If you're not going to drink, it's best not to go to dinner
After get off work, Xiaohui received a call from a friend and invited him to a dinner party. Xiaohui is going to drive out of town tomorrow to talk about a project, so he can't drink alcohol and is hesitant to go. But a friend called to urge him again, saying that it was okay to drink or not, and he must go. He had to go to participate, thinking that he would only chat with everyone during the dinner. But I didn't expect that during the dinner, everyone persuaded him to drink. In the end, because he didn't drink, several people were still very angry. This made Xiaohui very uncomfortable. Today we're going to talk about this: If you're not going to drink, you'd better not go to dinner. Let's analyze it below.
- It’s unfair from a certain point of view that everyone else drinks but you don’t.
At the beginning of the dinner, everyone is often reserved and polite, and everything has rules. But after three rounds of drinking, everyone will talk more, and they can open their hearts and speak freely. A lot of things that can't be said normally can be said at this time. If everyone else drinks and you don't. It's like sitting there listening awake while everyone is opening up and talking. It's not fair that you have access to a lot of other people's information and not share it yourself. Drinking alcohol means telling others the other side of yourself, but you refuse to. Of course others don't want to.
- Going to a dinner party but not drinking is sometimes worth the loss.
If you've ever had the experience of others drinking and not drinking, I'm sure you wouldn't feel comfortable sitting there. When everyone is chatting happily, you have to pour wine and tea for everyone, but you can't speak. You feel like it's a very long time, and it's really hard to sit there. Others will not be so polite to people who don't drink. There will always be people who persuade people to drink, and they may be sarcastic when they fail to persuade them to drink. You did not gain friends or establish a good image by participating in this dinner. Sometimes it is really worth the loss.
- If you want to participate in a dinner party without drinking alcohol, you must work hard to improve your social value
Although some friends do not want to drink, they are not willing to give up the opportunity to participate in the dinner. They see the dinner party as a platform for making friends and getting information. But many times after he went, he found that he had to drink. However, there are often some more free people in the dinner party. Everyone is welcome to drink, and no one will drink alcohol if they don't drink. Generally speaking, such people have a higher status in this social circle. For example, in this dinner Xiaohui attended, the boss of a certain group company did not drink because he had to talk about business the next day. If you also want to achieve "drinking freedom", then you'd better improve your social value first.