'Women are difficult to raise? ' No.'Man villain' and 'Little girl' each play fifty big boards

Man is the measure of all things. - Protagoras

Confucius said: "Only women and villains are difficult to raise." Everyone is familiar with this sentence. This is the most socially stimulating chapter in the "Analects of Confucius". Confucius also angered many people because of this sentence, and many people used this sentence to attack Confucius and belittle women. In fact, there is a little-known saying behind this sentence - "closer is not inferior, far away is resentment."

Confucius said: "Some women and villains are difficult to get along with. If you get close to them, they will be rude. If you stay away from them, they will resent you." You will slap your nose on your face, and if you distance yourself from him, he will slander you."

Today we neither explain for Confucius nor rehabilitate women. We only look at the latter sentence, "If you are close, you will not be inferior, but if you are far away, you will complain." Let us all think about it, is there such a phenomenon in our lives? ?

I remember my nephew who was a sophomore last year came back and complained to me that during the summer vacation, he gave supplementary lessons to two little hairy kids. At first, it was ok, but the two of them still called "brother, brother". He even nicknamed him "Black Hair", so he couldn't do anything about it.

Teacher Yang from Tsinghua University once gave a lecture and also talked about this. He said that he didn't dare to deal with people from their hometown. For example, when he went back to his hometown, he wanted to be warmer and more polite, but some people would not pay attention to what they said, and wanted to hook up. Later, he stayed away, thinking that this is the way to go, but it's not possible, and the man said that he was too big and looked down on others. Teacher Yang was in a dilemma. Fortunately, his parents and relatives were not in his hometown, so he rarely went back.

Therefore, if Confucius can say this, it must be observed from life.

Some women are really like this. Men with little girlfriends feel the most, don't they? Treat her well, she will be arrogant and arrogant, and she will lose her temper at you at any time, making her temperament and making you upset. If you're alienating her, she'll nag that you don't care about her, that you don't care. This is indeed a fact, especially today's "female" is even more so.

Men, don't be too complacent. In "The Analects of Confucius", Mr. Nan Huaijin hit 50 big boards against "little men" and "little women". He said: "It is undeniable that it is difficult to get along with women. But the problem is that there are very few men in the world who are eligible to be exempted from the crime of being a 'villain'. Confucius's this In a word, although the women in the world have been scolded on the surface, how many men are not among the scolded ones? Gentlemen, please ask yourself while you are proud of yourself."

Yes, we all ask ourselves, do we have the "closer is worse, farther is resentment" problem?

This reminds me of another sentence in the Analects, Confucius said: "Yan Ping Zhongshan is good at making friends with people, and he respects them over time."

Yan Pingzhong is known as Yan Ying, a doctor of the State of Qi in the Spring and Autumn Period, known as Yan Zi, who served as Prime Minister of the Three Dynasties and served as assistant for 40 years. Confucius praised him for being good at interacting with people. He has been in contact with people for a long time, and he can still respect others.

Cheng Yi, a Neo-Confucianist in the Northern Song Dynasty, said: "People who have been with each other for a long time will have less respect." That is to say, when we interact with others, we often lose respect gradually because we have been with others for a long time.

It is really rare for Yan Pingzhong to be able to "respect for a long time" when dealing with people and things. Maybe you can still "respect" at first, but after getting along for a long time, you will soon be "closer is not inferior, far away is resentment." We have to be careful!

The Analects of Confucius, as a treasure of our Chinese nation, is like a persuasive teacher and an honest and tolerant friend who helps us broaden our horizons and increase our knowledge. It is more like a mirror, reflecting our moral sentiments and conduct. Self-cultivation, it is also like a beacon, allowing us to find our own position in life and work and find the direction to move forward.