If you want to know whether your EQ is high or not, it is very simple to judge whether you have these six points

Many times, we will consider speaking as a high emotional intelligence. In fact, in the workplace, it is indeed a person who can speak, which makes you feel that the emotional intelligence will be higher. When you are in the workplace, you need to learn to be smart, to know some things you can say, some things you can't say, and what to say when. Although the workplace is not a battlefield, there are some topics that cannot be talked about, so we must pay attention. So, what are the things that can never be said?

In general, the author believes that you should not talk about the following aspects!

1. When it comes to the topic of salary, don't participate, don't talk, don't even listen.

Most company salaries are confidential, so it's best not to discuss salary-related matters with any other co-worker on any occasion.

First, when you know something that you shouldn’t know, you may feel unbalanced. For example, if a colleague in the same position as you has a higher salary than you, you will definitely feel unbalanced, and what you bring is yours. Slacking off at work, complaining in your heart, the final most likely result is your resignation.

On the other hand, many companies will dismiss employees whose salary is not confidential, no matter where you know the salary situation, it will be dismissed.

Therefore, even if someone comes to seduce you to discuss the topic of salary, you'd better tell him directly and clearly: Sorry, the company has regulations, and I will not discuss the topic of salary with you.

Even if you have a good relationship with a colleague, be careful not to discuss and inquire about each other's salary, remember, there are no friends in the workplace.

Of course, if your company's salary is public, it's another matter, I'm fine :)

2. You should not talk about any personnel changes in the company before the company officially announces it.

Like the salary mentioned above, personnel adjustment and changes are the most sensitive topics in the company. "Wealth" and "people" are the most important resources of the company.

Therefore, even if you have achieved a high position, you must be clear that the final decision-making power of people and finances must be handed over to the boss, and try not to discuss or overstep your authority.

Even if the person who adjusts has a good relationship with you, don't announce it in advance just because of good intentions. Gao Sheng, of course people won't blame you. If it's a bad adjustment, you can't ruin the company's layout because of personal relationships.

In the workplace, the first thing you need is to protect yourself. This is the high emotional intelligence in the workplace.

3. When you are away from home and in an open place, you must not talk about business

When away from home, especially in an open environment, we try not to discuss the company's business. For example, in some public places, such as halls, transportation, etc., because you do not know whether there are competitors among the strangers around you, maybe one or two words of yours will bring huge losses to the company.

A few years ago, a colleague of mine was on a train while on a business trip. He happened to hear two salesmen from a competitor company discussing the bidding situation and obtained key information, and finally won the bid based on this.

This kind of thing is not alarmist, but it happens frequently, so any business discussion related to the company must pay attention to confidentiality.

Remember: no matter how small things are in the company, when they go outside, they may be big things!

4. During working hours, do not chat with colleagues

People are in the company, and they come to work, so in the work environment, try not to talk about the parents' shortcoming.

On the one hand, things that are not related to work are not suitable for the company to say. On the other hand, exposing yourself or knowing other people's personal and family-related matters is actually not a good thing for both parties.

When you want to get more opportunities in the workplace, you need to focus on your work. We often say that where your time is, your achievements are. Being short in parenthood will not improve your work skills, especially when you encounter many "Xianglinsao" colleagues who complain about things like this at home every day, listen. It will be annoying when it arrives.

5. Don't speak ill of colleagues on any occasion.

Whether it's face to face or behind the scenes, we don't want to comment on your colleague's character, ability, etc., especially the "character" aspect, try not to have a qualitative evaluation.

I remember one time, a friend said that he complained about a female colleague of his in front of another friend. As a result, he did not think of the sister of the female colleague and this friend, which was embarrassing.

Therefore, even if your colleague's character really has a problem, it's best not to say it out of your mouth, because people who often say that others have problems with their characters often have problems with their own characters.

Of course, it is a good thing to express some words properly and skillfully, but if you say too much, you will appear to be of low grade.

In general, the following should be avoided as much as possible:

1. If you encounter problems and difficulties in your work, talk less.

Don't make people feel like Mrs. Xianglin, everyone will naturally encounter problems and difficulties in their work, but we should not complain or shout, otherwise it will only make you seem incompetent.

When encountering problems and difficulties, we can collect as much relevant information as possible, find solutions as much as possible, and improve execution as efficiently as possible. At least you can ask your boss.

In any company, you can only show your value if you can solve problems and difficulties. The more difficulties you solve, the more likely you are to advance to the next level.

2. You have achieved some achievements in your work, so say less

At any time, when you have achieved results, you should praise your colleagues as much as possible, and don't take the credit for yourself. Your leaders actually know who is the biggest contributor. You praise yourself a lot. Now, your credit will be less.

Therefore, in the workplace, a person who is very happy will often encounter the bottleneck of promotion soon, because there will be fewer and fewer people willing to help him.

3. Say less about the hardships you have suffered at work

Remember, no one likes to cooperate with people with negative energy. In the department, everyone knows that you are suffering from hardships and burdens. If you do it, you will see it. If you talk too much, others will think that you are in make a show. Endure a little bit of hardship, be a little tired, maybe it's your leader who is arranging for you to hone, you don't say that you need to be happy, but you have to take it easy. No pain No gain.

4. Being wronged and misunderstood, no need to say more

It is inevitable to be wronged and misunderstood in the workplace. Some people like to argue, while others accept it calmly. We summarize the three-stage contestants' responses to being wronged and wronged:

Players in the early stage will choose to explode, counterattack, and lose both;

Players in the middle section will choose to remain silent and wait for the opportunity to counterattack again, and their mental strength will be haggard;

The high-level players will sincerely smile and thank those who make them wronged. On the one hand, they have no burden in their hearts, and on the other hand, they will win the support of many onlookers. Over time, there will be more and more people who are willing to take the initiative to help you.

As I said before, there are so many things that cannot be said, and there are so many things to be said as little as possible, but we are not here to be dumb in the workplace. Many things that should be said must be said. And you said yes, and you said it right.

1. You need to communicate regularly with superiors and subordinates

You need to report and communicate with your superiors on a regular basis: to understand the company's strategic adjustments to your superiors, and to report to your superiors the completion of the department's overall goals; according to your superiors' requirements, you can actively adjust the work plan to cooperate with the team to achieve the highest efficiency.

You also need to communicate with your subordinates on a regular basis, master their state of mind, and take the initiative to help them solve difficulties and ease their emotions.

To a certain extent, management is communication. More than 60% of managers' work is communication, and 50% of the problems in the work come from communication. Many problems are due to the lack of regular communication. Small problems gradually accumulated into big problems, and finally came to a point where they could not end.

2. Asking questions and providing solutions

Every company and every team has various problems. In fact, you are not the only one who can find these problems. As a manager, what you need is specific solutions after discovering these problems.

The most hated people of all managers are those who ask problems but not solutions. Everyone will find problems, but only those who can find a solution are managers who like it.

In a way, these questions are your opportunity to rise, and when you find them, it's not enough to just ask them. You need to provide a complete solution after raising a problem, and take the lead in solving the problem while completing your job.

If you do a few more of these things, you will surely get a promotion and a salary increase.

In the workplace, you have to understand the requirements of the workplace. In the fast-paced environment of the workplace, you can only improve the performance of your team if you win everyone's approval as soon as possible.

Therefore, when you enter the workplace, how to speak, what to say more, and what to say less, must conform to the rules of the workplace, and never be a knife mouth, because few people have so much patience to understand your tofu heart.

Any questions about the workplace, welcome to leave a message in the comment area, as a thirty-year workplace veteran, I will share it with you!