In the workplace, what should you do if your colleagues deliberately lie to you? 3 strokes to deal with

There is always such a person in the workplace. When you go to work, you will be very enthusiastic, and then you will feel very moved. Oh, this person is really good to you.

And just when you let down your guard against him, he will take the opportunity to inquire about your family background and tell you a lot of routines.

For example, he will ask you: "How many people are in your family? Do you rent or buy a house? Which university did you graduate from? What do your parents do? Are there any partners? If Yes, what does your partner do? Are there any relatives in your family who are officials?" and so on.

These people seem to be asking this because they want to get to know you and make friends with you. In fact, the fact is not so simple, they are just to inquire about your background, to see if you have a backstage or if you have a mine at home, and then to see if you have a meal.

If you encounter this kind of situation, if you are stupid and tell the other party everything, and you don't have any identity background, it is very likely that you will become a soft persimmon that the other party can handle, and all your situations are equivalent To give the other party a capital that can bully you.

What should you do when a colleague is talking to you?

The first trick: Colleagues are close to the bottom line, and only stupid people will give the bottom line

Generally, when you first enter the workplace, you must not see that others are so enthusiastic and sincere to you that you feel that you are also being honest with each other, so you tell them everything.

When dealing with people, you must be more careful, and before replying to others, you must think about whether what you say now will harm you one day in the future.

It is very likely that as long as there is a situation in the company that a colleague has figured out you, probably all your colleagues will know who you are, what kind of identity background you have, and so on.

If it is said that you are the eldest daughter and the thief in the family is rich, then these people who are close to you are very likely to spread rumors that you are a company that relies on backstage for this position, but the fact is that Not so, you only rely on your own strength.

If you are a child of a civilian family, your family background is not good, there is no one behind you, and there is no background, then these people who have approached you before will most likely arrange you properly, bully you, and get along with you. It will inexplicably produce a sense of superiority, handing over some of the hard work in the work to you, doing some bad things and things that can't be dealt with, framed and framed by you, and let you take the blame.

The second trick: the workplace is 70% false and 30% true, ambiguous and uncertain

When your unfamiliar colleague is chatting with you and asking you if you have mines at home, you can reply him in a half-joking way: "Alas, my mother, I have long been financially independent, so I need to take care of the mines at home. No mines? What do you think?"

And when you are asked if you have parents, you can say: "My parents and I have nothing to do with personal life, including work. You don't care about me and I don't care about you. I have my own work life to worry about. , I can take care of my parents, who knows if he has changed careers or jobs?"

One of the most frequently asked questions in the workplace is: "Do you have a partner?" In this kind of situation, you can't tell what other people's intentions are. Some people just ask out of boredom, and they report the mentality of introducing someone to you if you don't have a partner. . The other kind of person is very scheming, and they want to explore your privacy in a deeper way through this question.

For example, after you answer that you have a partner, ask you: "What does your partner look like? Do you have any pictures? What does he do?" Don't tell him all the details.

I encountered this kind of situation when I went out for an internship in my senior year. When I went to a company, my teacher started working with me. Because they were both girls of the same age, the two became close friends within a few days. At that time, I talked to a boyfriend who was very handsome and rich, and we were in a period of love. So I am very happy to tell my boyfriend and his situation to the master.

Surprisingly, it didn't take long for me to find out that the two of them actually added WeChat, and the scale of their chat was beyond my imagination. In the end, not only broke up with her boyfriend, but also cut off contact with this master. It can be described as "shooting yourself in the foot", which is very enjoyable.

When the other person asks you something that is too private, you can say to him in a joking tone: "Thank you for your concern, I feel that even the census is not as detailed as you asked. My little thing Ah, there's really nothing to talk about."

The third trick: talk less, talk less

If you encounter a question that is not easy to answer, you will not answer it, talk less, and instead will lead the topic to the other party. For example, if he asks you, "Is there an official in your family?" You can say something like, "Oh, isn't this all related to the older generation? I don't know. I'll go back and ask my mother." At the same time, he asked him a question: "Then do you have any at home?" Let's see how he answered.