'I know your classmate so-and-so', is such a social method effective in a dinner party?
There is often such a scene in a dinner party. One person says that he knows another person's friend, and the relationship between the two people is much closer, and there are more common topics at the same time. Some people consider it a very important social tool and use it often. Find out who you can connect with someone before you go to a dinner party, and speak up when you're drinking to build a relationship as quickly as possible. The topic we are going to talk about today is: "I know your classmate so-and-so". Is such a social method effective in a dinner party? Let's analyze it below.
- Most of the time, such means can quickly bring the relationship closer
Two complete strangers need a handle to get closer to each other, and the best handle is a friend they both know. This friend they both knew seemed to be the guarantee of trust between the two. When something happens, at least you can find each other through this friend. With a common friend, you can start from this friend, continue to expand the topic, and the communication will be smoother. Therefore, this method has been tried and tested in many meals. This is how social circles are slowly built up.
Second, sometimes, it will also have a bad effect
Xiaohui went to a dinner party. He knew that there was a person in the dinner party who was very important to his business development - President Wang. So Xiaohui prepared his homework in advance, sorted out the relationship between himself and President Wang, and finally found that one of his neighbors (Xiaodong) was a classmate of President Wang. Although I usually don't interact much with this neighbor, but this time I had to put him out to get closer. But when Xiaohui asked Mr. Wang, "Are you and Xiaodong classmates? I'm his neighbor." Mr. Wang was stunned for a moment, and then said that he couldn't remember this classmate. The scene was embarrassing for a while, Xiaohui not only failed to achieve a better social effect, but screwed up the situation.
- If you can't find a suitable candidate, you would rather not use this method
In fact, Xiaohui's classmate Xiaodong is indeed Mr. Wang's classmate, but Xiaodong's reputation is not very good, his relationship is relatively poor, and he basically does not contact his classmates. It's not that President Wang doesn't know Xiaodong, but he doesn't want to mention this classmate. It's really inappropriate for Xiaohui to use such a person to get closer to President Wang. If you want to get closer to someone you know in common, you must have a better understanding of this person, and it is best to have a good relationship with him. If there is no suitable candidate, it is better not to use such means.