Social rules: Interpersonal communication is like playing badminton, you must be a master who can cooperate with you
Xiaodong and Xiaohui are friends, both of them love to play badminton, and they both think their level is pretty good. Although the two often play together, they both think that the other party is not as good as themselves. But both of them like to play ball with Xiaofei, although Xiaofei and them have known each other for a short time. Because playing with Xiaofei, I can always play many rounds at once, which is fun and very comfortable. Both Xiaodong and Xiaohui think that they are on the same level as Xiaofei, and they always like to play with Xiaofei.
Until one day, their city held a badminton competition, and Xiaofei won the third place in the city. Xiaodong and Xiaohui are not eligible to compete at all. At this time, the two of them realized that Xiao Fei's level was not even a little bit higher than theirs. But Xiao Fei has never shown that he is very powerful, and he is always humble and easy-going when getting along with others. In fact, interpersonal communication is like playing badminton. You must be a master who can cooperate with you. If you're comfortable with someone, it's often not because you're on the same level, but because the other person is much higher than you.
- When a master communicates with you, he will consider your feelings
When Xiaohui and Xiaodong were playing, all they thought about was how to play at their own level, and they wanted to beat each other quickly, and their level was limited, so they had to pick up the ball and serve again after a few hits. But when playing with Xiaofei, Xiaofei's ability to control the ball is quite strong. No matter what he serves, he can catch it, and he can even let you catch it when he hits it back. He'll take your feelings into consideration and beat you in one or two strokes. Interpersonal communication is not like this. Although a master can see your various shortcomings in communication, he respects your feelings and makes you feel comfortable to get along with.
- Masters get along with everyone on an equal footing, neither humble nor arrogant
Xiaohui and Xiaodong play together, always wanting to appear to be of a higher level, and disdain to play with those with a lower level. In the process of playing, I always want to hold down the opponent. But Xiaofei is obviously different. He has a very high level, but is happy to play with everyone. He can adapt to you if your level is high, and he can adapt to you if your level is low. The relationship between two people is also the same. When a master gets along with others, he is always neither humble nor arrogant. No matter your status, he can always interact with you in a suitable manner.
- The masters have strengths that completely surpass you, but they are often very low-key
Xiaofei's badminton level is obviously very high, and he can completely crush Xiaodong and Xiaohui, but in the process of playing together, he did not show his superb level, which made Xiaodong and Xiaohui mistake him for him. same level. You can see Xiao Fei's low profile. The same is true for the social interaction of masters. They do not show off their network circles, and they are low-key and serious with whomever they are with. Only those who didn't do well, always put on a superior look.