A friend invites everyone to dinner, but another friend informs me, should I go?
After get off work, my colleague Xiaodong has been sitting still. I thought he was working overtime, but found that he was just playing games. It was a long time after get off work, and there was no one in the company, and Xiaodong still didn't leave. When I asked him why he didn't leave, he said that he had a friend for a treat today and would go to dinner later. But it's almost eight o'clock in the evening, so I should go. Xiaodong explained that a friend invited everyone to dinner, but instead of calling him directly, he asked another friend to inform him. He didn't want to go at first, but he was afraid that everyone would call him stingy, so he deliberately went later to express his attitude. Today, let's talk about it, should we go in such a situation?
- Friends have no other meaning, you may think too much
What Xiaodong thought was that his friends deliberately didn't notify him directly, because he was not important, so he felt a little bit of a loss of face. But his friend probably didn't think so. Maybe he was busy today, so he commissioned someone to inform everyone; maybe he felt that everyone was so familiar and didn't pay much attention to the way of notification; maybe he felt that another friend was more authoritative in the circle and easier to form a dinner party. There are many possibilities like this. The exchanges between friends are more tolerant and pragmatic, and less glass-hearted.
- Maybe you are really not that familiar with each other, I am sorry to inform you directly
Friends in the same circle, some are very familiar, and some have a general relationship. This friend of Xiaodong may be a friend of ordinary relationship in the circle. Although we usually get together a lot, the one-on-one contact between the two is still very rare. It was still rather abrupt for a friend to invite Xiaodong directly, so let someone who is more familiar with Xiaodong inform him. Friends should understand more and think more about the good side, then the relationship will develop in a good direction.
- When someone invites you, in general you should go and go on time
If someone invites you to dinner, as long as you have no special circumstances, you should go. Someone invites you to show that they want to develop a relationship with you, and if you don't go, it shows that you don't really want to deepen the relationship with the other person. You can imagine, how would you feel if you invited a lot of friends to dinner and no one came? Xiaodong didn't know that he was going late on purpose. Since he had already decided to go, he should attend on time. Going so late, sometimes it's better not to go.
In the usual social activities, if someone invites you to a dinner party without notifying you directly, but asks a friend to notify you, you should go. Be more tolerant and expand your own pattern in order to make more good friends. Dear friends, what do you think of the statement in this article, let's leave a message and exchange it.