Social rules: If friends are always invited to dinner, it means that the relationship between friends has become estranged
Xiaohui remembered that a few friends hadn't been together for a long time, so he called and asked everyone to come out for a party. This one has something to do today, that one has an appointment tomorrow, and it took a long time to communicate before setting the date. Xiaohui felt very uncomfortable. Several friends in this circle only got together once for a long time, and every time they had dinner together, they treated guests by themselves, and no one else took the initiative to invite everyone. He also felt the estrangement from everyone. The topic we are going to talk about today is: If friends are always entertained at dinner, it means that the relationship between friends has become estranged. Let's analyze it below.
- You are always entertaining guests, indicating that others no longer value this circle
Xiaohui always wants everyone to get together every once in a while, so he always treats guests. But others didn't think so, and they were not so positive when they received Xiaohui's invitation. This shows that others no longer pay attention to this circle. Maybe a few people used to have a very good relationship, but as time passed, there was less contact with each other, and the relationship was not so deep. Xiaohui is emotional, and wants to bring everyone together, but others only come to the appointment passively, and have no intention to strengthen the connection.
- One person's enthusiasm alone cannot sustain a circle
Xiaohui warmly invited everyone to have a dinner party, so that the circle could be maintained in a short time. Although other people don't pay attention to this circle, but they don't have to do anything, they can still maintain a certain amount of contact, and they are so happy. But if it goes on like this for a long time, Xiaohui's enthusiasm alone will not be able to sustain this circle. Socializing is not a matter of one party, it needs each other to be motivated to last long. Xiaohui persisted for a while, but he didn't see any improvement, and he would gradually become disheartened and let nature take its course.
- Everyone's circle is changing. If you can't keep it, don't keep it.
Everyone's social interaction is dynamic, and the friends around them are constantly changing. As your job or place of residence changes, you will have more contact with some people and less contact with others. When everyone has been in contact for a long time, the relationship in this circle will be closer, and everyone will go their separate ways, and the circle will gradually fade away. People are all pursuing progress. With a better or more suitable circle, the connection with the original circle will naturally be less, which cannot be forced.