Get along with people in the workplace, learn these 4 little details, you will become more and more popular

Yesterday on the subway, I met an aunt who called. Xu was in trouble and shouted loudly on the subway. During the morning rush hour, there were a lot of people on the bus, and she kept shouting if no one was around, which attracted many people's attention.

Personal anger turns into anger, and losing your temper in a public place is not a very decent thing after all.

In fact, everyone’s words and deeds hide their own upbringing. Many times, our gestures and gestures are shaping our own personal brand. Those natural manifestations are the manifestations of our inner values.

And an educated person has probably achieved these four details.

01 Chat with patience and be good at listening

A few days ago, a student of the writing group told the story of our writing tutor.

A group of them met with their teachers offline in Hefei and chatted a lot together. She talked about such details and chatted together at night. When others were talking, the teacher always stared at each other seriously and did not interrupt. When it is the teacher's turn to speak, he will stop at an appropriate time to confirm with the other party whether he understands. Encountered incomprehensible problems, repeated explanations, no impatience.

This reminds me of the clip of the teacher's revision. Our homework, the teacher will choose to modify the voice communication. On the phone, every time the teacher pointed out a problem, he would repeatedly hack me to confirm whether the revision was completed or not. The whole process was patient and meticulous. When he finally hung up the phone, he insisted on waiting for me to end the call before hanging up.

Sometimes what moves us is not necessarily a grand event, but just a gesture. This action can surprise and warm others.

02 Give people a sense of safety and reliability

It's our teacher's story.

When we met, a few people went out to eat together. Walking on the road, the teacher quietly moved to the outside of the road at some point, letting the girls walk on the inside, and a group of people were instantly fanned by the teacher, a big warm man.

A person who dares to expose himself to danger naturally makes people feel at ease and reliable.

When entering the restaurant, he will open the door first, wait for everyone to enter, and then close the door at the end. On the day of separation, some practitioners arrived home after one o'clock at night. At this time, I still received the teacher's WeChat: Are you home?

That night, the teacher asked everyone's estimated time to arrive home, and they went to sleep after confirming that everyone arrived safely. Small details warm everyone in the writing camp.

03 Be forgiving when you do things, and let others go down the stairs

Some people like to be unreasonable. I feel that I am reasonable, talk non-stop, and don't give other people face.

Once I went to the hospital to get medicine, something like this happened at the medicine outlet. While waiting for the medicine to be collected, I suddenly heard an aunt shouting cursingly: "I clearly queued up and turned my head, why did you get in front of me? You obviously cut the queue." Another aunt, whether intentional or unintentional, saw this after seeing this. Immediately apologize and go back to your place.

We thought it was going to end like this, but we were all wrong. The aunt felt that she was being reasonable, and for at least the next 5 minutes, she kept talking in the pharmacy hall. During the period, another aunt apologized many times, but it didn't work.

In the end, the uncle next to him couldn't see it, and his voice was raised an octave: "Okay, they have already given you the seat, so what's the noise." Besides, the matter of delaying a few minutes is worth your arguing for so long! As soon as the voice fell, the aunt's voice became quieter, but she was still complaining in a low voice.

Such people are not welcome in life. Everyone makes mistakes, learn to be convenient with others, that is, to be convenient with yourself. Give each other a step, and both parties are comfortable and happy.

04 You will praise people behind your back

I have a friend who is very popular because he praises people.

When having dinner with friend A, say good things about B, and when having dinner with B, say how good C is. In short, he likes to compliment others when they can't hear them.

Don't worry, he didn't talk nonsense, but told others about the shining points of the other party. Those who know him will say that he is right, and those who do not know will also want to get to know the friend who was mentioned. After a long time, everyone knows that he has praised himself and likes to play with him more.

He has more and more friends and has introduced a lot of people to others. In fact, the way to get along with people is very simple, to make the other person feel comfortable, surprise, respect, warmth, surprise, and care.

In this society, everyone needs to be cared for.

We don’t need to be a particularly powerful person. When interacting with people, we should consider each other more, and we will naturally become more and more popular.