In dealing with interpersonal relationships, real masters often have 10 kinds of 'schemes' in life, do you have them?
Behind any bad relationship, you have a share of the credit. In fact, you teach how others treat you. Therefore, if you want others to dare not despise you and bully you, you must pay attention to your daily way of dealing with others and be stronger.
Of course, the strength of Weiyu Workplace is not for everyone to blindly confront hardships, but to play tricks, so that they are the real masters.
Specifically, the real masters often have the following 10 kinds of scheming, do you have them?
- Before doing anything, please keep in mind these 10-word proverbs: "Cutting people's wealth is equivalent to deceiving parents", this sentence can help you eliminate most troubles and disasters.
The essence of interpersonal communication is the exchange of interests. Before making any decision, remember to consider from multiple perspectives. If you cut off people's wealth, then others will do everything possible to teach you what it means to "sit at home, and the pot will come from the sky".
- Interest is the fig leaf of interpersonal communication. Never use interest to test anyone.
I grew up in a small county town. When there was no interest entanglement, the neighbors were very simple.
Once you come into contact with interests, you will understand what is human greed and domineering.
The world is not black and white, there is no right or wrong, it just depends on whose perspective you stand.
- What is good eloquence? If you don't know what to say, someone will do things for you. This is the real good eloquence. If you talk too much, don’t mistake yourself for thinking that you have both the right and the left, and your eloquence is good.
A person, if his mouth is like a clockwork machine and keeps talking, over time there will be no close people around him. Only a fool is obsessed with raising the bar and vying for the winner or loser.
- People do not succeed by pure effort, but hard work is essential. People succeed by integrating resources (personal connections, relationships, capital, equipment, technology...) to maximize their value.
It has to be said that luck is very important. But don't give up your efforts, because opportunities are only reserved for those who are prepared.
- People often don't like to listen to the truth, because it is harsh. Lies are rampant in the world, and the truth cannot be accommodated. In most cases, even if you want to tell the truth, you need to think twice!
Really have to say, also try to "process" the truth, for example:
Be careful when going out;
Be careful of vehicles when going out;
Be careful not to get hit by a car.
The third sentence is the unvarnished truth, the last thing people want to hear, and the easiest to offend others.
- If you want to get help from others, you must first show the benefits and learn to share profits. Who is willing to do things that are not rewarded?
When you make money, you only thank the person who helped you, or invite him to a light meal, and the other person will only think that you are playing him as a fool. How many people will be short of this meal these days?
People are more willing to admit scarce resources, such as strength, talent, money, intelligence, etc., but are reluctant to admit that the ability to allocate resources (very likely to happen) is also valuable.
Information is layered, and only a few people have access to quality information. Everything that everyone knows is not called information, it is called common sense.
Poor information is ubiquitous, and it is also a bargaining chip for money. "Fake" information creates mediocre people and leeks in batches, and "Tianji" creates a few strong men and leeks.
Therefore, Weiyu Workplace has always encouraged everyone to cultivate their ability to think independently, not to follow others' opinions, and to have their own unique opinions.
- No matter how great people are, they are one-sided. Everyone has prejudice, which is due to human nature. Human nature's pursuit of profit determines that when people think about problems, they always consider their own position first to judge right and wrong.
The truth of people's mouth is also based on their own position as a starting point. When you understand this, you can understand that "right things are not right people" and "helping people and not helping relatives" are actually the product of weighing the pros and cons.
The biggest truth is to first learn to satisfy human nature and the interests of others, so that the other party's position will be biased towards you. If you want to take it, you must give it first. Only by respecting human nature can you take advantage of human nature.
- Those whose wealth and status are higher than yours always have their advantages. Don't look down on people just because of the gossip around you.
For example, you have spent a lot of effort and money to accomplish something that others may solve with just one phone call. This is the strength and gap.
Rather than self-anesthesia and self-motivation, it is better to grit your teeth and insist on improving yourself. Because, this world has always been the law of the jungle, and the strong eat the weak.
The way for ordinary people to counterattack is nothing more than two points: one is ability, and the other is loyalty. Ability is the stepping stone, and insight into human nature is soft power.
At the same time, I have to admit that "something will happen" is a high-value ability! Only by seeing through and respecting human nature can we take advantage of human nature.