How do you get along with coworkers you hate but work with every day? Mature professionals, all grasp these 3 points
Recently, Xiao Zhang, a staff member who has always been proactive in his work, has become a little timid at work.
The reason is that for a long time, Xiao Zhang was really disgusted by his colleague Xiao Li's actions, but Xiao Zhang didn't know what to do.
At first, due to operational needs, Xiao Zhang's company was preparing to increase its publicity and publicity. Considering that Zhang's next ad text editing and image processing work will increase day by day, the leader transferred a colleague Xiao Li from other departments to work with her to complete the work at hand.
Because they are colleagues and need to work together every day, Xiao Zhang also briefly put forward some requirements for Xiao Li's work tasks, and asked her to help herself find some pictures with high definition and good content fit. Text editing and post-editing and processing of pictures are mainly done by Xiao Zhang.
At the beginning, Xiao Li and Xiao Zhang cooperated smoothly with each other, but the good times did not last long. Slowly, the pictures provided by Xiao Li were farther and farther away from the requirements put forward by Xiao Zhang, and the quality of the finished publicity products formed. There is a decline. When the leader questioned the two people, Xiao Zhang said that the original picture was not clear enough, while Xiao Li said that Xiao Zhang's picture processing technology was not enough.
After the first unpleasant experience with each other, when Xiao Zhang asked Xiao Li to find pictures, Xiao Li said that he would provide her with the text first.
, when looking for it, the pertinence is strong. On the other hand, Xiao Zhang insisted on following the propaganda direction, first looking for pictures, and then generating text according to the pictures, which is more efficient.
In this way, the work episodes continued, and the relationship between them became more and more rigid. Even later, Xiao Zhang didn't know how to start the work at hand.
In the workplace, the relationship between colleagues deteriorates due to work, and the work is passive due to poor relationship, which is a problem with high probability. It is difficult to tell who is right and who is wrong. Often it is the father who says the public is right, and the mother who says the mother is right. However, as far as the two parties who have conflict and estrangement are concerned, it can be attributed to the following four reasons:
Out of jealousy. The advantages of each other and the superior conditions presented by each other, such as high education, hard skills, background, outstanding appearance, and clear promotion and salary increase routes, etc., may cause the other party to form a psychological gap. unhappy.
Too subjective. They are accustomed to replacing objective facts with personal thoughts, and even say that with the heart of a villain, the belly of a gentleman is saved. Once you see a colleague approaching the leader, you think it is intentional flattery. When you see others taking the initiative to work, you feel that they are pushy and well-dressed, and you guess that the relationship with the individual leader is not normal, and so on.
Because of helplessness. Individuals want to help others but feel helpless themselves. Moreover, I was also worried that the other party would come to me for help because of this. Originally, the decision to help is up to the individual, but I felt that the other party asked me to help out of ridicule and satire on the individual, resulting in dissatisfaction.
Suffer from depression. The main reason is that the individual does not know how to refuse. Although he is reluctant to ask for help from his colleagues, he agrees with his mouth. If things go on like this, he will be exhausted both physically and mentally.
In this case, how can we live peacefully and harmoniously with colleagues who are annoying but have to get along every day? Mature professionals often start from the following three aspects:
- Be yourself
There is a saying, two things are the most difficult in the world: one is to put your own thoughts into other people's heads, and the other is to put other people's money into your own pockets. "
As far as the first thing is concerned, it is intended to tell us that we should not easily and do not have the luxury of using our own ideas to change others. Especially since they are both colleagues, the key to getting along well with each other is to base yourself on yourself and do your best first. Moreover, when you feel that other people are annoying you, maybe the other person also thinks that you are also annoying to them.
The relationship between colleagues is mainly established by work, and the initiative in how to deal with it is still up to oneself, and the key is to maintain an objective attitude.
Don't look at the colleagues with whom you get along every day with the eyes and thoughts of a magnifying glass, otherwise it will easily lead to misjudgment of the words and deeds of colleagues.
And some of the other's work styles and styles that make you feel uncomfortable are mainly the other party's problems. What you have to do is to remain objective and businesslike, even if you have a good relationship with colleagues.
In terms of work tasks, they should "brothers and clear accounts" to draw a clear line and avoid unnecessary disputes. In addition, there should be no too many private contacts.
Feng Tang said this sentence in the "Wonderful Flower Conference": everything in the world, a large part of the things, in the final analysis, there are two things, one is "none of my business", the other is "none of your business".
When it comes to other people's affairs, you don't have to be overly "concerned", take care of your own heart, take care of your own affairs, and focus on yourself and your work. That's it.
- To be tolerant
There is a saying that goes well: You can't push it, but you can't grab it if you don't. There is only one share of the benefits in the workplace, others get it, but you don't have it, and vice versa.
Since this is an objective fact, individuals may wish to view gains and losses, trade-offs and trade-offs in interests with a normal heart and a tolerant heart, and are willing to applaud colleagues who form a competitive relationship with the individual.
It is common for some colleagues, because they have been together for a long time, they can't help seeing each other as their competitors in all aspects. Because of the slightest interest, they will also attract mutual ridicule and ridicule, and even secretly demolish the stage. It seems that this is a bargain. , in fact, is to create trouble for himself.
Because many times, the truth will appear sooner or later, and the interests will eventually belong. When the truth is revealed and interests fall by the wayside, the people you ridiculed and excluded before can easily become a stumbling block to your progress.
On the contrary, when your so-called competitor is successful, you are willing to applaud for him, which will let him see the sincerity of you getting along with him, and in turn, he will give you equal or even excessive support.
The so-called grudge is easy, the relationship is difficult. Getting along with people is sometimes like tying knots. Dead knots are simple, but they get tighter and tighter. Slip knots are complicated, but easy to open.
- Carefully offend
This has happened to me before in the company. Colleagues Xiao Zhao and Xiao Sun are both salesmen in the sales department. Xiao Zhao is usually very diligent in his work. He is busy with the maintenance of customer relations all day long, and sometimes leaves early and returns late.
When she saw her colleague, Xiao Sun, looking at her mobile phone for a while and eating some snacks all day long, she was very unhappy. Moreover, after a few days, Xiao Zhao often made his mouth dry because of calling customers for a long time, while Xiao Sun sometimes didn't even make a call.
Later, Xiao Zhao really couldn't get used to Xiao Sun's "big heart" state, and took the opportunity to make a small report to the department leaders. He thought that there would definitely be enough for Xiao Sun to drink a pot next time, but he did not expect that Xiao Sun was not criticized or even fired as Xiao Zhao imagined.
On the contrary, when the company's products entered the off-season, Xiaosun brought millions of operating income to the company in just half a month by virtue of his personal relationship. As a result, the company also made a special notification and commendation.
When Xiao Sun learned of what Xiao Zhao did in private, the relationship between the two fell to a "freezing point".
In the workplace, behind every face, there is an intricate interest relationship with the company, which is difficult to identify and see through in a short period of time. And when a person who seems to be useless can sit comfortably in his seat, there must be something special about him.
Therefore, do not easily offend colleagues you think are not important at any time, and do things that correspond to your identity. This is the safest protection for yourself.
Epilogue
Getting along with people who hate you, and getting along for a long time, tests your cultivation and tempers your xinxing, which helps to continuously improve and improve yourself. When you can truly get along with each other, you will gain maturity and open-mindedness, and upgrade your workplace wisdom.