What exactly am I after? Break the life pattern, in the confusion, know yourself
The reason we are unhappy is because we have lost touch with our true selves. We don't know what we really want, so we are shaped by the outside world and our surroundings. Imagine if what you wanted to do and what you got was not what you wanted, would you be happy? Every day when you open your eyes, swipe your Moments, swipe Weibo, endless messages, when you put down your phone, your head is empty and inexplicably boring; in my spare time, I devote myself to various social activities, but I feel increasingly insincere, boring and pointless. I'm not participating and don't know what to do. I have to put on a mask and pass the time; I can't keep my spirits up at work, I've lost my fighting spirit, and I have no hope of fighting. I just want to retire and live a Buddhist life.
Therefore, we need to find our true self, understand the unknown self, and then break out of the established life pattern and build a new one that you desire to make it all come true. We must teach ourselves to know our unknown selves, to break out of life patterns to get what we want, and to achieve happiness through four steps: physical connection, emotional submission, mental examination, and identity recognition.
When you can't see yourself clearly in confusion, the individual may go with the flow and pursue the outer material and still feel at a loss. some people
Feeling even more empty, not even having a sense of "the meaning of life", even though they've reached the set goals. Some people have no confidence in life, so they don't want to challenge again, so as not to fail, that is "learned helplessness".
People who have no "meaning in life" or "learned helplessness" activate a defense mechanism to protect themselves from a mental breakdown. Defense mechanisms are a self-regulating process. It achieves emotional balance and inner peace by reducing sudden changes in external and internal reality by interpreting the perspective of threatening events. They either "deny" the value and importance of unattainable goals, or they "regress", returning to earlier stages of development and adopting childish behavior. In daily life, it may be self-deprecating, "Buddhist system", negative attitude, idleness, etc.
The first step in knowing yourself and connecting with your body
Yoga, swimming, walking, etc. Any movement that brings us to focus is a way of connecting with the body. The purpose of our connection with the body is to observe and understand our subconsciously controlled behavior and to understand the body's auto-navigation system. The body is the foundation of our existence. Overuse without maintenance can lead to problems and loss of functionality, so all joy is in vain. Therefore, we should take care of our health by paying attention to diet, working and resting regularly, etc.
Through our physical connection, we can feel our emotions and find that our emotions always follow certain patterns. Just like there are thousands of paths, you always choose the same path. We reciprocate on such a fixed pattern track. This is the memory of our body, and our body is nourished by a certain emotion, which is a certain peptide.
For example, a person loses his temper all the time, which is what his body needs. He was not well cared for when he was young. When he was hungry, he did not eat in time. No one paid attention to him when he lay down. He will cry. When he cried, his internal organs throbbed violently. Over a long period of time, he formed his own memories. As he grew up, he lost his temper. When he lost his temper, his body organs twitched.
How to relieve the body's need for this specific peptide
Surrender, surrender to what has happened, surrender to the emotions that arise from it. What has happened, what has happened, cannot be changed, so accept it from your heart. Emotions generate energy and we are in the energy field. If we're uncomfortable and want to make peptides, don't fight the emotion. If we fight and try to escape, we add energy to that emotion, do what we love, and bring joy to ourselves. Happiness is the light that melts negative emotions.
For example, when you want to lose your temper, walk away and do as many things as you can to make you happy, cook, do housework, read a book, watch a movie, watch comedy sports, plant flowers and chat, etc. Then you will find that the feeling of losing your temper goes away.
Thought inspection
Emotions are supported by thoughts. Now, check your thoughts. For example, at one point, an employee went to claim travel expenses, but the accountant didn't pay in time, so he and the accountant had a big fight. He thought that the accountant was against him and wanted to catch him and show him some color, but in fact, there was no money in the financial account at that time, and the accountant explained to him in every possible way that he did not believe it. You see, we made up a painful story about failing to pay on time.
identity
Take a good look at yourself, examine your own thoughts, and see what thoughts make us miserable, what thoughts are negative and incorrect, and what thoughts are true. Through this kind of meditation and contemplation, if you examine your own mind, you will discover your own patterns of life and liberate yourself. Through physical connection, emotional resignation, and mental scrutiny, we discover and break out of our own patterns of life that are inaccessible to our true selves, to our joy and tranquility, and to our identities.
In this modern society, there is no end to spiritual practice classes. We don't care where it ends. We just have to stay awake in the long night, accept the night, let the light of our souls diffuse, and tell ourselves that this is the way to go.