Workplace eloquence, 6 skills tell you how to communicate with leaders to help you get promotion and salary increase

1. Respect the leader and also respect yourself

A doctor who works in the hospital told the author: The unit has a quota for seminars and exchanges in Shanghai. According to the requirements of the conditions, only I am qualified to participate in the department. However, my department director would rather invalidate the index than allow it. I go, I am very depressed. The author asked her: "Can you give me an evaluation of your department director?" The friend kept talking: My director's professional level and ability are very poor, and it's time to retire. Anyway... The author said: "I see why the director would rather invalidate the index than let you go? You must have hurt the director's self-esteem in words or behavior, or offended your director because of your aggressive talent, So the director was deprived of the qualification to participate in the meeting." The doctor was speechless. Regardless of whether the director is right or not on this issue, from the point of view of the doctor himself, he violates the rules of the game of the relationship between superiors and subordinates. It must be understood that respecting the leader is actually respecting his position, and subordinates obeying their superiors are subordinates. The rules of the game for relationships are that among the subordinates, there are many people who are more capable than the leader, but if he is in this leadership position, you should respect him. Some leaders may not be capable enough, but they can tolerate the subordinates when they are generous. Some inappropriate practices, but if you encounter those who are not open-minded enough, you will suffer.

[Case] ​​Respecting the leadership gave me rare valuable experience and methods (Baiyun)

One day, I enjoyed the happiness that communication brought to me again. Before I was transferred, my original unit had a new president. I only heard his speech at a conference. Later, when I took the exam for the new position, I asked He took leave. I left that unit and went to say goodbye to him, "Do you have anything to explain?" The president saw that I respected him so much, and he could see that he was very happy.

One day I went to the bank where I used to work for research, and went to his office to say hello. He was surprised to see that I respected him so much. After he asked me about my current work situation, he sincerely taught me how to work Focusing on work and the method of doing it well without getting tired, it also analyzes for me what are the risk points in my work? I need to focus on grasping it.

I listened carefully to the way the president taught me, and I expressed my gratitude on the spot, saying: "The president has taught me a good way of thinking, I am very grateful, you have taught me to stand firm Go to work and see the problems at a high level.” At that time, I thought, after all, he is a senior manager, and his way of thinking and working method, which he has explored over the years, is very precious.

I'm not too familiar with people at all. It can be seen that he has a good impression of me. I think that when I was transferred, greeting him was my respect for the leader, and "respect" left him. better impression.

When I was leaving that day, I said to the new president: Hearing what he said was very beneficial! He was very happy!

The director of the business office of this bank told me: ""The new president praised me and said that I was very good at receiving people."

This incident made me deeply feel that everyone needs to be respected, and respecting the leader means respecting oneself. "Respect" has brought me unexpected gains.

Everyone has a superior, and everyone may be a leader. You respect the leader, not only by being praised by the leader, but more importantly, your success as a person is a sign of your psychological maturity. When you meet the leader's need for respect, you will also be well rewarded.

Complaining to the leader, accusing the leader behind the back, etc., will bring unfavorable results to their own development. Someone published an article with the title: "The result of offending the boss is to ask you to leave", which also reflects a phenomenon worthy of attention in the current stage of the development of the market economy.

Respect for leadership is the "rules of the game" for respecting the relationship between superiors and subordinates. It shows one's basic quality and self-discipline. Any boss who is promoted to this position must have something special. Their rich work experience and strategies for dealing with others are worth learning from, and their wonderful past and impressive performance should be respected. But every boss is not perfect. There are mistakes in leadership, and they may not be as good as you in some aspects. Don't feel condescending and arrogant because of this. That will only increase resistance to work. Respecting the leadership is "the way" The first premise principle is to effectively express dissenting opinions, and giving opinions to the boss is only a small part of the job. Trying to improve and improve as soon as possible is the ultimate goal. To get your boss to accept your point of view convincingly, you should be courteous and measured in a respectful atmosphere. However, before raising questions and opinions, be sure to come up with a detailed and convincing information plan.

Respect for leadership, including respect for others, is a kind of self-cultivation and one of the signs of psychological maturity. Respecting others does not mean belittling yourself. No matter how powerful you are, you are still a subordinate. Respecting the leader is actually respecting the leader's position. Otherwise, it will put the cart before the horse, affecting the work of the unit, and more importantly, the development of the self.

