The more difficult it is, the more you have to stand by yourself

Unsatisfactory things are often eight or nine, and I can talk to others indiscriminately.

The more difficult it is, the more you have to fight for yourself, to endure it alone, in order to live unrestrainedly and freely.

Get through the toughest times and be your own backer.

In the journey of life, there are always some paths, you have to walk alone, and there are always some hardships to taste alone.

As Lu Yu once said in "Chance Encounter": "No matter who it is, we have all experienced or are experiencing the darkest moments in our lives, which is a long, dark, cold, and hopeless tunnel."

For example, in the workplace, it is clear that they have strong work ability, good work attitude, and outstanding performance, but when they are promoted and raise their salary, they are run on by people with "relationships and backgrounds", and they are also regarded as a joke by others.

People who are really powerful will not spend their time chewing on grievances and endless complaints, but will pick up their dissatisfaction, make themselves a top-notch talent with a hundred times of efforts, and finally find another job in a smart way.

For example, you usually devote your heart and lungs to others, but you never pay attention to return, so that people think that your kindness and dedication are deserved. Possibility to harvest "falling into the woods".

If you hate, you can only make yourself more painful, and others will clap their hands more and more. Human nature is nothing more than this, and the same is true for changing the environment.

Therefore, it is better to rely on yourself to be your own backer; to rise up in suffering, to find hope in despair.

There is a saying: "People who haven't cried in the middle of the night are not enough to talk about life." Only you know how those days when you are alone, sleep alone, think alone, and get tired little by little.

That "purgatory" experience mercilessly shattered all our luck and laziness. Working hard to the point of being powerless, struggling to move oneself, is not an impassioned speech, but the only way to survive.

Just like a caterpillar becomes a butterfly, it needs to "break out of the cocoon", and a cicada needs to "break out of the ground" from an egg to an adult. Whether it is "born" or "death", the fate is entirely in your hands.

Stand alone and become a better version of yourself.

When my cousin graduated from middle school, he was still under eighteen years old and was assigned to teach at a remote rural teaching site. In order to save money and time, he only returned home once a half term.

In addition to an old principal, the school staff has only a cousin. The old principal taught grades 1 and 2, while my cousin taught grades 3 to 6. There was only one class in each grade, and two grades often took classes together, which was quite confusing.

The hard life and the heavy teaching made my cousin determined to get out of the mountains again. He picked up the book again and started the postgraduate entrance examination. After several times of cold and summer, almost all of his cousins ​​were struggling with the books and competing with fate.

Now, he is the cousin of a university teacher. Every year when he comes back during the Chinese New Year, he has to reminisce about those difficult years with his brothers, sisters and nephews. He always said: "When life gives you a big hole, life will have more possibilities. If you skip it, it will be another world."

The so-called abyss, going down is also a bright future.

Human potential is often forced out. When life falls into an A or B situation, it will instinctively survive. And that unforgettable period of hardship will make people alert for a lifetime: excellence alone is not enough, and absolute excellence can make oneself full of confidence when facing the censures of life.

Just like his cousin, he became a university professor from an elementary school teacher. Over the years, he has read countless books; published articles have also been assembled into several books, which have been published publicly. Compared with these tangible things, his education and fame have already made him realize his inner expectations for himself, and he is no longer afraid of the storms of life.

As the author of the best-selling book "You should be like a bird flying to your mountain" said, everyone is like a bird and has a mountain that they want to fly over. The mountain is always there, it depends on whether you want it or not. Make yourself strong enough to conquer it.

Only by persevering in the past can the past be passed and the future come.

Life will never stop and wait for you because of your unhappiness. It is always moving forward non-stop. If you stay where you are, you will only get farther and farther from your ideal life.

In fact, life always has to be hard for a while, it will not be hard for a lifetime. Between ups and downs, every tribulation is an improvement, and every blow makes one grow.

Mr. Feng Zikai once said: Since there is nowhere to escape, it is better to be happy; since there is no pure land, it is better to meditate; since there is no wish, it is better to be relieved.

Accept everything in the moment calmly, rejoice that you are healthy, the age is still early, and it is not too late to start from now on.

When you read a book, you always start from where you left off last time, so you can continue. The same is true in dealing with people. Wherever you fall, you get up from there. There are no shortcuts, and don't think about making a big circle. Your starting point is there. Facing reality is the first step to changing your life.

Of course, in the next days, you will have to toss yourself hard; no matter how hard or tired you are, you can't tell anyone, but what does it matter? In the long river of time, everything will eventually pass, hard work and dedication, always will pay off.

Therefore, firmly walk your own way, do your own thing, and if you endure it, you will have unexpected "spotlights".