Why not mention the real reason for leaving?

I once joined a company, and I judged that the company was not suitable for long-term development based on the small talk with my colleagues during lunch, combined with my usual observations. Resigned after less than a month of employment.

During lunch, I inquired from side to side and found out that half of the people in this small company are relatives and friends of the boss, who is the boss's wife, who is the boss's sister, and who is the boss's good brother.

Then, in my daily work, I observed that the company that the boss told me during the interview had no division between superiors and subordinates. It was like the atmosphere of getting along with family members. It was only aimed at his family and friends. Nonsense, the family is a real family.

However, he lacked sufficient respect for other old employees. He spoke very casually, with a commanding tone to his subordinates. The problem was that this small company only had more than ten people and was in the entrepreneurial stage, so it started to act like a boss.

If you don't know their kinship, you'll think it's just that the boss treats some employees better, and maybe as a newcomer, it's hard for you to notice what's wrong.

Then, I caught up while chatting at lunch. This company has already left a group of employees before, and the current employees are all new employees. The girl who brought me has only joined the company for 3 months. In the end I found another reason to resign.

[1] Don't tell the real reason for leaving when you resign.

Two days ago, I just saw an answer that the boss was emotionally retained after he proposed to resign. What should I do? The routine dialogue with the boss for several rounds when the respondent proposed to resign is quite interesting. You can take a look.

When I left my first company, I was struggling to tell the real reason for my departure, which involved my views on the management style of my boss. After all, after working for a few years, I have feelings for it, and I hope the company will get better and better.

In the end, after several struggles, I decided not to talk about it. When I offered to resign, I only said that it was my own reason, and I wanted to go out and see other worlds.

The boss and the proprietress took turns to keep me, and the conversation was like a wheel battle. They repeatedly asked me if I had any views on the company, and if there were any problems, I could say it, and everyone could solve it together. In the end, I still killed myself and said it was my own fault, not the company's business. The company had no choice but to let me resign after handing over the job within a month.

Why not mention the real reason for leaving?

Even if it's like me, why can't some companies keep new employees born in the 90s? The company that I mentioned is quite pitiful. When I offered to resign, I did not mention my opinions and views on the company. I said that it was my own reason and it was not suitable for your company.

【2】Why can't you mention the real reason for leaving?

Because the boss will not sincerely accept the opinions of an employee who is leaving.

Many bosses still think that the company cultivated you. Now that you are leaving, are you worthy of the company?

And since a company has been following such a management system for so long, at least it means that the boss himself does not think there is a problem.

Once you express your opinions and views on the company, it is equivalent to you coming to slap him in the face, saying that his company has problems here and there, and if you are the boss, will you accept it?

Will not.

Not only will the boss not listen to it, but he will conversely teach various big truths to brainwash you, making you feel that this is your problem, not the company's problem, and the company is willing to give you the opportunity to stay and improve and grow.

It's over, can you still go?

Why not mention the real reason for leaving?

Even if you really can go, you will inevitably be belittled and criticized by the boss, questioning your ability, and maybe doubting yourself and feeling low, why bother?

I have a colleague who likes to talk about other people's affairs very much. He is not shy about his leadership and often complains. One of his employees lacked the ability, and the customer feedback was not good. In desperation, he had to kill it. The employee reported to the top that he was dissatisfied with the leader and had two hearts. As a result, he was killed first. It took a long time to find a job.

If you choose the right industry, the salary will rise very quickly. It is not difficult for the monthly salary to exceed 10,000 in one or two years. After two or three years, you will find that the salary that was especially expected at the time has become the starting point for the next stage. From a monthly salary of four or five thousand to a monthly salary of four or five thousand is possible.

Don't jump ship frequently. The first job, if not particularly bad, lasted at least a year or more. For newcomers, good job opportunities are not easy. Even if the cost-effectiveness is not high, they should first learn the skills down-to-earth, and when they have experience and skills, the salary increase will come naturally.

From ordinary to excellent, it takes a little bit of accumulation. All the big cows you see in the workplace, the awesome grades on their resumes, and the seemingly unparalleled jobs they are currently doing, all started from very ordinary things. Maybe you didn't even think about it, they started out with a dozen chores, or even engaged in very low-end jobs. For a long time, they, like you, were confused and struggling at the bottom.

Why not mention the real reason for leaving?

When you're weak, don't take credit for those who lead you. Whoever has the right to speak in a certain field, whoever has the greatest credit. When the time is not ripe, even if you give the most, the credit is not necessarily yours. Even if it is yours, you may not be able to catch it. Work silently, do more practical things, and become a high-tech in a field. When you have the ability to be on your own, everything you pay will be your credit.

When entering the workplace, the platform is very important. It is easy to jump from a big company to a small company, but difficult to jump from a small company to a big company. The most important thing is that the network of big companies is unmatched by small platforms. The naive will believe that "competent people are the same everywhere". Growth rates can vary widely in different companies. We are not afraid of being involved, but we are afraid of being involved without a bottom line. We are not afraid of hard work, but we are afraid of ineffective efforts.

Advance the skills that are currently needed and reserve the skills needed for promotion. When you first enter the workplace, there are no other fetters, and there is a lot of time. It is the best time for self-improvement. If you make good use of your spare time, your ascent will be twice as fast as others.

At work, what really earns you respect is your ability and value. Flattering and showing weakness will only make people look down on you and bully you. Even if others don't show it in their behavior, they will unconsciously despise you in their hearts. This is human nature. No matter where you go, please accumulate strength and be neither humble nor arrogant.

Ride a donkey to find a horse, and it is very likely that you will never find a horse in the end.

Whatever you want, find it somewhere.

If you want to make money, go directly to the place with the most money.

If you want to take the exam, just go straight to the exam.

If you want to go to a big city, just buy a ticket directly.

A friend of mine wants to do clothing design. But she took a procurement job with a higher salary, thinking about transitioning and saving more money, so she went. Later, he started foreign trade. Several years have passed, and I have almost forgotten the design knowledge I learned back then. Now, I am working as a purchasing agent again, and my salary has not changed much.

The so-called transition, in essence, is procrastination, and its wisdom makes you farther and farther away from your goal.

What do you want to do, do it first. Don't use other things to make the transition easily, you may pass and pass and you will forget the original direction.

Don't easily form gangs, stay neutral about office struggles, do your own thing well, and focus on personal ability improvement, not personnel Zhou Xuan.

Keep the habit of study and read more practical books. Such as communication, workplace books, and industry-related books.

Be as generous as possible. For example, occasionally buy some fruit to share with colleagues, eat a small loss without worrying about it, don’t lose your temper and get less angry.