How to get rid of the lack of self-confidence in your bones and become a person with a strong heart?
If you get nervous when facing strangers and don't know where to put your hands,
In the face of those who are better, you will feel inferior and afraid.
When you see a beautifully decorated restaurant, you don’t dare to go in, because you are afraid you can’t afford it.
In the face of the pursuit of the opposite sex, he will worry that he is not as good as he thinks, not worthy of the other person's likes,
When you encounter a good opportunity, you are afraid of failure and simply reject it.
Then you are insecure.
The above is the true portrayal of me in the past,
Later, through 4 methods, I became a confident and determined person. Now I tell my friends that I am an introverted person with low self-esteem, and no one believes me.
So, it doesn't matter if you are really inferior and introverted, the most important thing is whether your displayed personality is "positive and healthy".
These methods can be replicated and practiced. As long as you are willing to change, stick to it for 2 months.
- Improve the external score
do you know? A person who does not pay attention to appearance will often miss many career opportunities, and the peach blossoms will also miss you.
Many women regard Yang Lan as a role model in life, because of her excellent temperament, cultural heritage, and successful family and business, she can be said to be a winner in life.
However, this elegant and beautiful woman also had a period of "ugly duckling" years.
At that time, Yang Lan was studying abroad and didn't pay attention to her appearance. She often dangled in the crowd wearing slippers and pajamas, and was rejected by the interviewer because of her poor image.
Yang Lan thinks that these people are too superficial, how can they judge people by their appearance?
Until she met a foreign old lady in a coffee shop who was dressed in fashion and exquisite, Yang Lan was immediately attracted to her.
The old lady left a note to Yang Lan before leaving the cafe: You must be delicate, this is the dignity of a woman.
Yang Lan ran to look in the mirror, and suddenly felt that she was really bad in the mirror. She decided to be a delicate woman and take care of her image.
A person's appearance really betrays your life status. A person who is motivated and hard-working in life is also decent and generous in appearance, and will never give people a feeling of being sloppy.
Those who live a sloppy life are always sloppy and indifferent in appearance, and often make excuses for their own casualness and laziness, what is more comfortable to wear this way, it is my right to wear what I like, and so on.
Wilde said that only superficial people do not judge people by their appearance.
Your image is a walking business card. Before someone has an in-depth conversation with your soul, you can look at your appearance to know whether you are self-disciplined, whether you have requirements for yourself, whether you respect yourself, and respect others.
How you want the world to treat you, treat yourself first,
A person who is stylish, clean and neat will win the first impression of others, and secondly, he will please himself and give himself a good mood for the day. When you dress very beautifully, do you feel more confident in your heart, and you can walk in the crowd with your head up in an instant?
Your external state will affect your mental state. When you dress up your own affairs seriously, your aura and self-confidence will also increase, and you will show more enthusiasm to face yours. Life, instead of dealing with your life in a casual, perfunctory, and indifferent attitude.
How to get rid of the lack of self-confidence in your bones and become a person with a strong heart?
- Cultivate outstanding talents
I don't know where I heard a sentence, you are beautiful, others will look at you more, but if you have poetry and books, others will look at you highly.
For the first 20 years of my life, I judged myself as having accomplished nothing, felt that I had no skills at all, that I could not do anything well, and that I was a complete failure.
But with the improvement of writing skills, I have not only become an expert in the subdivision field, but also accumulated a large number of fans online.
Every day when I turn on my phone, a wave of affirmations and admiration floods my face. Many people say they need my help and are willing to pay to ask me some professional questions. I begin to realize that I have value.
This value is not reflected in appearance, but it is longer than beauty and will continue to increase over time.
This is the confidence that can bring.
Our evaluations of ourselves are based on past experiences.
When there are more and more things you are competent for and the number of achievement events is increasing, your self-confidence will be greatly improved, and you will no longer feel like you are a waste. Instead, you will find life value and self-efficacy.
The first step is to dig out your strengths and advantages from your past experience, and further study and improve. For example, what things do you do better than others, and what do others often ask you to do for help? computer repair? Copywriting? Graphic design and so on?
