3 kinds of friends, fun to play, but they will hurt you for a lifetime! It's not too late to understand now!
It is said that a hero has three gangs, and he relies on his parents and friends at home. It is undeniable that there are a few friends in society and the workplace who are very helpful to his life and work. However, the editor observed a circle of friends around me and found that their circle of friends has a very significant feature. Almost all of their friends have personalities and temperaments that can get along with them. And there are few who complement their personalities.
I once heard a big man in the industry say that if you want to start a business by yourself, you must not find friends with him, because he cannot complement himself. As the saying goes, people are divided into groups, and what kind of friends are around them, then either you influence them, or you become what they are.
If your friend does the following three things regularly, stay away from him, no matter how hard your relationship is.
3 kinds of friends, fun to play, but they will hurt you for a lifetime! It's not too late to understand now!
- The time after get off work is spent on games and entertainment, destined to be ordinary
One day, I was on a business trip with President Xu of the company, and President Xu asked the editor what these newcomers to the company usually do in the dormitory after get off work. I said, "I usually don't have any activities. I read books by myself, and occasionally watch movies, but I don't have any other activities."
Mr. Xu asked: "You and other people don't usually do activities together?"
I replied, "I usually go out for dinner with other people at most, and I can't get together with them in other activities."
President Xu smiled: "Don't look at the size of the company, but as long as there is any news in the company, it will be spread everywhere. I have also heard a little about what other people do after get off work, isn't it just playing cards. In fact, I personally do not I don't object to employees playing cards after get off work. After all, this is also a way to relax. But they are all young men in their 20s. At such a good age, it is obviously a waste to play cards after get off work. You must know that people are in their 20s and 30s. The time is when the physical strength and learning ability are the strongest, and it is the fastest time to learn something. You can see that I am over 50 now, and I have no energy to learn anything. So from the time they spend playing cards after get off work, most of them are I'm just messing around, and I spend such precious time playing poker. If you want to play poker, you can play poker every day after the age of 40."
Xu's words have always been in my heart. Take advantage of your youth and do more other things by trial and error after get off work. It is a waste of time to play games and entertainment. After the game entertainment, apart from killing time, apart from a memory and short-term happiness, I got nothing.
If you were a parent, what would you like your child to do with friends in their spare time? What about yourself?
3 kinds of friends, fun to play, but they will hurt you for a lifetime! It's not too late to understand now!
- Those who do not study are destined to be eliminated
A person's growth is related to what he has experienced, and the only way to accelerate growth is through learning.
If learning is likened to playing games, the normal upgrade process is to fight monsters to upgrade. And learning is to take the experience pill and brush the experience. Many people now feel that no matter how much they read, no matter how much they learn, they may not make more money. It's better not to read or study. To be honest, there is no reason to refute this typical theory that reading is useless.
I once looked at a statistic that China's economic growth was 4 to 5 times that of the United States, but the per capita reading volume in China indicated that it was less than one-fifth of that of the United States. The author draws a conclusion that China is now changing almost every 6-7 years, which means that what you learned and learned six or seven years ago may not be useful after six or seven years. If you want to keep yourself from being eliminated by the speed of China's development, you must keep learning continuously, and at least read more than 10 books every year.
If a person does not study, then his level and ability cannot be said to no longer grow, but he may not be able to keep up with the growth of this society, and one day he will be eliminated by this society. If this person is your friend and he does not study, it means that he has cut off the way to acquire new abilities, and for yourself, you cannot acquire new abilities through him. The result is that he is worse than you. Under the influence of subtle influence, it is very likely that he will not study like him.
If you want to not be eliminated, then you must first keep learning. But the reality is not so simple, those friends around you who don't study will tell you, don't study, study is useless, they want you to be like them. If you are surrounded by people who don't learn, then it is not good for your own growth.
If you were a parent would you like your child's friend to be a reluctant learner? What about yourself?
3 kinds of friends, fun to play, but they will hurt you for a lifetime! It's not too late to understand now!
- Those who say no when they speak are doomed to achieve nothing
Xiao Bian was in the original company, and the salary was very low. At that time, several colleagues of the same age complained about the low salary. But complaining is complaining, and the editor has not seen their real action. The editor himself was thinking of some ways to develop income, and later had the opportunity to talk to one of my colleagues. Unexpectedly, before he finished speaking, he was interrupted to say no, and asked him to explain the reason, but he couldn't say it. This happened a few times later, so my relationship with him gradually stopped at work, because the editor felt that he would say no to everything, instead of thinking about how to make an idea.
If the first thing that comes to mind when you encounter something is that it will not work, then you will naturally not find a way to do it. It really made Xiaobian realize that if you encounter something, the first thing you think about is not how to achieve it, but how difficult it is to achieve it.
At that time, the leader of the company asked Xiaobian to attend a high-level meeting in the north by myself, but I was the only one who needed to prepare the materials and release them by myself. The leader said, you can just let it go by yourself, you don't have to worry about it. So I just wrapped everything up by myself. Although the final result was not as good as I expected. But through this incident, the editor clearly felt that if I said no and didn't do it at the beginning, I would never know how to do this thing, and I would still not be able to do the same next time I encountered it. But if you first think about things and problems, how to do them, and then solve the problem, even if you fail, you have accumulated experience, and the next time you do it, the probability of success will be much higher.
And those who encounter things and difficulties will say no when they open their mouths, escaping from thinking and blocking their own path of change. In the days to come, he will stay at the current level forever until he is eliminated.
If you were a parent, would you like your child's friend to be someone who is willing to bring ideas to life or someone who backs down when things get tough? What about yourself?
3 kinds of friends, fun to play, but they will hurt you for a lifetime! It's not too late to understand now!
If he knows how to play after get off work, he doesn't know how to learn to improve himself, and if he says no to new things, then he is destined to be eliminated by society. If you have a friend like this, please reason with him. Because he has already pronounced on his life, his choice is ordinary and mediocre, if you want to be with him, but don't regret it.