I don't want to get married, I don't want to work hard to make money, I just want to live a comfortable life: a life ruined by a Buddhist mentality

01 Two ways of action in life

There is a popular question on Zhihu, "How much do you earn now when you are around 30 years old?" Gao Zan answered that he was a 1993-year-old Beijing guy with a monthly salary of 2400.

In his point of view, it is difficult to succeed with hard work, but instead of being tired and sick, it is better to be a bit Buddhist and live a normal and comfortable life.

In his answer, he said that he felt that getting married and having children was too stressful. And he is complacent about his self-reliance, and he is not like the other people when he is the old family.

This mourning answer has been approved by many people, and I can't help but think of what Pavlov, who won the Nobel Prize in Physiology and Medicine, once said: "There are basically two ways of acting in a person's life, one is Sliding down, one is climbing up. At first glance, you will think that it is easy to slide down and difficult to climb up. But in fact it is the opposite. People who slide down quickly get tired of living, and they generally live through They quit the stage of life early. But those who climb up can keep moving forward, and they are still full of energy and high spirits even at the age of ninety."

The downward sliding lifestyle represented by "Buddhism" and "Mourning" seems to be the most labor-saving and most comfortable, but

You know, in today's era, there is no such thing as stability. Only by constantly honing the ability to deal with problems, increasing knowledge, and growing up through reality can we stand on the ground in a changing society.

The attitude towards life reflected by "Buddhism" and "Mourning" is like a cage made by oneself, trapping oneself in it, the tighter it becomes, the more invisible lifelong shackles become, which destroys one's life.

I don't want to get married, I don't want to work hard to make money, I just want to live a comfortable life: a life ruined by a Buddhist mentality

02 The downward sliding lifestyle determines the direction of your life

In the documentary "Rich Brother Poor Brother", brother Ivan and brother David have similar growth backgrounds and education levels, only one year apart in age. Ivan is worth millions, and is a veritable financial elite. There are three townhouses.

I don't want to get married, I don't want to work hard to make money, I just want to live a comfortable life: a life ruined by a Buddhist mentality

The picture comes from the documentary "Rich Brother Poor Brother"

And David is undoubtedly a representative of Buddhist life. He claims that people who work are idiots who sacrifice their freedom to make money. I'd rather live in an RV and have no money to buy a house than be tied up.

He frequently changes jobs of different natures according to his mood - puppeteer, barista, teacher, real estate agent, etc., without exception, each job is not long. Nearly forty years old, still doing the basic work of construction workers.

Why is there such a big gap between the two?

The important moment that determines the trajectory of life, maybe from David's decision to give up his apprenticeship as a repairman, maybe from David's beginning to believe that "the asteroids will destroy the earth", maybe from those around David who have the same beliefs and ideas as him. people.

David lives in his own world and is convinced that Ivan's success depends on luck, exploiting and squeezing others, rather than down-to-earth efforts and dedication.

I don't want to get married, I don't want to work hard to make money, I just want to live a comfortable life: a life ruined by a Buddhist mentality

The picture comes from the documentary "Rich Brother Poor Brother"

In front of the camera, David said frankly that although he is poor, he doesn't care about other people's opinions.

I don't want to get married, I don't want to work hard to make money, I just want to live a comfortable life: a life ruined by a Buddhist mentality

The picture comes from the documentary "Rich Brother Poor Brother"

This sentence carries a sense of self-comfort. It's not so much that I don't care about other people's eyes, it's better to say that I don't care, and I'm afraid that the disappointment of myself will overwhelm me.

I don't want to get married, I don't want to work hard to make money, I just want to live a comfortable life: a life ruined by a Buddhist mentality

The picture comes from the documentary "Rich Brother Poor Brother"

People are creatures who make excuses for their actions and rationalize them, and then live in a safe castle built by self-comfort, believing that they are right, that it is others, and society that is wrong.

More importantly, the downward sliding lifestyle determines your life circle, and your life circle shapes the way you think and behave, which in turn determines who you are and how you live your life.

03 The slippery lifestyle is essentially a lack of willingness to participate in reality

The essence behind the "Buddhist system" and the "bereavement system" is the lack of willingness to participate in reality, and the willingness to "comfortably" slide down and go with the flow.

Because of the pressure of getting married and having children, I don't want to add trouble to myself, so it's good to use singleness to cover up my cowardice that I don't want to take responsibility.

Because the house price is too high and my salary is far from enough, I let myself indulge in games, bubble dramas and variety shows on the grounds that "the house is the shackle of life and will hinder free movement and life".

Because I saw very few people who died of overwork, I was afraid that staying up late and working overtime would lead to serious illness, but in the end it was all empty. It is a blessing to simply comfort yourself in plainness. People's fate is certain. If you make more money, God will let you spit it out in other ways.

They live in a narrow world constructed by self-consciousness, and are unwilling to face the hardships and cruelties of reality. They seek inner balance with various reasons and excuses, and they are getting farther and farther from reality.