Social rules: You think you know a lot of people, only to find out that no one can be found when you encounter something
Many people's first reaction after encountering an incident is to look at their mobile phones, hoping to find someone who can help from the address book, but it took a long time to find that there was no one to look for. I often participate in various social activities and think I know a lot of people, but when I really need help from others, I realize that there are very few people I can rely on. That's what we're going to talk about today. Why this happens, let's analyze it in detail.
- You think you know so many people, but most of them have only met
Many people pay too much attention to the number of interpersonal interactions in social interaction, thinking that the more people they know, the better. They like to go to dinner parties of all kinds, talk to strangers and keep in touch with each other. As more and more people have met, and there are more and more names in the mobile phone address book, they have the illusion that they have friends all over the world. But most of the people here have only met or drank before, and have no actual communication, let alone any friendship at all. Walking down the street, he may be nodding and saying hello to many people, but no one can stop and have a good chat.
- No one can find anything when you encounter something, maybe because your circle is too single
They thought they had many friends, but they didn't seriously sort out their interpersonal relationships. Most of the people he was familiar with were probably from a certain circle. In most cases, these people belong to his work circle, an extension of his work-personal interactions. In other words, he does not have a wide network of contacts, and he rarely knows people in other industries. If you want to have a more optimized network, you should plan for interpersonal relationships, you must have a reliable friend in key industries, and do not repeat interpersonal relationships in a small circle.
- You have greater value yourself, and the people you know are more willing to help you
Sometimes, he does know a lot of people, but these people are not willing to help him. If a person is not good, it is useless to know more good people, because others don't take him to heart at all. Only when you have greater value in yourself will others be more willing to approach you to help you. Interpersonal communication is largely a potential exchange of resources. You have social value exchanged with others, and your relationship is equal. Don't rush to participate in various social events, try to make yourself have social value first. When you become good, you will find that people around you are more willing to help you.