Even if you really want to socialize with the other person, don't give things for no reason
A new colleague came to Xiaodong's company, who happened to live on the same street as Xiaodong. Although they are not in the same department, there are still some intersections in their work, and their personalities are very similar to Xiaodong. So Xiaodong wanted to strengthen communication with this colleague. One day after get off work, Xiaodong met this colleague and exchanged a few words. In order to get closer, he took out a box of tea from the trunk and gave it to the colleague. Although the colleague pushed it several times, he finally accepted it. Xiaodong is also very happy, thinking that he has further strengthened his relationship with his colleagues. A few days later, Xiaodong wanted to send two bottles of wine to his colleague, but the colleague refused to accept it, which made both sides very embarrassed, and the relationship was alienated by reflection.
The topic we are going to talk about today is: Even if you really want to communicate with the other party, don't give the other party something for no reason. This approach will not be effective. Let's analyze it below.
- Sending things for no reason will cause misunderstanding and vigilance on the other side
You are walking on the street, and suddenly someone comes to give you a gift, do you dare to accept it? I think the vast majority of people refused and quickly fled the scene. Because everyone knows that there is no pie in the sky, there may be some tricks in it, and it's not worth falling into the tricks for a little profit. The same is true in interpersonal communication. If you give the other person something for no reason, the other person will definitely think about the reason why you sent the thing. Before you figure out the reason, the other party will not dare to accept your things easily, let alone because of the closer relationship between the two parties.
- Remember one thing: no one wants to owe someone a favor
Everyone often sees such a scene: people at a table in a restaurant are rushing to pay each other after eating, and some even quarrel about it. You don't need to be confused. Many times people are rushing to pay the bill just because they don't want to owe others a favor. The two are not so familiar with each other, and they feel bad about asking the other party to invite them to dinner, so they rush to pay the bill. The same is true of sending things. You feel that you are expressing your enthusiasm, but in an unfamiliar situation, the other party does not want to owe you this favor.
- If you want to give something to others, you must find the right opportunity
Some friends may ask: Can't you give gifts to others? Of course not, but you must find the right opportunity and pay attention to some details. First of all, the things you send must not be expensive, and the value should not exceed half a day's salary. Gifts that are too expensive can put pressure on the other person. Second, be sure to find a reason to send something. For example, the other party's birthday, or to thank the other party. If there is no such opportunity, you can create an opportunity, such as asking the other party to do some small pointers in some aspects, in order to express gratitude, send the other party a small gift. Also, pay attention to the delivery scene, preferably in a very casual and relaxed environment, without being so deliberate.