Be careful! If a colleague has these 7 actions when talking to you, he is most likely lying to you!
In workplace life, it is inevitable that others will lie. Of course sometimes white lies can help ease tension between people. Doing so would be embarrassing for both parties if it is too calculating and probing. Many friends with rich social experience are very good at observing words, and they can almost tell at a glance whether others are lying or telling the truth. The editor later discovered such a master. Later, I don't know how long I have been pestering him, and how many meals I have invited him to learn his skills.
But after I learned it, I found a problem. It is clear at a glance whether other people are lying and whether they are lying to myself, but what can I do for myself? Knowing that he was lying to himself, but to expose him? This is not to say that this method is useless. Using this method in the workplace and even in the negotiation process can help you avoid many traps and take some detours.
When a person is lying, it is inevitable that there will be some small movements in the body. These are actually closely related to the subconscious mind. Unless they are deliberately controlled, even the liar will not know that these movements are made by himself.
- Cover your mouth when speaking
There are three reasons for doing this when speaking, either because he is loud, or because the words are very secret, or the words themselves are lies. The subconscious action made him feel the need to cover up to ease the psychological guilt. This can be judged by the distance between the two parties and the topic of conversation when talking with colleagues to determine whether the other party is lying.
- Rub your eyes when you finish speaking
There are three reasons for this action of rubbing your eyes when speaking. The other party's eyes have entered the sand, the eyes are ill, or they are nervous and cause interference. When a person is lying, the pupils will dilate, and the frequency of blinking will also be reduced, because the nervousness needs to stare at the person. This causes eye interference. Rubbing your eyes unconsciously after speaking is to relieve the discomfort caused by dry eyes.
- Wash hands after speaking
If people touch dirty things, they naturally have to wash their hands to avoid getting germs. But what if people wash their hands when they tell lies or do bad things? In fact, it is because after lying and doing bad things, there will be a psychological burden, and the action of washing your hands can just ease the psychological burden. This is a psychology experiment conducted by a foreign university. The odds of washing hands after lying were more than 50% higher than those who did not lie.
- Touch your ears when you speak
This part of the ear is particularly rich in capillaries and is also particularly prone to redness. Especially in the case of rapid changes in body temperature and mood swings, redness is particularly prone to occur. When lying, the whole person is tense, the heart beats faster, the blood flow accelerates, and the body heat inevitably rises, causing the ear, which is particularly sensitive to body temperature, to become red or even itchy, so the liar will touch it unconsciously. Touch your ears. Even if it's not a lie, it proves that he is very nervous at this time.
- Touch your nose while talking
The nose is also rich in capillaries, and like the ears, can turn red when the body changes. When lying, the body secretes a hormone that causes swelling in the nose, increases blood pressure in the capillaries, and causes itching sensations with nerve endings in the nose. At this time, people who speak will unconsciously frequently touch their nose with their hands to relieve the itching symptoms.
- Touch the back of your neck when talking
If you find him touching the back of your neck when talking to your colleague in the workplace, you can only explain two problems. Either he's a shy and honest person, or he's feeling a little embarrassed about the topic he's talking about, or he's lying. The reason is very simple. It is because of the changes in body temperature and the large number of nerves in the back of the neck that cause itching on the back of the neck, which needs to be relieved by touching it from time to time.
- Flickering eyes when speaking
It is said that the eyes are the windows to the soul. The eyes are more like receivers of signals. Because most of the information is received through our eyes. When other people are talking, their eyes are erratic and they don't dare to look directly. Either they don't want to continue the conversation, or they are nervous, and the other is lying, so as to avoid causing more inner tension to the matter.
You can use these 7 small physical actions to judge whether others are deceiving us when we are talking to others. Similarly, when we need to deceive people, we should pay special attention, do not do these actions, and control them deliberately.