in your studies, try not to skip classes if you can, go to the library to read more books if you can, go to the library to read more books if you can, go to more activities to get the certificate , in short, must set a good goal in advance.

I just set myself the goal of getting a scholarship, and then put it into practice. I did my best in both study and practice, and basically got a scholarship every year. Getting a scholarship does not necessarily mean that you are very good, but it can mean that you are down-to-earth and conscientious in studying in the university, and it can also prove that your professional ability is high.

3. Learn to learn

After arriving at the university, everyone will be forced to ask how to study, and it is all based on your voluntary principle. Many students may find that if they continue to use their high school learning methods to learn college knowledge, it is not very applicable.

After all, universities are more about cultivating people's thinking ability rather than memorization ability, which means that universities are not suitable for studying hard, but should develop and develop their own thinking ability.

In addition to learning our own professional courses, we also need to cultivate the habit of reading books. Reading can improve yourself, read more, read well, read well, just reading is not enough, you have to take reading notes and think more, so as to make yourself more useful.

4. Learn to communicate with people.

In college, interpersonal communication is a particularly important course, especially the relationship with roommates has an impact on me. I wrote an article on how to handle dormitory relations well, such as learning to respect, learn to understand, learn to communicate, learn to be good Talking and so on can alleviate the conflict in the dormitory, you can go and read that article again.

Furthermore, I strongly recommend everyone to read Carnegie's "The Weakness of Human Nature", I believe you can gain a lot of unexpected interpersonal skills after reading it.

5. Learn to put it into practice.

Of course, having said so much, I believe that everyone will complain that this is another article like chicken soup, or that they understand the truth and know why they are confused, but they still can't get out of the confusion, and they still don't know what to do!

So I advise everyone here: If you don’t really put time into it, how can you not be lost? Only by taking action on your own feet and breaking the confused situation will you truly get out of the confusion.

Otherwise, no matter how many suggestions you read, it will not help.