2. Doing a good job in one's own work is the basis for communication with leaders

No matter what job you are engaged in, being conscientious and doing your job well is the basis for good communication between superiors and subordinates. Some people often exaggerate and exaggerate in front of their leaders. They especially like to express themselves in front of their leaders. These can only gain the leaders' temporary trust, but they will soon feel that you are "flashy".

Be the employee that the leader likes, the employee whose development goals are integrated with the development goal of the unit or enterprise, the employee who is willing to help others, the employee who is loyal to his unit and his own cause, etc. This type of employee is the favorite of the leader. of.

3. Have a sense of active communication with leaders

To have a good subjective awareness of upward communication. Some people say that "to be a good manager, you must first be a good manager". The leadership work is often busy, and it is impossible to take care of everything. It is very important to maintain the awareness of taking the initiative to communicate with the leader. Active communication, but also effective self-expression, so that your ability and efforts are highly recognized by superiors, and only by maintaining effective communication with leaders, can you be valued by leaders and get more opportunities and space.

4. Seek effective communication methods with leaders

Subordinates should be good at researching the personality and working style of the superior leader, and finding an effective and concise communication method according to the leader's personality is the key to successful communication. Heshen is a great person in history. Regardless of his greedy side, he is worthy of being an expert in terms of communication. He knows the emperor's hobbies, needs, ways of thinking and behavior rules like the back of his hand, and he communicates with ease. Qianlong could not do without him, and it is worth thinking about by every leader. Through communication, let your leaders know what you are doing? To what extent? What difficulties are you encountering? What help do you need? Both occasions and informal occasions, working hours, and not limited to work-related communication, often emotional communication, will get unexpected results.

5. Be good at listening and comprehend the external voice of the leader

In practical work, learning to listen to improve comprehension, to be good at comprehending the voice of the leader, is of great significance to one's own development.

A supervisor of a company, when he was an employee, was approached by a boss to talk to him. The boss first praised him for his good performance and thought he could take on more important responsibilities. However, he said that the industry has been sluggish recently, and the profit has declined compared to last year. Great, and finally asked the employee if you would consider layoffs if you were the head of the department. At that time, he was stunned for a moment, and immediately said that he would not, because many colleagues were born and died together. I remember that the boss's face changed a bit at that time, and later, his colleague was promoted to the head of the department. Only later did he understand that the boss meant to lay off employees. If he did not rely on his personal feelings, but considered it from the perspective of enterprise development, then he would be promoted.

Because of the last lesson, the employee began to pay attention to the boss's language. Once the boss was going on a business trip to Europe, he asked him before that: Is your English okay to communicate with foreigners? Although he is not so confident in English, he understands The boss's subtext is: if possible, let him go to Europe together. Of course he said no problem, and sure enough, he got the opportunity to go on business this time, and he made up for the lack of English after returning home.

When I was with the boss in Italy, they visited some old customers. The boss was obviously interested in one of the customers' products, but the price was a little high, so I asked him in a consulting tone. The staff member answered that it was very good and worth buying . In fact, he knew that the boss had already made a decision to buy, just to make sure. Sure enough, the boss happily signed with the company.

Later, many times the employee listened to the boss's words, contacted his previous words, and looked at his expression, and he could know what the boss's words were. After returning to China, the employee was promoted to the position of supervisor.

6. Treat your boss as your first customer

No matter what profession we are engaged in, we must regard it as our own business, regard ourselves as a company, and be the operator of this company. The company's profit comes from creating value for customers, and the size of the profit depends on the size of the value you create for customers. As a migrant worker, the boss is your customer and the biggest customer because he is spending money on your services. From this point of view, the boss is undoubtedly your biggest customer, and you should also treat the boss as your first customer. a customer. If you treat your boss as your first customer, then you have to learn to sell yourself and find ways to add value to yourself. Treating your boss as your first customer is a positive way to view your relationship with your boss. If you follow the "customer is God" marketing theory, you won't blame the boss for being strict and critical. Remember: whoever wins the boss wins the stage.

Following the rules of the game in the relationship between superiors and subordinates is one of the important signs of a person's maturity and the reproduction of one's self-cultivation. Being an excellent subordinate can reflect a person's life value more than being an excellent superior. There is an adage that is worth comprehending deeply: Others can drive for you, but not walk for you; they can do things for you, but not feel for you. The road of life depends on oneself to walk, success depends on oneself to strive for. God helps those who help themselves, and those who succeed save themselves. In this world, only you are your own savior.