'Don't reach out, don't intervene, don't disclose' the three iron laws of getting along with colleagues (recommended collection)
Many people in the workplace can't tell the difference between a colleague and a friend. Many people lack a sense of boundaries when dealing with colleagues. Whether it is national affairs, family affairs, work affairs, big or small, they will tell their colleagues one by one. If your coworker has ulterior motives for you, what you say to her will hurt you.
So at work, we should distinguish between friends and colleagues, because colleagues work for the same boss and have a common goal and mission. At this time, you are allies, but when your interests conflict, your friendship collapses.
Therefore, the maintenance of interpersonal relationships in the workplace is very important. You have to manage carefully. how did you do that? Today, let's discuss what to watch out for when communicating with others so that you can protect yourself.
- Don't expect too much when dealing with people
Yesterday, I was focusing on a game. My favorite team won the championship. Then I went to the WeChat group with great interest to share with my colleagues, but they completely ignored what I shared with them.
And then I thought, why isn't anyone talking to me and having fun together? In fact, many of us are prone to self-centeredness. We think it's very important that it doesn't matter to other people.
So in interpersonal communication, don't take this kind of thing seriously, and don't expect others to reply to you. Even though everyone likes to identify with you, people still don't like you when you don't do well. Therefore, when sharing with others, you must have a correct attitude towards yourself and lower your psychological expectations. You won't get too frustrated and you won't be easily disappointed. The so-called friendship between gentlemen is like water.
- Learn to distinguish the two types of interpersonal relationships
There are two kinds of people in your work circle. One is a valuable relationship, the kind of people you can communicate freely with and value each other. Such people are easy to get along with, don't bother to cater to them.
The other is what we usually call consumer relationships. For example, some very boring people around you think it's a burden to associate with them. And, those who complain about life every day and pass you on negative energy every day. These people are consumer relationships. You'd better keep your distance from them and spend more time and energy on worthy relationships.
- Learn to shelve disputes
I hate when people fight with me, but in the workplace, it's inevitable to have some problems, if we have different ideas, we will fight, or just have some arguments during the workday. When two parties fight, they fight each other, and it is very important to learn to set aside disputes at this time.
It's normal to disagree sometimes, but don't be hostile just because you disagree. Not necessary.
My aunt was demoted a few days ago and moved from army headquarters. My aunt is the head teacher of a chain kindergarten. A husband and his son knocked over an aunt's cosmetic bag. His nephew's head teacher and aunt were very angry. When they were about to educate their children, the children's parents saw it and argued for a long time because of this little thing.
A few days later, the parents relied on the help and background of the family to transfer the aunt to a township school. So quarrels will hurt both sides and lose face. Learn to shelve this contradiction, and everyone will be fine.
- Gold always shines
Why some people are rarely transparent in the workplace. think about it. In fact, people think you have no use value and are not a threat to them, so people pay little attention to you. A lot of people feel that by pleasing others, by obeying others, you will be better off. In fact, relationships are not.
Everyone is mutually beneficial and comes and goes, so you have to find what is good for others in order to have a better network. Finally, don't interfere with your coworkers' housework. You are afraid to talk about private matters in the company.
There is a situation where you want to be friends with her, but after hearing some bad things, you both start demeaning him together, so you can't be friends. In fact, you become a catharsis for others. In interpersonal communication, we must pay attention to these points, your interpersonal relationship will be