The second step is to determine the skills you want to improve, and find relevant websites and teachers for deep learning.
The third step is to solve problems and continue to improve in practice.
The fourth step is to output knowledge and dry goods in this area, let others discover your advantages, and then build a personal brand to accumulate accurate customers.
The fifth step, as a sideline development, increase slash income.
How to get rid of the lack of self-confidence in your bones and become a person with a strong heart?
- Have the courage to try new experiences
I watched a movie "The Last Holiday" this morning. The heroine was originally a salesperson in a small store. One day, she was notified by the hospital that she was terminally ill. She couldn't believe it, and repeatedly asked why? Why did this happen to her, and what's worse, the doctor told her that she only had 21 days to live.
While the heroine was sad, she decided to accept the reality. She went to the bank to withdraw the pension fund at one time, and planned to spend the rest of her life well.
She booked a private jet to travel abroad, stayed in a luxurious presidential suite, and went to high-end clothing stores to buy a lot of luxurious clothes.
Looking gorgeous and mysterious, she quickly attracted the attention of all the men at the banquet, and then she went skiing again, and she also appeared on the cover of ski magazines.
She got rid of the self who lived cautiously in the past, and bid farewell to the past of submissiveness. She became daring to think and act, and became confident and flying.
In the end, the doctor told her that, in fact, she was not suffering from a terminal illness, it was a problem with the machine.
Movies are actually the other side of life, although in absurd ways,
However, there is one thing that can give us great inspiration-learning to have fun in time,
Having lived the life we really wanted to live, don't wait until the last moment of life to regret that your life has been lackluster, and there is no extra time to realize your dreams.
The more unconfident people are, the more they need to break their current life, travel to new countries and cities, make friends with an open mind, and generate many novel viewpoints.
People who always stay in their own little world cannot live a rich and confident life, because your vision cannot be opened, the experience of life is very lacking, and you can only live in the eyes of others and live in secular standards. , living within the framework of a given life.
And this wonderful life journey will enhance a person's sense of control over life, make your inner face become positive and confident,
When you try more and more things, it means that you are constantly saying goodbye to your past self. If you imagine yourself as a sea creature, this process is like you are constantly growing new tentacles.
The more tentacles you have, the more things you can grasp. The richer the quality of life, the more abundant a person's spiritual energy will be, and this energy is often the source of self-confidence. You believe in your ability, you believe you can live a good life, you believe you can be accepted by more people,
The most important thing is that in the exploration and trial and error of life, you begin to touch this imperfect self with a peaceful mind.
Therefore, when you feel that your life is very lost, it is probably because you have limited your vision and scope of life to the life of family and work.
Without new energy entering your body, you will never be able to love life and make a fluid replacement with the aura and energy between heaven and earth, and the lost energy will not be discharged.
In the end, people are prone to illness, depression, and it is difficult to become confident and healthy.
Confident people can embrace the sea of stars in life. On the contrary, when you are in the sea of stars, you will also gain the power of the universe. With a broad enough vision and sufficient energy, you can have a confident life with confidence.
How to get rid of the lack of self-confidence in your bones and become a person with a strong heart?
- Give yourself a positive psychological suggestion
People with low self-esteem are accustomed to denying themselves inwardly, and their evaluation of themselves is very low, but this may not be a true and objective evaluation.
I have seen many friends who are obviously good-looking and think they are too ugly to be photographed, so they will try their best to avoid the camera.
You always imply that you are ugly, imply that you are not photogenic, imply that your expression is stiff, which will only make you more and more distrustful of yourself.
Even more frightening, this awareness will unconsciously change your facial memory, the corners of your mouth will sag, and your wrinkles will become deeper and deeper.
Try changing your approach, suggesting to yourself "I'm good looking", "I'm not that pretty but my features are fine", "I'm not photogenic but I have a big smile".
This approach is also called positive psychotherapy in psychology.
If you often give yourself positive psychological hints, your mentality will become more and more sunny, and your whole person's state will become more positive. If you don't believe me, try it.
Self-confidence is illusory, but it is very, very important. It directly affects your enthusiasm for doing things, which in turn affects the direction of your life.