When people reach 40, learn to give up 3 things, life will get better and better, but many people can't do it
We always say that there is no confusion at forty, why is there no confusion at forty? Forty is not confused means that when a person is forty years old, he has experienced a lot and already has his own judgment.
Forty years old, in a sense, life is over halfway through. Growing up, going to college, graduating, working, starting a family, and establishing a career, most of them are completed at this stage, and they have also experienced many ups and downs in life. People and things in the world have their own transparent and unique views.
Whether it is in the workplace or in life, compared to when they were young, people in their 40s live more thoroughly, understand what they want, know how to choose, and know how to give up some things, but they can reap a better self.
- Abandon meaningless social interactions ==========================================
When I was young, I liked to call friends and call friends. Everyone would eat and drink together and have a bubble. It was so unhappy. I also like all kinds of entertainment. It may be common to not go home for a meal for a few days. I always feel that the time with friends is happy. In the workplace, I also feel that participating in more social events can help me get to know more people, which is beneficial to my career development.
When I reach 40, I understand that some social events are meaningless. Everyone has eaten and drank before forgetting that the network does not rely on social networking to get acquainted. When one has enough ability, the network will naturally appear. Instead of spending time on meaningless entertainment, it is better to learn and improve yourself. Strength is the best way to make others recognize you.
When I was young, I always felt that it would be easier to travel with more friends, and it would be right to know more friends. When people reach 40, they find that it is enough to have three or five friends in one's life. Sometimes friendship takes a lot of time to maintain even after getting to know each other. Everyone's energy is limited, and it is impossible to maintain all friends, and some friends Really not worth the maintenance.
It is better to give up some alcoholic and meaty friends, and focus your energy and time on close friends and family members. There may not be many close friends and close friends, but people who can truly help you when you are in trouble, and those who correct yourself severely when you make mistakes. . And the family is his life support.
- Give up the so-called face =============================
In the past, I always had a good face and pursued some flashy things. Although I earned 2000 to 3000 yuan a month, I had to use my credit card to buy 20000 to 30000 yuan bags. I felt that this was the face. You have to go to a high-end restaurant to eat, even if the half-month salary is gone after the meal.
When you reach forty, you realize that living a real life is more comfortable and easier to achieve.
Mr. Yan Jiehe, a famous entrepreneur, once said: "What is face? We never have shame when we do big things. We can tear off our face and throw it on the ground, kick a few feet, walk away, and ignore it." In the workplace or in life, People in their 40s should understand that some face doesn't need to be faked. Be honest, especially if you don't understand knowledge, don't pretend to understand it. You should humbly understand it. This is the power to make yourself grow, let alone for the sake of Some illusory faces are pretending to be swollen and fat.
I once had a boss who liked to do this kind of thing. In fact, the company has always been in a state of loss. As long as his expenses are involved, he always pursues high-end. No matter if you invite customers or friends to dinner, you must go to high-end restaurants. The car is obviously an ordinary second-hand BMW. He was very happy to ask the driver to buy a BMW high-end car logo and replace it with a high-end, low-key and reserved car, and he was very happy. He lived in this hypocritical face every day, and eventually the company ended in bankruptcy. .
At the age of 40, you should understand that what you need in your career and life is more down-to-earth, not face. Face can't bring you a good life. Reality, calm the mind, in order to step on the ladder of life.
- Let go of the past =====================
We will always have memories of when we were young and frivolous, some past regrets, and the past that we have been unable to let go of. For example, a friend who used to quarrel and have no relationship with each other will be haunted when he thinks about it; a former lover, when he thinks about it, he regrets why he couldn't hold on to it any longer; a job that he once gave up, why is he so impulsive that he resigns when he says he resigns , If I don't resign, I should be an executive now.
When we reach 40, we should see through everything and understand that some people and some things should be let him go. After all, the friend who used to quarrel and never communicated with us has spent a good time with us after all, and no longer holds grudges, please contact us in time , suddenly found that the other party was still thinking about him, because of the lack of face, he pierced this layer of paper and found his young friend instead.
The lover who once loved deeply is also once, and now the lover and child who accompany him by his side are the most real support in this life.
If I hadn't given up the job, I wouldn't have everything I am now, and it's not bad that I can change a new life because of this.
People in their 40s must learn to let go of the past, let the past pass like this, cherish everything they have now, and look forward, while they are still young, to fight hard. Instead of recalling the past, it is better to look to the future.
Forty is still too late, don't let the past entangle yourself.
There are always 35 crisis in the workplace, but Ren Zhengfei, who started a business at 43, and Chu Shijian, who grows oranges in his 70s, are just right at 40.
When people reach 40, they are more transparent, rational, and know how to choose, discard everything that is unnecessary, and go into battle lightly, and life will get better and better.