The only way for ordinary people to succeed: find your talent and passion, and live a life that conforms to your talent
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no one is gifted
When it comes to talent, everyone naturally thinks of the musical genius Mozart. Mozart has shown extraordinary musical talent since he was a child, and he can play his sister's etudes completely when he is less than 4 years old.
And as ordinary people, we seem to have nothing to do with talent. In fact, no, talent does not equal genius.
Most of us are not geniuses, but all of us are gifted.
The so-called talent, a popular understanding, is a certain innate characteristic that allows a person to grow faster or achieve achievements in certain things or fields than the average person from the same starting point.
Ken Robinson, a British educator and well-known TED speaker, defines talent as follows in his book "Discovering Your Talent: Talent and Passion for a Happy Life":
"Some people may have a natural ability or a natural obsession (great enthusiasm) for some things or in some fields, which allows them to have the same experience or even no experience. Others grow at a speed and have their own uniqueness. Talent is a combination of talent and personal interest or passion."
Talent is often difficult to observe, and we ourselves are often unaware of where our talents lie. Do you think you have talent? What is your talent?
I once heard a story: two small fish were going down the river, and on the way they met a big fish that was going upstream. The big fish said, "Morning, children. How is the water today?" The two little fish smiled politely at it and continued to swim. After a while, one of the little fish asked the companion: "What is water?"—they had already regarded water as nothing, unaware that they were in it. Talent just makes you unaware.
The only way for ordinary people to succeed: find your talent and passion, and live a life that conforms to your talent
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Everyone needs to find talent
There are many people in the world who have discovered their talents, doing what they were born to do, and living happily and prosperously. This "rich" is not only material but also spiritual.
However, more people haven't found their talent, just like me a few years ago, they are not happy, life is just a matter of time for them.
What is it like to find your talent and live a life that conforms to your talent?
While I'm not quite sure I've found my true talent, I've probably experienced that feeling: living completely in love and passion, living a life full of happiness, fulfillment, and fulfillment, and looking forward to the future.
Even if it's not to live this life, but just to make yourself a little better, it's very necessary to find and adapt to your talents.
First, it is the need for self-knowledge.
Many times we are confused and hesitant because we don’t know ourselves, we don’t understand our talents, and we haven’t found a career for which we can work our whole life.
Second, it is also a need for the pursuit of happiness and self-actualization.
Discovering our buried talents, doing the work we like, and living the life we like can make us happier and happier.
Third, for financial reasons, you should also look for talent.
Talent has the potential to benefit you financially. Use your talents to make money, and you can get rich more easily. Knowing your talents will give you a better direction to develop, no matter what age you are in, it will be the best career path for self-realization.
The only way for ordinary people to succeed: find your talent and passion, and live a life that conforms to your talent
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How did I discover my talent?
I've been an untalented person since I was a kid, and I thought so until I was 24.
Because from childhood to adulthood, apart from hard study and good grades, there is no speciality. In the first place, it was also because of the limited conditions in my family that I didn’t even have the money to buy extra-curricular books for me, let alone support my interests and allow me to attend various training courses.
So until I graduated from college, I didn't know what I was really good at. Except for studying and studying, I couldn't achieve anything. After working for two years after graduation, the leader's evaluation was also "very average in all aspects, nothing particularly outstanding", the translation is too ordinary, no advantage.
When did I start discovering that I was gifted?
When I was 24 years old, I encountered a hurdle in my life. I was almost knocked to the ground and couldn't get up. I was speechless, depressed, depressed, and suffering inwardly. I felt that my life was over. But my desire to survive is still there, which makes me have to re-examine how I have gotten to where I am today in the past two decades.
I had to tear myself apart and smash myself before I could reshape myself and actually make a difference. I read a lot of books, psychological, cognitive, physical and spiritual, and I want to find a way to know myself and understand myself.
I look back on all my past experiences, from my background, family, growing environment, key events in my life, and other people's evaluations of me. The process is painful, but facing the pain is the beginning of healing.
Long-term negative energy, unsuitable work, wrong thinking concept, immaturity of mind, depression and loneliness... The final answer is probably, I know how I became who I am now, I just failed like this, and I am useless. What are you going to do with your life? I completely accepted myself and began to force myself to act.
I run, read, and write. I found a job I really liked and developed my advantages in the workplace. I found that I have some talents and great enthusiasm in reading and writing. For more than 2 years of reading and writing, I have After publishing a book, he also successfully developed writing into a sideline, which is also his hobby.
The only way for ordinary people to succeed: find your talent and passion, and live a life that conforms to your talent
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How to find your talent?
As we said earlier, talent is a combination of talent and passion. Adapting to talent is doing things that combine your talent and passion. One way of thinking is to find out what your talent and passion are, which we'll talk about later.
Another is to know the characteristics of talent and be able to identify the talent in the process of doing things.
- Grasp the four characteristics of talent, and identify where talent lies in doing things
What kind of existence is talent? In fact, it can be summed up in a simple sentence: talent is something that makes you feel powerful. In "Please Stop Ineffective Efforts", it is pointed out that talent has the following four characteristics.
①Self-effect: You will feel confident when you want to accomplish this. You will feel fulfilled and productive while doing it.
For example, Jordan always deliberately clapped his hands in front of the commentary stage before going on the court, and got the magnesium powder on the two commentators, which means that Jordan has no pressure, has a funny mood, and is very confident.
②Focus: When you do this, you have a strong thirst for knowledge, you are very focused, and you feel that time passes quickly.
Every time I write, read, and write, I become very focused, and even have a state of flow, which often passes 2 hours before I know it.
③Instinct: Before you start doing this, you can’t wait to start, and you are full of expectations for this.
If you have acting experience, you will find that everyone who really likes to stand on stage and perform can't wait to start expressing themselves before each performance.
④ Satisfaction: After you do it, you will feel a great sense of accomplishment and authenticity.
Many people who are good at thinking and love solving problems, after thinking and solving one problem after another, although they are very tired, they will definitely get great satisfaction in their hearts.
The above are the four characteristics of talent. Comparing the four characteristics of talent, pay attention to the following when you do things, and you can gradually discover your talent if you meet the above four characteristics.
