Want to be respected by others, must be usable by others, don't want to be disheartened, don't have to be responsive

Don't want to be disheartened, don't have to be responsive

Recently, I often answer on Toutiao and see that some Toutiao friends are asking some workplace-related questions. For example, yesterday, an HR who worked hard for the company for five years built a team, established a human resources platform, and planned various rules. , When I was pregnant, I went to Sunday without affecting my work. As a result, after returning from maternity leave, the team under him was disbanded, and his position was a strange person in charge of personnel. At one time, I couldn't understand why this was the case, why the boss was so ruthless.

Want to be respected by others, must be usable by others, don't want to be disheartened, don't have to be responsive

I have paid a lot for the company, and the salary is the lowest price of cabbage, and I have a heart of white powder. The end result is this.

In fact, I have read a lot of articles, and I have been thinking about this issue in the past and now, why is this happening? After reading the article, I feel as if I have found the answer, and the answer is the energy field. What is the energy field! That is to say, there is energy between people. When someone asks you for help, his energy is low, his value is low, and your value is high.

The same principle, you are in the long-term to pay, regardless of the return, blindly pay. The result is that your boss doesn't think you're worth that much, that you're worth very little. It is easy for people to throw away things that have no value. As mentioned in the question, the HR who worked for 5 years worked hard to build something, and finally made a wedding dress for others.

Only by constantly improving your own value can you make yourself more valuable. You can solve things that others can't solve, you can handle things that others can't, and you can handle things that others can't. Especially in the eyes of businessmen, they are always valued creatures, don't try to talk to any businessman, they are the most ruthless creatures.

Want to be respected by others, must be usable by others, don't want to be disheartened, don't have to be responsive

Even if you are valuable and have solutions that can be solved, don’t tell others all about it. When he is in trouble, he will listen to what you say and help you eagerly. Once his problem is solved, you will be worthless. In history, there have been many things about rabbits dying and dogs cooking birds trying to hide their bows, but now there is no such thing as a U-turn. But you must also think about yourself everywhere. When you pay, I must repay. I will not give you unconditional things that are not in return or are exchanged for equal value.

If you want others to respect, you must be able to use it

Why do others respect you? Why should I listen to you? Why should I approach you? I was thinking about this a while ago, why? Through my own observation and thinking, I found that everyone respects a financial manager.

I took a closer look and found that what others respect is not him, but the rights in his hands. The entire company's reimbursement process has to go through him. If he doesn't sign, the boss will not sign it for you. Some of the company's payment for goods that need to be transferred, the contract money signed, he does not nod the finance and no accountant dares to transfer the money to you. He said that if you don't pay your salary, you won't pay it. It's not that he won't pay it, but he can pay it to you later.

Therefore, everyone saw him saying hello to him, and there were many people who helped him when he had something to do.

Want to be respected by others, must be usable by others, don't want to be disheartened, don't have to be responsive

I've been thinking about why others take me seriously, and it's also because of this, because what you say doesn't count, what you promised can't be done, what you said, you can't do. Others don't need you, you are dispensable with others, you can do it if you don't find you, but you can't do it, why should I look for you, why should I look at your face, and respect you.

So I wondered if I had delegated power too much. I used to worry that if I signed more, I would take on more responsibilities, but slowly I didn’t sign a word, and I didn’t ask about everything. its own business.

Slowly I found that no one took me seriously, let alone respected this statement.