Workplace Wisdom: You always cast a wide net to run ineffective social networking, but you don't know that you are like a jumping beam clown

A few days ago, at a party, I met a brother who was asking everyone for a V letter. According to him, this is the second V signal, and the first number is already full. As soon as he said this, everyone in the room envied him, and felt that this person has really strong social skills.

"Rely on parents at home, rely on friends when going out", this is a saying we often say, maybe because of this sentence, many people always do not forget to exchange phone numbers everywhere and add V-letters to each other.

01 Such social

But can we really rely on these friends who exchange phone calls and V letters?

I also met a lot of people who added my V-letter, but many of them didn't get in touch. Even after a long time, if they didn't make a note, they don't know how they met, when they added it, and what this person does.

I'm sure it's not just me, it's the case with most people.

I remember at a party 2 years ago, I came into contact with a certain "big man" by chance. At that time, we communicated very happily, and we were very close, so we added V-letters to each other. Circle a like, and like it every day in the V letter movement, thinking that this is a very important network resource to maintain.

Soon, when I encountered a difficulty, I thought of this "big man", as if his affairs happened to intersect with me.

So, I sent a long V letter and didn't reply! I made another phone call, and as a result, I heard two words: No time! To be honest, it was frustrating at the time.

02 You need to understand the cornerstone of social

In life, in fact, most people have encountered similar rejections, thinking that they have left a phone call with the other party and saved a V letter, and they should be able to help each other, but they forget the basis of interpersonal communication: "mutual benefit and equality", only equality and mutual benefit can help each other. Really have a relationship, have an intersection!

Therefore, a lot of social networking is actually useless. You seem to leave someone else's phone number, but when you need help, you just make a call for nothing.

The reason for such a situation is that you are not good enough, and you are not on the same level as him. Although it is a bit cruel to say this, think about it, who is really willing to help a stranger who is not good? Just like ordinary people do to beggars on the roadside, apart from giving alms, what else would you do to help them?

Once, when I was sharing the course of "Time Management" with a leading company in an industry, the chief engineer asked: "I often receive phone offers from relevant personnel in various lines of the industry when I am busy with work, should I refuse? ? Will I lose my connections if I refuse?"

I said: "Only good people can get useful social networking!"

The chief engineer realized: "Before I was promoted to chief engineer, few people took the initiative to look for me. Now I understand why they all came to look for me."

In the end, the chief engineer said to me: "Teacher, I understand, I should still spend more time on my own scientific research projects, and there is no need to waste time on ineffective social interaction."

If you are not good enough, connections are worthless, they are not pursued, but attracted. Only an equivalent exchange can get reasonable help.

As cruel as it sounds, it's the truth.

03 Pay attention to your social

I have a friend. He always invites friends after get off work and on weekends every day. For the sake of friends, family members are often neglected and there is very little time with them.

At the beginning, he did gather a group of friends around and followed him. He believed that with friends, everything would be possible in the future. But slowly, even the friends who were okay with them gradually left, why?

The reason is that the careers of these friends are getting better and better. On the one hand, as they do well in their careers, they will be busier. However, he has no strong skills, and he has not improved in any way, and there is a gap with these friends.

The company he worked for suddenly went bankrupt and he needed to find a new job, but none of his friends were willing to help him. In the end, my friend had no choice but to open a snack bar in front of his house.

This friend of mine often sighs: the world is so hot!

In fact, is he the only one in this situation?

04 epilogue

Socializing is equal, your height determines your circle, when you are not good enough, socialize less and spend more time reading, studying your work, and improving your professional skills.

Remember:

Only by improving yourself can the world be bigger!

Of course, if you have such a friend, when you are in trouble, he says we are brothers, and when you are rich, he still says we are brothers. This kind of person who never leaves is called a true friend, and he does not apply to the above rules. There are not many such people, in this exaggerated world, three or two is fine.

Please remember:

The connections are not in others, but in yourself!

The basis of the network is that you have "value to be used". The greater the value of your use, the wider your network!

So, instead of spending time getting to know people, spend time improving yourself.