Don't be too concerned about others, or you'll feel uncomfortable
Once on a train, there were a lot of people on the train. Many of them were standing tickets. There were several young people who looked like college students standing beside Xiaohui. A boy politely asked Xiaohui: "Are you getting off at the next stop?" Xiaohui nodded, and the boy pointed to a boy beside him and said, "Will you give him your seat when you get off?" Xiaohui accepted. The boy asked several people next to each other and asked them to give up their seats to the boys and girls in the same group. Strangely, the others did not thank the boy for what he had done, and all looked disgusted. They may be very disdainful of the boy's actions. Today we are going to talk about the topic: Don't be too concerned about others, otherwise you will feel uncomfortable. Let's analyze it below.
- Excessive concern can sometimes make others feel uncomfortable
This boy's approach should be very considerate, basically he can be regarded as a warm man. But why didn't his classmates buy it? Because his approach made other students feel out of bounds. They think that if they want to find a seat, they can find it by themselves, there is no need for him to arrange it, and they may not want to find a seat. Although this boy was well-intentioned, he did not take into account the thoughts of others, so he was not understood. There are often situations in life where you feel like you are doing it for the good of others, but being overly concerned makes others feel uncomfortable.
- Excessive concern will make people think that your concern is worthless
You may have seen the following story. A young man looked at a beggar pitifully and gave him 10 yuan a day for meals for a year. A year later, the young man gave the beggar 5 yuan and told him the reason because of the increase in household expenses after marriage. But the beggar became angry all of a sudden: "What, you actually use the money you gave me to support your wife?!" A person can't care too much about others. Your concern has also become worthless in his eyes.
- Appropriate care promotes friendship, and excessive care wrongs oneself
If the female colleague opposite you is worried about not being able to unscrew the bottle cap of the mineral water, and you unscrew it for her, she should say "thank you". But if you see her taking mineral water in the future, you take the initiative to go up and twist the bottle cap, it is estimated that female colleagues will not dare to drink mineral water in front of you in the future. Appropriate care can promote mutual affection. A friendly greeting, a little help, will make people feel like spring breeze. But if you try to help others out of nowhere, others may not understand or even alienate you.