Don't think highly of your contacts, wine is good for character, learn to use occasions to filter contacts
There are many people in each person's address book. There are as few as 100 people, and there are too many to count. However, many people are proud of the various "relationships" developed in social places, such as classes, meetings, dinners, wine tables, evening banquets, KTV, saunas, etc., but these relationships are generally unreliable. In the absence of an emotional foundation, the feelings are not personal, and the comprehensive strength is fully exerted. For the weak, some so-called relationships that appear to be booming are in fact false prosperity.
- Society is a pyramid.
Everyone wants to climb to the top of the pyramid. The distance between you and people of different levels and fields is not a star and a half. As long as you are at a higher level, you will not be in contact with people from other fields. Third-rate actors are matched with third-rate directors, and third-rate companies are paired with third-rate employees.
It is difficult for a young scholar who has just graduated from a Ph.D. to know a grass-roots government official, but academicians can easily communicate with the provincial governor for a cup of tea.
Therefore, it is not the breadth of your network that determines your effective interaction, but your own level of strength. It doesn't matter how many people you know and how many you can visit. It's not that I know who I meet every day, and whoever goddess who eats with such a celebrity gives me a WeChat ID, I will build friendships or form new online resources with them. The key is whether I have enough money.
Second, inside and outside the circle is not important, what is important is strength.
Even if we are in the same circle and have certain characteristics - it, entertainment, investment, academics, etc., we often get together and participate in activities together, but we still have no chance to establish real friendship and stable connection with them, let alone talk about Not on "Human Resources". The reason is that the great God can only see the great God at the same height, and we still cannot see the great God.
Most of the time, we are too weak to cast out the olive branch of our common traits. For most disadvantaged groups, blindly "expanding contacts", hanging out in various "social occasions", and joining various "WeChat group chats" are of little significance. Its role is far from focusing on improving its own efficiency. Instead of kneeling and licking, manage some "relationships" that may be broken or even illusory, and become part of a good person, or at least get closer to the level of a good person.
- Does friendship have to be based on strength? uncertain.
After all, friendship is for different reasons. Friendship exists in time and space. It's very different in every way. However, utilitarian social communication with the goal of "managing human resources" must be based on strength. If you want to be called a loving "family", you must first enter "a door" if we are capable of crossing the "threshold".
Friendships can be won and maintained only by "strengthening"? Not always. After all, there are many ways to build and maintain friendships. But what is certain is that there is no better way to maintain a utilitarian "network" than to be strong. The best way to connect with millionaires is to become a billionaire with them.
So, aren't all purposeful "connections" real friendships? That's not necessarily, but that's not the point. In the absence of an emotional basis, interest-based social interaction must be based on the bargaining power among stakeholders. Basic. You can find any price you want. As for whether someone weighs the pros and cons of this, everything is possible, and people are unfathomable. If contact and resonance increase in the future, it may be sublimated to a non-utilitarian one friend.
Longqi deep mountains, Fengqi Wutong, as long as we continue to make progress, everyone will naturally have a group of like-minded true friends, and will expand and gather some "connections" that can play a practical role. We need to enrich ourselves at any time, and it is never too late to make all decisions.