No matter how good the relationship with your colleagues is, don't do these three kinds of favors. Not only will you not be thanked, but you will also be easily scolded.
Whether it’s a colleague who needs help at work or care in life, as a leader, I prefer that my subordinates feel the warmth of interpersonal relationships rather than cold interests.
However, after being deeply hurt by a subordinate once, I realized a profound truth.
Not all the favors must be helped, otherwise, you will hurt others and yourself.
The subordinate suddenly said that his family member needed a sum of money when he was sick. I paid tens of thousands of yuan regardless of whether it was three, seven or twenty-one.
In the end, the other party took all the gambling and lost it all. My parents were all irresponsible, and they even scolded me for helping the emperor.
No matter how good the relationship with your colleagues is, don't do these three kinds of favors. Not only will you not be thanked, but you will also be easily scolded!
It's not a good job, don't help
> > There is a saying: "A gentleman's friendship is as light as water, and a villain's friendship is as sweet as sweet." >
True friends don't need help to establish friendship, but only need to appreciate each other and give guidance when the other party needs direction the most.
I once watched a TV series "Ode to Joy". My colleague, Michelle, left a lot of work after she caught a cold. Guan Juer took the initiative to help.
As a result, I never expected that the data given by Michelle was completely wrong, and as a result, she was severely criticized by the leader and took the blame for the other party.
In the workplace, some busyness is not part of the work, and you don’t need more help, otherwise it will only be harmful to yourself, and will never be beneficial to yourself.
If you don't work hard, you will be beaten by the other party, which will affect your career future.
There is no road that does not bend in the world, and there is no flower that does not thank you.
One’s experience is really limited. Instead of forcing oneself to do something that is not conducive to development, it is better to tell the other person down-to-earth that there is nothing they can do.
Do not help
There is an old Chinese saying: "Dowing rice raises kindness, and bearing rice raises revenge."
A lot of people are too busy to go beyond their own capabilities, which is tantamount to carrying a jack up the mountain, which will only drag themselves down and harm others.
I remember a time when a colleague asked me to make a PPT, which was mainly used for the leader's report. As a result, the colleague said that he would not do it, so he gave it to me to do it.
I am not responsible for the corresponding section in the unit, and there is no data. As a result, I just finished the PPT template and submitted it to the other party to fill in the data.
The other party thinks that the template is not good, so he might as well find a template to do it himself, and he shames me in public and spreads it everywhere.
There is a saying: No one is the savior who can fill the bottomless pit.
Busy beyond your ability, no matter what the reason is, if you reach out to help, it is equivalent to carrying the other person's monkey on your back, and you have to be responsible.
If something goes wrong, you are bound to be held accountable.
Therefore, not all the problems, you can bear them all, and when you can't bear them, you are going to be unlucky.
If you are busy beyond your ability, you must think twice before you act. Don't agree when you come up, and do wrong when you agree. This is tantamount to digging a bottomless pit for yourself.
Need emergency help, don't help
There is also a kind of busyness, which is urgent and demanding. Once this kind of busyness is thrown on oneself, it is tantamount to adding fuel to the fire, and it is very difficult to do.
I remember a time when my colleague was about to see a client, because he was in a hurry to go to the toilet, so he asked me to pick up the client and gave me a phone call in a hurry.
I made a call to the customer assistant and asked him where he was, but the other party said that he had entered the conference room and no one received him, so he was very unhappy.
I hurriedly said sorry, but the other party had hung up the phone.
This time, the leaders directly criticized who received the customers and why they couldn't do such a small thing well, and the customers would be furious and affect the work.
I held the phone to receive customers and couldn't say a word out of my mouth, and my salary was deducted in the end.
In the workplace, when a colleague asks you to help solve an emergency situation, don't rush to agree, and be careful to be dumb.
Profound mistakes always come with deep reflection.
Lending money to subordinates this time also gave us a revelation, and it is essential to be defensive.
For example, one of the most commonly used psychological effects of such people is "the threshold effect": when people accept a difficult request, let you accept a smaller request first.
Through the process of making small demands first, and then making bigger demands, others keep trapping themselves in it, unable to extricate themselves.