How to improve your emotional intelligence

Jul 19, 2022

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When we went to the cafeteria for dinner, there were five of us, and the cafeteria could seat four at a table. Classmate W was slow to move. He didn't come until the four of us had finished dinner and sat down, so he had to sit at the table next to him by himself.

I didn't think it was very good, so I got up and sat down with W, three at a table and two at a table.

But something unexpected happened. Classmate W unexpectedly sat down in my original position, and then became me sitting at a table by myself. Fortunately, a classmate saw through all this and came to sit with me again, otherwise it would be embarrassing.

However, my classmate W, hey hey hey hey laughed, and then started to eat.

How to improve your emotional intelligence

"Hey? You also like to eat Wei's secret Liangpi?"

"Yeah yeah, I love it so much, that's spicy!"

"I told you I am too, that beef rice is very fragrant!"

"Isn't it just a little vinegar mixed with noodles, I really don't know why so many people like it. 』

How to improve your emotional intelligence

"Do you prefer mom or dad?"

"like it all. 』

"There's always someone you like better, right?"

"like it all. 』

"Who do you like more?"

"like it all. 』

After so much entanglement for more than ten minutes, the young I had to answer casually: "Mom. 』

Then this auntie talked about it in a mocking way when she came to my house later.

Afterwards, my mother questioned me: "Can't you say you like them all?!"

How to improve your emotional intelligence

Introduce two young people of school age.

The two made an appointment to meet at the movie theater, and during the movie, they had preliminary communication on each other's family background and other situations (parents' work, etc.).

Girl: "My mother became very uncomfortable and insisted not to retire, so I said that there is no one else in your unit who can take care of you, so you should rest. 』

How should this question be answered?

Normal guy: "Yeah, it's time to enjoy yourself. ' (following the words)

Caring guy: "Auntie's illness is serious? Did you go to the hospital? I have a friend who may be of help in the hospital..." (creating more contact opportunities)

The dull boy: "Oh, my mother also retired. 』(Although it is difficult to pick up, it is not annoying)

However, our male protagonist: "Oh, then your mother is different from me, no one can do this job for me. 』

Feel it.

How to improve your emotional intelligence

Last week, I brought milk from home to the dormitory, took it out of my bag and put it in my closet, and was seen by my roommate G.

G: "My mother won't let me drink milk. 』

Her lower bunk W asked: "Why?"

G: "My mother heard that drinking milk causes cancer so she wouldn't let me drink it. 』

At that time, I didn't say anything but just put the milk in, and G said again:

"And I have an uncle who works in a milk factory, and he doesn't let his family drink milk, saying that milk causes cancer. 』

Then my expression -_-|||.

I told my cousin about this, and my cousin replied: "I heard that eating shit can prevent cancer, so you let her eat shit. 』

How to improve your emotional intelligence

"You're getting fat again, look at your legs. Haha, I speak straight, don't mind. 』

"You buy things in Jumei, I never buy there, there are fakes, I'm afraid of bad face. You deserve to save that few money! Hey! I am a more serious person, don't take it to heart. 』

"Why are you so close to her! I know who she is, don't you listen to me? I'm doing this for your own good, you know?"

I went to buy trousers with my classmates. I have already paid for them. My classmates also think this is good and I am trying them on.

I used to be thinner than her, and she is thinner now.

Auntie A, who sells clothes, and my classmate B.

B: "Hey, I can wear these pants too, it seems that my waist is not too thick~"

A: "You're not thick at all. You look much thinner than your classmates!"

I just bought it... what a shame.

How to improve your emotional intelligence

Both are my high school classmates. The boy is introverted and not good at words, but he likes the girl very much. The girl has a lively personality.

I don't know how the boy finally caught up with the girl.

One day they were walking, but the atmosphere was very awkward, because the boy didn't speak all the time, I guess he felt that being silently by her side was the greatest happiness.

The girl told a joke in order to ease the atmosphere, but the boy didn't talk. The girl felt very embarrassed, thinking that the boy didn't hear it, so she said it again.

The boy said seriously: "You have already said it just now. 』

So the atmosphere was even more eerie. Then, then of course they broke up.

How to improve your emotional intelligence

"Did you wear makeup?"

Presumably everyone, especially female friends, knows how annoying this sentence is when it is said in public.

But, the one I know has pushed this disgusting quality to the limit:

"Did you paint your eyebrows?"

"Have you applied foundation?"

"Did you draw eyeliner?"

"Have you put on lipstick?"

"Have you been highlighting?"

……

In front of everyone, more than 20 people, still under the condition of unfamiliarity.

"Look at the sea in our hometown, it's really beautiful, do you want to take a look?"

"Cut, it's ugly. 』

Once, my cousin-in-law was about to give birth to a second child. After her child found out what was going on with having a child, she was always depressed and opposed to this child.

When my cousin was seven months pregnant, my brother and I went to my cousin's house to play.

My brother found out about this and said to her, "My little xx is going to be an older sister. It's amazing. She has become an older sister at such a young age. Have you ever thought about how to take good care of your younger sister?"

Then I discussed with her how to take the child after birth and how to play with her.

After the discussion, my little niece was always in high spirits, and even followed the example and ran to listen to her mother's belly, and said to her mother's belly seriously: "Don't worry, my sister will take care of you in the future. ' looks like a big sister.

How to improve your emotional intelligence

Everyone was so happy to be here.

but!

Another relative of my family also came to see my cousin.

He clearly knew that my niece was a little worried, and he deliberately teased my niece: "Yo, if your mother gave birth to a sister, she doesn't want you, she doesn't like you, she likes your sister. 』

My little niece became unhappy when she heard it, and kept crying and shouting, "My mother doesn't want me anymore!" It was useless to persuade her.

She has been dying to say that she doesn't want a sister.

I still can't figure out what the psychology of these people is, what are they doing? In fact, in Doudou's view, "speaking straight" means "low emotional intelligence"; "low emotional intelligence" is too self-centered, Consider other people's feelings.

So how do you improve your emotional intelligence? Doudou's suggestion is: read more, read more newspapers, talk less and use your brain more.

How to improve your emotional intelligence

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