A person with high emotional intelligence never talks about these three words. If you don't know it, you will really suffer
A person with high emotional intelligence never talks about these three words. If you don't know it, you will really suffer!
These three words are "you are so stupid". The two cases cited in this article are all my own personal experience. I would like to give you some inspiration.
A conversation between a man and a woman
Yesterday, outside the shopping mall, there was a place where people were playing with doll machines. At this time, a young man and a woman walked by talking and laughing, holding each other's hands. Suddenly the woman turned her head and saw the cute little toys in the transparent glass. So I asked the man, "Will you clip this?" The man smiled and said, "No."
The woman looked at the man with contempt, and said rudely: "You can't do this, you are so stupid..."
At this time, the man said, "Do you want to clip?" The woman waved her hand and said, "I can't either! I thought you would, but you're so stupid..."
I stood there for about two minutes, and the woman repeated the three words "you are stupid" at least four times. I was tired of hearing it. I guess these words may be the mantra of the woman. I was thinking about it, but found that the two of them were holding hands again and preparing to leave. When they walked to my side, I heard the woman say those three words again...
It is estimated that men have become accustomed to this way of language expression of women, but you may not know the woman. If you often tell people you are close to you that you are stupid, this person will really become stupid, no matter how smart people are.” as you wish" to be stupid.
Friends, just imagine how you would feel if someone often said to you "you're stupid" every day? I believe it should not feel good!
In fact, I suggest that at the beginning, the man should retaliate, tell the woman the same words, and see how she reacts after listening to it. If the reaction is violent, it is just right, seriously point out the problem of the woman, and urge it to improve... In fact, this is all It's for her good, so you shouldn't tolerate it infinitely. If you don't say that you are hurt, the woman is also rejected and resented by others because she doesn't realize this problem.
Also remind the woman that you feel good about expressing your emotions for a while, but now it's fine, wait until one day, the man's negative emotions have accumulated to a certain extent, reaching the limit of tolerance, the three words "you are stupid" may be the last to crush the camel. A straw may cause you to have a very fierce quarrel, and even the disintegration of the relationship is possible...
You must know that the harm of negative language to a person is unimaginable!
- An experience on the train
Last year, I took the train home and finally bought a middle hard sleeper bunk. I wanted to have a good rest on the train, but the bottom bunk was a woman with her 1-year-old and 7-month-old child, and they moved quite a bit.
The child drank some water, and the woman said, "I'm so stupid, I can't drink water. What the child wants to take, I can't reach it. When the woman sees it, she immediately says: You're so stupid, you won't let me help you." Ah; the child was wet, and the woman said angrily: Too stupid, too stupid... When this woman communicated with other people, she also said: "This child, the most stupid..."
And what shocked me the most was that this woman was hitting the back of the child's head so often!
I couldn't stand it anymore, so I quickly communicated with this woman. Afterwards, she must have realized the seriousness of the problem and muttered: Get off the train, take the child to check his head... Later, I saw that she often touched the child's head, and touched the place where she used to beat... I believe she also blamed herself.
After that, until I got off the train, I hardly heard her say the word "stupid". I know she must have made a lot of effort and tried to restrain herself, because the way a person has always expressed language, it is impossible to say It can be changed, no matter what, I hope she can keep it up!
If you also have a child at home, please don’t call him stupid easily, so he will deny himself from the bottom of his heart, have no confidence in himself, be timid, dare not try new things, and can’t stand failure, this is really harmful His life!
The best way is to give priority to encouragement. Even when others don't believe him, you have to believe that he can do it. Both actions and words must be positive. You set a good example for your child, so that when he grows up, he will be When educating his next generation, he will follow the way you are treating him now. Family education is no child's play, and we must continue to learn!
I think the closest people are, the more they need to respect each other. Respect lies in every moment and every day. If the other party serves you a bowl of rice, you should say "thank you". The other party came back from overtime at night, you A heartfelt sentence, "Do you want to drink water?" People's hearts will also warm... These are just one or two sentences, which will definitely make the relationship between the two of you more intimate and harmonious, and you will also reap full of happiness. , living in an environment of love, your body will also become healthier, are you right?