No matter how good your relationship with your colleagues is, you must have these 4 hearts, otherwise you will be the one who will suffer.
In the workplace, everyone has a few colleagues who have good relationships. But the relationship between colleagues is good, does it mean that you can do things at will? Many people think this way, and as a result, they offend many people who are close to them. Because in fact, in the final analysis, among colleagues, everyone is only a work relationship, not a friend relationship. Even if the personalities and interests are compatible, everyone is under one roof and has a conflict of interest. In addition, the foundation of the relationship between colleagues is no better than that of classmates or relatives. This so-called relationship is actually very fragile in the face of interests.
So in the workplace, you must not do the following things, or you will be betrayed by colleagues!
No matter how good your relationship with your colleagues is, you must have these 4 hearts, otherwise you will be the one who will suffer.
- Never mention benefits and salary
I have witnessed such a thing with my own eyes. Last year, our company hired two new employees, Xiao Li and Xiao Liu. Both of them were girls. During the first year of their employment, they often commuted to and from get off work together, and they were similar in age and experience. very good. Fast forward to the end of the year. Once Xiao Liu and Xiao Li were chatting together, Xiao Li asked about Xiao Liu's salary. At that time, Xiao Liu didn't think much about it, so he told Xiao Li about his income and year-end bonus.
Xiao Liu also complained about when his income could increase, and when it came to the end of the year, the money was not enough to spend. At that time, Xiao Li also comforted Xiao Liu, saying that the situation would get better. As a result, not long after the new year, Xiao Liu was fired from the company. At the time, everyone was very curious, but later everyone guessed that it was because Xiao Li found out that although Xiao Liu joined the company at the same time as her, his income was 20% higher than his own. So Xiao Li found the supervisor in private and expressed his desire to raise his salary to the same level as Xiao Liu.
In fact, in any company, there are rules and regulations that clearly state that employees are not allowed to communicate their salary privately. This is because in the workplace, due to factors such as education, job-hopping, work experience, etc., it is possible to cause unequal pay for equal work. In order to prevent employees from being unbalanced because of this matter, the company does not disclose the salary situation, and does not allow employees to inquire about each other in private. Therefore, when the leader heard Xiao Li said that he wanted a raise, he immediately realized that Xiao Liu said something he shouldn't have said, so he fired Xiao Liu afterwards. Later, Xiao Liu and Xiao Li never contacted again.
The workplace is like a battlefield. This sentence is actually true. The so-called friendship is actually not worth the temptation of money and the consideration of interests. This is not only to be cautious when making friends, but it also means that what should not be said must not be said.
No matter how good your relationship with your colleagues is, you must have these 4 hearts, otherwise you will be the one who will suffer.
- Don't say what the leader says to you in private
In the workplace, some leaders will communicate with employees privately and individually. But remember, what a leader says to you is not for you to convey to others. Instead, let yourself know that you have it in mind. If your boss said that to you in private, tell other colleagues. It is very likely that it will spread, and finally, it will return to the ears of the leaders. As soon as the leader heard it, they knew it was you, and you leaked it out. Maybe the content of the conversation is not important. However, if you leaked the conversation, the leader's impression of you is that you are not strong in your mouth, and your work is not rigorous enough, and you are not a person who can be entrusted with important responsibilities. Such employees, no matter how capable they are in the workplace, the leaders will not reuse you.
- If you can't be efficient for a lifetime, don't be efficient for a while
Many years ago, when I graduated and just joined a banking company. At that time, because it was very difficult to enter this unit, I also cherished this hard-won opportunity at that time. Many tasks assigned by the leaders at that time were said to be completed within a week. At that time, in order to show my positivity and ability, I often started to get off work overtime on Mondays, and often completed the tasks assigned by the leaders before I got off work on Wednesdays. At the beginning, the leader was very pleased and praised me in public during the meeting. But later, the leaders began to arrange more and more work tasks for me. Even if I worked overtime every day, I could only send them to the boss before Friday. Although the work was still completed with quality and quantity, I clearly felt that the eyes of the leaders were not right, and sometimes they often hinted at me and asked me to work hard. This puzzled me at the time.
Later, after being instructed by a senior in the workplace, I realized that it was because of my high efficiency at the beginning that the leaders thought that my ability was outstanding, so they would set higher standards for me, so when I could not meet his requirements When asked, not only will he not feel that I have done more than others, but he will feel that I have regressed. In fact, after thinking about it carefully, I found that this kind of problem is actually human nature. Because each of us will have a psychological expectation of others at the beginning, when others start to continuously exceed the psychological expectations we set, we will correspondingly and unconsciously raise our psychological expectations. So in many cases, this will lead to the fact that once we perform well at the beginning, we cannot hold on to it later, and others will feel disappointed. So this also reminds us that in the face of work, we need to find a reasonable rhythm for ourselves and not be too arrogant.
No matter how good your relationship with your colleagues is, you must have these 4 hearts, otherwise you will be the one who will suffer.
- Be cautious when it comes to money
Things involving money are always the toughest issues in the workplace. Many times if a colleague borrows money from you, if the colleague has a good character, but if you catch up with your colleague and quit your job and cut off contact directly, then you will be really dumbfounded. Or if you encounter a colleague whose character is not so good, then you say that you are not urging, and you are not urging. If you don’t say that your money is easy to lose, it may also hurt the harmony between colleagues. And that's not the trickiest thing yet.
What I'm afraid of is encountering an unreliable leader. In order to evade inspection, he will transfer his private vault to your private account, and it is nominally a job. Once you find out, you can't escape, because the evidence is too obvious, even if you shout that you don't know, no one will believe it. So one day, when you encounter a leader who is going to ask you to do this, you must not be afraid to offend the leader and firmly oppose it. If this unreliable leader wants to force you, don't be afraid, the worst result is to resign. And if you do this for him, it is definitely not a matter of resignation, but a stain on your life.
No matter how good your relationship with your colleagues is, you must have these 4 hearts, otherwise you will be the one who will suffer.
As the saying goes, "the heart of harming others cannot be without the heart of preventing others".
In the workplace, you must remember that colleagues are not friends. Even if you want to be friends with colleagues, you must pay attention to your words and deeds. It is the only magic weapon for long-term survival in the workplace.